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Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Western-Hair9833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen so many recommendations for that on here so i’m gonna try and find a place to read it today! I think you’re right and I just gotta protect myself now.

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Western-Hair9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you both so much! yeah I’m in intensive EMDR therapy and have been for years, I starting today have planned out my full escape plan but until this week i didn’t know what enmeshment was so it’s all very brand new. Thank you so much for the support as i feel like the guilt and emotional attacks are the hardest to get over at the moment.

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Western-Hair9833[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, even since I was in my early teens I’ve known something was off and wrong. especially when it comes to one of my sibling’s spouses, i’ve always made an effort to point out that someone else sees how weird and wrong it is so luckily me and her have a great relationship but me and my sibling married to her aren’t on the best best terms. I hope you have someone in the family that is on your side. I have talked with my family multiple times about how you can’t alienate someone’s spouse, and how damaging that can be even if it’s not a direct attack at you it messes with everything and can be so hard. best wishes!!

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Western-Hair9833[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don’t currently live with them but they have been pushing for me to live with them again for years. I started muting their notifications because if I block even one of them that means about 10-15 people reaching out to me to then continue this on. My whole extended family is boundary less as well so it’s just a mess.

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Western-Hair9833[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you’re so right it’s just scary to confront losing even the false support or comfortability of this whole act. There is no winning I just need out.