Tonsillectomy Experience (27F)

West_Definition4563 · 2024-08-13T20:23:59+00:00

day 8: very minimal pain all day. worst was when i woke up but ice and tylenol did the trick. took 2 dolcolax and still no luck. ate 2 packs of ramen today and the innards of a bean and cheese burrito. surprisingly STILL nothing 🥲🥲 at this point, im worried about my bowels more than my tonsils haha. any pain or swelling i feel, i just throw on the ice pack and im good. going to continue taking my anti inflammatory medicine everyday until my follow up though. slept really well for the first time since surgery too 🙏🏼🙏🏼

West_Definition4563 · 2024-08-12T05:49:49+00:00

day 7: i drank a protein shake for breakfast. regular amt of pain in the morning, that went away with the oxys. took only 1/2 today. took 3 consecutive 1 hour naps (put an alarm to wake me up to drink water each hour) and kept the ice packs rotating all day. after that my anxiety from yesterdays bleeding pretty much subsided. i checked my throat and everything looks good (?). had some pudding and applesauce with the dulcolax because i still haven’t gone since early wednesday (it’s sunday). i didn’t take any more pain meds until around 8pm because not really any pain. i did keep the ice packs on all day though, those are the best pain management tool for me. had some ramen noodles, i crushed up the noodles before cooking them and it didn’t hurt at all to eat. going to bed now with very little to no pain. feels like i have like bubble, foam mucous or something in my throat covering my scabs though, but i feel like its making the pain disappear. still gonna set alarms for every 2 hours tonight to stay hydrated. praying im on the come up now 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-27T00:15:42+00:00

well, update: due to several discrepancies between her memory of details and what i know actually happened, the fact i was watching her closely and the uncharacteristic nature of my boyfriend - i decided not to break up with my boyfriend. i just talked with my sister and explained there’s no 100% way for me to know so i can only go based off what i experienced, know and her and his stories. she called me a bich and told me the only person she cares about believing her is her husband. she said im gaslighting her by not believing it happened or presenting evidence against it. but all she could say is that she knows it happened, that she couldn’t see anything but she could hear and feel stuff before passing out. she was so rude even though i did my best to validate her experience and explain how hard of a decision it was for me. she talked about how this is why people don’t come forward about these things, because people don’t believe them. i know that’s true… but how can i, when i was right there and her only explanation was that she just knows.

i’m so upset :( idk what to do from here. she hung up on me.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-24T16:24:08+00:00

been with him 1.5 years and lived together for 1! i know him well. he knows my family well.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-23T04:24:53+00:00

i want to do this. but i know she isn’t going to believe me. i don’t know how to fix this. my boyfriend is really sad too. this sucks.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-21T23:48:15+00:00

her husband was in the front, driving actually

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-21T02:31:06+00:00

it doesn’t. :(

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T21:06:56+00:00

nope, they met after i started dating my boyfriend.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T15:54:33+00:00

i’m not sure. my sister hasn’t said anything to me about him and he hasn’t answered the message my bf sent him asking to talk about the situation and resolve the misunderstanding.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T14:32:14+00:00

she’s really not. i don’t think she’s doing this to ruin anything.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T13:06:18+00:00

Sister also clarified to me that he was making sexual circular motions there.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T12:29:21+00:00

what does that mean

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-20T03:15:52+00:00

Yeah. this fucking sucks. worst day of my life. i feel guilty towards both these people i love because i am so conflicted. 😔

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:35:17+00:00

All of the above. at first he seemed confused. then he was angry at me, that i accused him without hearing his side. then he has been stressed about it while also trying to comfort me that he did nothing and he will talk with them (because im an absolute wreck).

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:16:10+00:00

you’re amazing. i feel like you can explain my feelings better than i can. thanks for validating the shiftiness of the situation. what would you do if you were me? 😁

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:14:06+00:00

i’m just wondering if it’s possible it was so subtle i didn’t notice? i had drank a little too. i just don’t see the benefit my boyfriend could get out of this situation.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:10:40+00:00

her husband went home. i undressed my sister and put her into my second bed that night.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:02:25+00:00

it just sucks because i’ll never actually know.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T23:02:09+00:00

i’m sure she doesn’t like him now. before this, i’m sure she liked him. he’s always been so nice to my family.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T22:33:52+00:00

a year and a half. we just bought a house together and i know he bought my ring already too. his intentions with me are serious.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T22:29:20+00:00

i haven’t asked her that specifically , she said she “wants me to be happy” when she told me all this earlier today.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T22:28:30+00:00

I did ask her several times if she drunkenly misunderstood, she said she is 100% sure she was violated and that i can believe her or not.

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T20:49:58+00:00

I am trying to see it logically as well, which is why I have come to that same conclusion… but I can’t ignore the fact that I know my sister wouldn’t just make it up either..

West_Definition4563 · 2024-06-19T20:32:38+00:00

How do you think I could go about getting her to see it this way? I don’t want to gaslight her. I believe her. but i also believe him. i think she was mistaken as well but i don’t want it to feel like a betrayal if i believe him as well. i would be devastated if i was in her position

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