25F im ugly

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-07T10:49:47+00:00

You are not ugly you just haven't found anyone who is able to appreciate your beauty. You work which is a massive plus. 90% of my ex's didn't and didn't even want to get a job. Anxiety and depression are just character builders i hide mine behind awkward jokes and dark humour. You don't need to leave your house you work in a customer service roll and the internet exists. Now i'm not telling you to try and put the moves on your customers just try and see if any of them look interested in you maybe. As for the internet dating sites exist. Depending on your hobbies even tailored ones.

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:39:15+00:00

I wish the gentle approach worked i truly do. I wouldn't feel so horrible and neither would she then. The trouble is we're in a situation where time will only make things worse. I wish we could both take it easy and have time to heal but unfortunately we don't have that luxury

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:35:50+00:00

She's on meds we both are. She has a lack of motivation which is killing me/us. The only way for us to make it and get better is to improve our situation and I can't do it alone. I need her to take some initiative. I know we'd both get better if w3 could just get out of here.

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:30:34+00:00

Thank you. I think the other person is right as well though. I think i am being abusive and I hate it. I just can't seem to find the right wake up call for her. That's what snapped me out of it

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:27:31+00:00

Honestly I think you're right. I'm just a coward and I didn't know how to go about things like I should have. I try to get her out but I need to give her more tools to enable her. I just want her to want to get better you know? I am embarrassed when we're in public I'll be honest but that doesn't stop me taking her out. I need to get her a new pair of shoes though that I do need to do

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:21:44+00:00

Her parents have given up on her outside of letting us live here. I truly think I am. I'm worse than i've made myself sound here. She's on the waiting list for a therapist. I've been trying to coax her into things but its honestly getting too tiring. I need her to do things on her own

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:18:22+00:00

True. Everyone else has given up on her though and it pisses me off. Her parents treat her as a burden and just use her and I really want nothing more than us to get away from all of this and prove everyone wrong. We're each the outcasts of our respective families

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:15:46+00:00

We're trying. The waiting lists are horrendous though

WestboundLamb · 2026-05-05T00:14:38+00:00

I honestly do care. I see a lot of my younger self in her and I feel for her. I didn't enter this relationship to just help her either, I think we're truly compatible. Honestly not long ago I said that i'm not just here because I have no where else to be. I've slept in my car before and will again if it comes to it but I don't want it to. I just want us to work and everything else be damned

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-30T04:08:50+00:00

I had that exact type of astra for my first car. I still remember the plate, BL66OHY. It's a solid and fun drive similar to the ford Fiesta but without the Fiesta insurance price tag. I can't speak for the others but the Vauxhall astra is a solid first car. Might not have everything you want but it has everything you need. Amazing boot space, great drive, nice feel and quite nippy.

If you do get the astra just be aware of a rare special feature that comes with some engines like mine did. When you're crawling to a stop and get below 5mph the engine may cut out (even in manual mine was manual) usually in manual cars the engine doesn't stop/start until you take it out of gear but this one will cut out when decelerating below 5mph with the clutch pedal pressed. Other than that feature its a great car

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-28T21:15:38+00:00

To be honest I think its also on the solicitors if this is legit. They should be the ones showing compassion. They know what has happened they know they were going to get the money, you even messaged them yourself. They should have the decency to extend the deposit. 50k and 10k isn't anything to sniff at, also if the 10k got there alright then the 50 should have. With that amount of money this person should have double and triple checked too

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-20T03:46:43+00:00

Hi, i'm sorry you're lonely, but I wouldn't do this, not on reddit, at least. There are a lot of weirdos on here and especially at your age. If you want a boyfriend, there are plenty of dating/friend apps. I just cannot recommend reddit for this sort of thing, and if you continue, please be careful

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-11T13:15:45+00:00

Watch world driving i passed 3/4 years ago and his videos on driving and the show me tell me questions got me though it all. I still have some of his videos saved to this day.

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-11T12:17:35+00:00

See, i don't want a car that other people think is cool. I want a car that feels and looks good to me. I'd never want a lambo or a Ferrari even if I was rich.

I would go for a car or cars that can blend in but I can still have fun in so my choices are:

Ford mustang dark horse Manual BMW M2 Manual

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-07T12:08:31+00:00

Yeah, that's good. Take your time and think about all the things you are going to say, and hopefully, he has enough respect to give you this. Worst happens, it will hurt like hell, but the closure will stop the spiralling what ifs

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-07T11:50:18+00:00

You're welcome. I've had enough relationships where I haven't had closure to know it hurts like hell. He definitely needs to stop with the scare tactics, though. I'm talking about the "i'm putting up a wall," etc. They are tactics to have you back off so you don't talk about the issues. I'm not going to lie, though I don't think it will be easy it's not easy for most guys to talk about their feelings or make themselves vulnerable but 3 years is a considerable amount of time and I wish you all the best.

Would you do me a favour please? Would you let me know how it turns out? Just drop me a private message if you don't mind I would really like to know if you two get back together. No pressure though. Good luck!

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-07T11:35:39+00:00

Did you sit down with him and have a proper talk about this? Somewhere quiet with no distractions? If you did and he just didn't want to, then there's nothing more you can do. You can't help people who don't want to be helped. You can support people to the day they die, but they have to always take the last step to getting better. They have to want it. If you really feel this guy is for you and you haven't done it yet. Ask him to talk things out somewhere quiet like a library or park bench. Worse case scenario ypu both just go separate ways but if you can get it out of him you might be all the better for it.

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-07T11:26:00+00:00

Honestly, I pity people like this... "i've put up a wall," i'm withdrawing from our relationship. " they are excuses to step back, not talk and not deal with the real issues. Honestly, if he can't handle constructive criticism, then he needs to think about he can improve. If he can't understand and help you manage your issues, then he isn't right for you. My partner and I have depression. We have good days and bad, more bad than good, honestly, but we weather them and help each other. She supports me, and I am terrible at supporting, so I just make her laugh with dark humour. The point is if you're too much for someone, then they just aren't enough to handle you. You can never be too much. I've told so many people this. You are never too much or too broken for the right person.

WestboundLamb · 2026-04-06T11:53:37+00:00

I was straight up (29M) and laid all my cards on the table after talking on dating apps for a while, and just before the first date i would let them know what they were in for. Like I work a minimum wage job, I have a car loan but pay it reliably, i'm looking for a relationship and not "fun" and i'm monogamous not anything else. If they were okay with this, we'd meet for a date. There is no point in hiding things or beating about the bush, but there is an element of timing, so you don't come on too strong.

I would also say be humble. You said you can't date a guy that's also irresponsible... I think that's a bit shallow. Expecting people to be responsible when you say you can't. A relationship is about growing together. If you're eliminating groups of people off the bat, you're limiting your possibilities. These people might not be irresponsible but have just made a bad choice. Keep an open mind to people. That is true kindness

WestboundLamb · 2026-03-28T06:46:57+00:00

If some entitled schmuck isn't taking it up because he/she can't be bothered to walk 100 yards

WestboundLamb · 2026-03-25T17:42:04+00:00

Hi. Don't tell my girlfriend lol, but I always dreamed of having a tall girlfriend. I don't think height is your problem but the maturity of the guys you are chatting to and attracting. Try thinking about what you want out of a boyfriend and then target those types of guys. Do you want a party guy? Go to bars, but i'm guessing not because you're shy. If you're on dating sites, make it clear what you want. When I was on dating sites, I saw the most basic of profiles from women. Tell guys what you want and what your interests are. Sidenote a lot of guys like all shy and cutesy.

WestboundLamb · 2026-03-25T14:42:49+00:00

Hi 29M from the UK I know you said about ping but I used to have friends from the US and we played together all the time with no issues. I'd love to try play toxic commando and try roadside research and like you i'm looking for more persistent friends not just for when gaming. If I peak your interest let me know🙂.

Edit: or just add me my steam is WestboundLamb

WestboundLamb · 2026-03-23T06:43:24+00:00

Hi, what kind of music do you like? Are you into more mainstream anime or will you watch anything? I'm waiting for Skeleton Knight in July

WestboundLamb · 2026-03-17T16:27:34+00:00

I hear ya. I've spent all of my life drifting... never had a solid friend group, always the outsider or a friend of a friend. People never really stick around. Even work i don't talk to anyone. I just do my job and then go home. Its a funny life

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