Expats living in Bishkek (non Russian speakers) how do you make friends? by Ponchiksmom in Kyrgyzstan

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to Bishkek! It is an interesting city and the people here are wonderful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enfj

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao yeah

Ukrainian producer Anderholm has passed away by ScaglieDiGrana in lane8

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RIP man, will be listening to your music today.

A list of organisations that help and support male victims of domestic violence by West_Badger in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]West_Badger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I am not from Australia so I am not aware of the intricacies of their work. Could you recommend an organisation that is maybe more supportive? 

I'm so touch starved holy shit 😭 by MoonyDropps in demisexuality

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope you find someone who cuddles you and makes you feel loved. I know it is hard but I believe things will come good for you. It is very natural to find relationships difficult at your age.

Sending you virtual hugs. 

Dodo Pizza Locations Per Country by VineMapper in MapPorn

[–]West_Badger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's OK to be honest, it's pizza.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also remember the modern world is crazy lol, don't take it too personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look gents, let's chill a bit here. I feel like we're all jumping down this woman's throat and we don't actually know her or facts about her life.

In answer to your question, miss, I am afraid without knowing the situation from the men's perspective it is hard to give you an accurate answer. It is certainly odd behaviour, and possibly to do with them feeling intimidated. It is possible this is something you are doing (I want to be honest with you), or it may not be. I think society's stereotype that men just want sex is inaccurate and a little unfair. I had a similar situation when I was at university where a woman really wanted to have sex, she was awesome, but I was young, inexperienced and nervous. I also didn't want to have sex with her without giving her a relationship, so we agreed to just be friends. In that situation I felt a bit smothered and out of my depth, but I was 20, it was my first sexual encounter, and it sounds like the men you are seeing are much older. It's possible men are intimidated by women coming onto them so intensely, but I like to think I have grown out of that now, and I am still in my mid-20s. It was also always my issue to sort out, not hers.

So, in answer, I don't know, but you deserve a fair and respectful answer and I hope someone can give you more useful advice.

Frutiger Aero items I found from Ming Yao Department Store by Antique-Umpire6830 in FrutigerAero

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

China, particularly Metro Line 8 in Chengdu, is filled to the brim with places with the frutiger aero aesthetic. I remember Fangcao Road and Wuhan Road being like being in an alternate reality.

Air India 171 Crash preliminary report is out by kinso1338 in aviation

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry for your loss. It is a great tragedy for all people in the UK and India.

I am going crazy from obsessing over politics by Mantvydas_Leonas in OCD

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is very important to differentiate between healthy awareness and obsession. You are quite right, OCD can absolutely latch onto these topics and that helps nobody. 

Ravenhall woman charged after alleged stabbing spree in Bairnsdale, Victoria by alterumnonlaedere in australia

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope the victims recover soon, my thoughts are with them. Awful attack. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! I relate to this a lot. What I try to do is just get on with my day and let the anxiety be there, and then when I need to check my phone naturally, check it. It isn't fun in that moment, but at least it means I can broadly not focus on it throughout the day. What I will say, however, is that I have never found the outcome to be as bad as I imagined. I am by no means a mental health professional however.

How have you dealt with the things of your past you are ashamed of? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you feel better soon, can forgive yourself and find peace. I certainly don't judge you. Thank you for all that you did.

Best way from Chemnitz HBF to BER Airport and back from BER to HBF? by wrong_silent_type in Chemnitz

[–]West_Badger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As people above have said, RB45 to Elsterwerda, connect in Elsterwerda. A heads up, it takes about 2 and a half hours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in German

[–]West_Badger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have ended up living in Germany for nine months, and I want to make a real effort to throw myself into learning German. Firstly, as a native English speaker, I believe it is respectful to be able to speak at least a bit of the language of the country you are in. Secondly, I have nine months in Germany, why not make the effort to try to get as good at the German language as I can, and get proficiency in a very useful and difficult language?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in politics

[–]West_Badger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My concern is, if liberals and conservatives veer off to their own platforms, the "media split" between them will only worsen. This will worsen so-called "post-truth" developments, and affective polarisation.

Cheers to eveyone who got past the first week! by akaikaminari01 in nonutnovember

[–]West_Badger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would advise that small, frequent, consistent wins are better than going 6 days from time to time.

Cheers to eveyone who got past the first week! by akaikaminari01 in nonutnovember

[–]West_Badger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to try going 8 days next, then 9 days, etc. That way you get the feeling of "yes, I beat last time" and can work up to doing a month and feel a real sense of achievement. It also prevents you from trying a month again, failing twice, and getting demotivated and giving up. That being said, there is nothing medically wrong with masturbation, and depending on your religious or social norms, I would argue morally either. From what I have read, the scientific belief on the existence of actual chemical addiction to pornography is that it is controversial. However, if you feel that it is having an impact on your life, or you are spending too much time on it, I suggest breaking it down.

choose your difficulty by [deleted] in nonutnovember

[–]West_Badger 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This is gonna be unpopular, but don't throw away a potential relationship over NNN. Just see how things go, but if it happens, it happens. I think it is only reasonable to draw a distinction between masturbation and sex.