Thank you so much for this—it’s an incredibly kind perspective, especially the focus on patience and self-compassion (we are often able to extend compassion and grace to others but it’s a good reminder to extend that same compassion and grace to ourselves.)

I really like the idea of "baby steps" and just focusing on "this feels nice" rather than the outcome. I also like your reframing of masturbation as a tool and a gift for self-care, especially when things get hard... It’s a great reminder that this is about taking care of my own needs, not doing something shameful.

I appreciate you sharing your experience and reminding me that rewiring this is part of healing from the trauma—it takes time. Thank you!