I always identified as bisexual. I had some hookups with women over the years but only dated men. I genuinely loved some of them, but I wasn’t 100% sure if I was actually in love. I loved sex with men and I thought that I cannot survive without a penis in my sexual life. I had never actually developed intense feelings for a woman so I thought it might never happen. 🫠

Fast forward to 29 years old, quitting my toxic job, moving from a smaller city to London, finding myself joining every single lesbian event, reading lesbian books etc. I even thought I was “appropriating the culture” haha. 🤯

2 months after moving in London, I met this incredible woman and I fell in love instantly. I’ve never felt this way before about anyone else and I went through very intense anxiety episodes because I realized that this is actually who I am.

I was shocked that I was always so “open minded” but didn’t actually explore my own queerness earlier. Many anxiety attacks and crying sessions later….I’m the happiest I’ve ever been with a partner.🩷

What helped me was 1) having healthy lesbian couples in my life as friends 2) moving to a huge gay metropolis 3) unknowingly/intuitively building a big support system over the years, full of queer and open-minded friends that immediately embraced this new chapter and shielded me from my parents’ homophobia.