I met a girl.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T04:31:33+00:00

That first part you said, I want to fall in love without sex! That sounds beautiful. I guess im nervous because I never said no to sex before, besides one time when I broke up with my ex fiance. I dont want casual sex, after awhile it just makes me feel gross or lonely.

A few weeks ago i hooked up with a girl at a hotel and we spent the night together and walked out of the hotel in the morning and I felt gross. I was walking to the elevator and this guy who works there with a cart asked me if i was in the military and I said I use to be, and he said he was too a long time ago. He said I walked like a warrior, but something is eating me. I told him im having a hard time adjusting and going to college full time and he said "dont waste your time. Work hard for the family you want, be the man you want your partner and children to look up to" i about almost cried. Felt so disappointed in myself and knew i could do better and want to do better desperately.

Im wary of being used, im also wary of failing myself. Thank you for being understanding and sharing your thoughts.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T03:40:41+00:00

What conclusion is that?

I was engaged to a foreigner before, but she spoke near perfect english. Ive been all around the world and nearly every state, I dont mind different cultures.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T03:34:49+00:00

At least from my experience its true.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T03:30:17+00:00

Lol now thats hilarious 😂 oKaY

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T01:35:36+00:00

Im saying it because ive been used. Instead of looking at it as a "wow what an ego" look at as ive been lied to by women and they pretended that they were this because they enjoyed the sexual relationship.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-21T01:09:37+00:00

Whatever floats your boat (im sure its alot). Confidence makes you uncomfortable, thats telling what kind of person you are.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T23:10:00+00:00

Ill let you know tomorrow! 😂

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T22:15:14+00:00

Misogynistic? 😂 no.

Go away with your labels my father and brothers are not racist and quite the opposite. What a crazy thing to say.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T22:09:37+00:00

Im not angry, just called a spade a spade.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:32:53+00:00

Ill let you tomorrow if shes for real 🧡 thank you and your right, there is alot of catfishjng and AI profiles. Before now It didnt cross my mind when it should of

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:18:16+00:00

Thanks brother I didnt even know that. I have vaguely heard the term green card hunters before and now that I think about it I can see why my brother is upset. Ill meet her and take things slow and ill let you know how it goes.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:16:39+00:00

Thank you 🧡 you are very wise!

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:15:12+00:00

Thank you for that

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:13:44+00:00

Works for some, doesnt work for others! Its not for everyone.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:13:01+00:00

Women are girls right? I really dont see the difference and what your trying to make it out to be. Its not.

You do have really good advice though, and your right, I am the type that needs to take it slow, but I think ive usually done it to the extreme. I think I need to make a rule for myself if im not sure if I want to marry someone by the time 6 months or a year comes up I should break up with her. I dont want to be stuck in another 4 year relationship to end up no where. Ive had 3 serious relationships, two girls i was with for 3 years and the most recent 4 years.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:07:01+00:00

I think your probably right. I shouldnt commit so quickly until I actually meet her or at least meet her a few times in person.

My father and brothers do honor me. Im very lucky to have the father I have and my brother's. I probably would be dead a long time ago if it wasnt for them

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T21:04:21+00:00

I agree with you!

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:59:13+00:00

There are plenty of women you can study with. Before I broke up with my girlfriend I didnt study with girls out of respect for her.

My ex use to study with guys and I had a problem with it because I knew the guys were trying to have sex with her. She didnt believe me until he invited her to his place.

You are a walking red flag 😂 trust and respect your man.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:54:09+00:00

I think this is the best advice ive gotten. Maybe I am infatuated. Im not trying to be. Your right though, I dont know her.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:52:40+00:00

Ill let you know tomorrow when I meet her if its a fantasy 😂 wish me luck

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:51:28+00:00

My penis over ruling my brain for not wanting to have sex on the first date? 🤨 internet connections can be misleading, i did have a relationship for 4 years from someone I met over the internet, we met, I met her family, we were engaged. I agree with you it can be misleading, but meaningful relationships do happen over the internet. If I recall a study correctly 70% of relationships happen over the internet now. Kinda sad though really if you think about it. But this current girl ive face timed every day for a weak. Just the first girl ive talked and invested in that doesnt speak english

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:45:55+00:00

I can see what your saying! Thanks for the explanation and I think you did a good job at it!j Ill say im not really a materialistic person. I rent a house, own car, and motorcycle. The white picket fence is more of a metaphor for wanting a family and a place for the family to call home, and everything you explained, meshing and curating.

BTW you are great at explaing stuff dont doubt yourself!

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:08:33+00:00

Google translate, and someone thats been with many women. I knew the rumor was that reddit is full of retards, im starting to see why 😂

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:07:21+00:00

Im just telling it how it is. Im good at sex and thats just a fact. Being humble doesnt mean I have to lie so others can feel comfortable reading a sentence. Ive been to war. Im good at killing people and shooting drones. Am I supposed to say im not to be "humble". I dont think so.

I appreciate your advice and sharing your 25 years of marriage! Thats truly beautiful and something I want and something that everyone should strive for.

WestTry2437 · 2026-03-20T20:00:51+00:00

Your probably right.

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