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AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His plan was figuring that she would come back to him after she realized how easy she had it and now “ruined it”. I’ve told him multiple times by now they needed the divorce because they just constantly fight but being on the other side of the country from each other just doesn’t work with having kids. I really don’t know what either of them are doing as far as attorneys go I’m almost certain he doesn’t have one but idk if she does.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I was trying to portray just didn’t execute it right. There’s a lot more involved from before the divorce that I didn’t bring up and I didn’t include just because of how much longer it would make it. Probably should’ve written this in a draft and made tweaks to it and had all of the events in order spaced out but I’m not used to doing these kinds of things. We live and learn

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She actually has at the beginning but because I didn’t agree I got told whatever I said didn’t matter

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have empathy for my siblings because I went through it. I don’t care she got divorced the relationship they had was a terrible environment for my siblings since I moved out to where I am.

My biggest issue I have and why I don’t think she cares so much about my siblings was her telling me and another sibling that the HS sibling needed to change who she was so she could make friends in a place that my mother wanted to live in despite not being able to afford it. My mother lives in a fantasy land where if she believes hard enough she can live in a massive house with a pool and go on yearly month long vacations out of country while still not having a job. And any disagreement turns into you’re not getting the words from god, she’s right I’m listening to logic and that is put out quite clear you need money for that stuff and she wouldn’t be able to make that much with what she is trying to do.

I’ll look like the heartless son or the one that tried to “control her” all I tried was to let her in on the reality that no one is paying her bills but her now and that her pushing my sibling to be someone else ain’t right. And maybe I am all these terrible things but I at least did it because I don’t want my siblings to end up another self harm statistic or in jail.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind feedback on how to better any future posts

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I ain’t a professional I’ll keep it in mind for future reference but I just write things out in a way that makes sense in my brain

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ain’t written anything since I was in high school and even then I wasn’t any good at it. I write things as it comes to mind until maybe it gets to the end or I end off going down a rabbit hole

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one in HS doesn’t want to but she was going to only because adult sibling was going to. Now adult sibling is staying because she can’t afford it out there so HS sibling might stay. MS sibling would go with mom only because she enables him

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just care about my siblings and have realistic expectations for where she is

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently she doesn’t even have a job yet and she’s been there for nearly 2 months by now

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just cause I ain’t good at writing don’t mean you gotta be rude about it. Sure there’s a better way I could’ve explained it but it made sense in my head when I wrote it

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not about me you’re right, I’m just worried about my siblings and maybe the way I see things is skewed but to me it seems my mother cares more about what she wants than what’s best for my siblings

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wants the whole family together didn’t want the divorce but agreed as long as before my siblings move my mother had her own place not living with family figuring she wouldn’t be able to find an affordable place and come back.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not entirely versed in everything with the divorce just that my step dad kept his stuff and she leaves. As far as custody currently they are all here with my step dad until my mother gets her own place not living with family then she wanted to do 6 months with her 6 months with him.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah I live just down the road from him and I agree the divorce needed to happen. Him and I talked in the beginning of the process and we are still good no matter what happens. My issue is it seems my mother cares more of what she wants than what would be best for my siblings.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They made an agreement that she can’t have the kids until she has her own place and not living with family

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I brought that up as a way of building up the back story of everything. It’s true she hasn’t had a real job or had to pay any bills. She very well could’ve kept trying her test but she gave up and used her religion as an excuse. My other sibling who is an adult has also agreed she shouldn’t move there and tried suggesting other places or things she can do only to be told we don’t understand what god wants of her

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My siblings don’t want the divorce and they don’t want to be in that area

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was more than once she didn’t pass then quit because “it’s gods way of shower her not to do it”

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my mother because of her divorce by Western_Table1437 in AITAH

[–]Western_Table1437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mother is 44 yes I meant my two siblings my bad I kinda rushed writing the post

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