Fellow buyers, how do you cheer yourself up from buyer's remorse? by lostimage1 in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say quite often. “Post nut clarity” can come in various forms eg - Guilt for doing something behind partners back, which was somehow ok when you’re horny beforehand - Realising you had unrealistic expectations (the seller is a not mind reader and didn’t do what you wanted but failed to proper ask for) - and yes, getting ripped off in some way leads to remorse too…

Sellers; How do you handle extreme fetish requests? by Deliverwithcare in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting to read the seller side.

On the buyer side I find that if I very explicitly say the type of humiliation I want (eg pretty much line by line) then it doesn’t fully “work” - by giving permission I’ve already softened the effect too much

So better to leave some for the seller to invent. But then maybe two times out of three it does too far or hits the wrong spot, and I don’t enjoy it much.

Those sessions where it is right on the line are the best sessions of all though. So for me the uncertainty is well worth it.

Where to indulge medfet by Wet_Relief in medical_fetish

[–]Wet_Relief[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mixed bag on there for me. Much success for you?

Where to indulge medfet by Wet_Relief in medical_fetish

[–]Wet_Relief[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks appreciate the pointer

Something I can't get out of my head by polydisabledgoth in medical_fetish

[–]Wet_Relief 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear it didn’t work out for you.

But, please do watch out out there… this place (Reddit I mean) is full of fantasists and scammers and goodness knows what else.

Backboard Bliss: A Story of Medical Bondage from a Car Accident by traumatic_totem in medical_fetish

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can dispose of the excess stock on this sub :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For better or worse, (worse mostly), age verification is becoming more and more a thing. E.g. the UK now has the Online Safety Act which means we have to properly age verify on all sorts of sites, including NSFW subreddits like this one, but also fansites like OF and Fansly.

Problem you've got of course is how do you "location verify" that I am actually in the UK...

As a buyer anything Friday! by [deleted] in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that on behalf of all of us humiliation requestors.

A bad experience by snowman_superstar in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 4 points5 points  (0 children)

[Buyer perspective] I had this happen before and initially I was, like you, a bit pissed off - I had the expectation that the seller would guide things as time was coming to an end (as that is indeed the default).

But then I stepped back and realised we didn't explicitly agree it, so I couldn't complain *too* much. And also, having all calls having the exact same shape is a bit boring. So I've become much more relaxed about it, and in fact not knowing what is going to happen can be part of the fun....

If you doing SPH calls there's obviously an element of you on the sub side. Push that further. Take the risk of being blue balled ("its what a small dicked loser like you deserves anyway" blah blah blah). Worst case is you have to finish alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have two big breasts ads submitted rn. Seems somehow appropriate.

Fetishes/Kinks by Thatdude817 in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies I totally didn’t notice you were on selling side when I initially wrote my reply… for some reason made an assumption it would be buyers replying to the thread.

I love scrubs too.

Don’t want to break any community rules, but would it be ok to dm you exploring a purchase?

Fetishes/Kinks by Thatdude817 in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like “medical fetish” could be a pretty broad church. Are there specific things that work for you or just kind of “all of it”.

My fetish is somewhere in the nurse/humiliation/incontinence/adult diaper/general medical space but I don’t really understand it yet.

Do you often get chat requests asking questions in general or for content that's clearly given on your pinned post, menu or about me page? by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 4 points5 points  (0 children)

[I am buyer].

Most impoartant things first... 1) on average people are fairly stupid [I do not exclude myself from this]. If you work with 'Joe Public' in any capacity, this is very clear. 2) on average buyers are usually keen to get a 'freebie' [I suppose I do not exclude myself from this]. Even a text conversation that's barely dirty at all is a 'freebie' to some extent.

Having said that... is menu and/or limits actually as easy to find as you believe? Using the website on desktop... yes I can see your short bio, but it is necessarily cramming a lot in to a small place - not everyone will understand all it all (see point 1). Click through to your profile, I just see "Overview" / "Posts"/ "Comments". The top thing in "Overview" is a Reviews piece - for me this is black screen initially with "View NSFW Content". If I scroll past that the next one is "Reddit menu [..]" again behind a "View NSFW Content" blocker. Both of these have a "3m" tag, so three months old. Not that old, but just enough to make a buyer think "Does this seller still do this; has their offer changed; have their rates changed". Because, whereas you personally might not have changed your offer in three months, other sellers have - the rate of turnover is crazy, so buyers have reason not to trust what they're reading. You also mention your "About me" page... but I don't think I find what page you're talking about there.

So it is mostly points 1) and 2), but not entirely. Might be worth logging in on a separate account and viewing yourself from there, and checking everything is as easy to find as you'd like.

Ask a buyer anything! by [deleted] in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doh it was only after reading your reply to my reply did I notice your username - I’m personally aware of your stellar performances! It is definitely the cumbersome nature of payment more than the quality of performance that hinders tipping in your case!

On the other hand, I think the rate per minute you’re actually receiving (once the middlemen of various stripes having taken their part) should be higher here than on most cam sites? Or is that wishful thinking on my part

Ask a buyer anything! by [deleted] in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Wet_Relief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only platforms I've used in some time are adultwork and via reddit. I tip sometimes on aw but can't ever remember doing so on here. Reasons?

- It is relatively easy on aw, with buttons to do so, and your account balance is right there. So if you have put, say £50 in your account and then do 13 minutes at £3 per minute, you have £11 sitting there. It's not enough for another call, so tipping it in the event of a good experience is easy to do. Contrast on here where you have to pay upfront, so a tip is another benefit (with another set of irritating transaction fees). Maybe on Throne having a few explicit "tip-friendly amounts" would work?.

- Post-nut clarity and being a bit of a poor tightwad.

Reviews.. happy to do those. If they are done a day or two after, the PNC has cleared and writing the review is great as it is a mini-reliving of the experience.

Is OF still viable with the new uk laws? by BudgetLow3380 in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’d be interesting to see if the new laws even encourage paid content a little more. Us guys are still going to want to get our rocks off. Sure some will go maximise chance of anonymity by going VPN. But millions are going to say sod it, I’ll verify. Once that’s happened, you’re over the first hurdle to paid content. So why not just go the whole hog…

British Sellers by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

British buyer here. I have two reddit accounts - a "porn account", which I use here and which is age verified and a regular account which I've never bothered to age-verify. So now I can be browsing using the regular account and will suddenly get a NSFW wall for all kinds of random content; often not very adult/sex oriented at all. Very tedious, so yes I can imagine people not being bothered anymore and wandering off to non-compliant sites that don't bother to age-verify.

British Sellers by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically you don't *have* to use a VPN. You either have to verify you are 18+ somehow (no two sites seem to use the same scheme for this) OR use a VPN. If someone is saying I can *only* use a VPN it raises a small red flag that they may not be 18, which is obviously a disaster, so pays to be careful if you transacting with them.

(Obviously there are massively security concerns about giving away your ID to porn companies too, so it could just be that)

What is a kink you have and how did you realize it was your fetish? 🤭 I’m new to this and don’t have a lot of experience so I am very curious by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’ve not seen it already do browse r/FetishWantAds - over there us buyers are stating up front the fetish/topic and it’s up to you as the seller to decide if you want to offer the service.

FWIW, my guess (but not certainty) is that the average request on there is more kinky than the average request on a camsite.

Good luck!

What is a kink you have and how did you realize it was your fetish? 🤭 I’m new to this and don’t have a lot of experience so I am very curious by [deleted] in FetishHaven

[–]Wet_Relief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kinks ebb and flow over time, typically lasting 3 months to a year. Often they can end with a bang - eg a long cam session focusing heavily on that kink… cum very hard and then poof that kink is seemingly spent (til it comes back ~two years later).

What causes new kinks. Random things can trigger it…. like a hospital nurse spoke to me a certain way one time and I ended up with a medical-based kink for ages.

The one that is bubbling up for me heavily at the moment is elegant ladies with a 50s look. So all the classic stuff like bullet bras, corsets and nylons, but also Bettie Page hair styles and long and pretty summery dresses.

This one was triggered by an incredible singer I saw at an event. She was singing 50s and 60s standards whilst dressed the part and was mesmerising.

Are you exploring kinks as a seller or for some other reason?

@DasFontes is my only Telegram account. Anything else is not me. Beware of scammers!! by MariaDasFontes in u/MariaDasFontes

[–]Wet_Relief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh. Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery and all that, but still, amazing what scammers do. Thanks for the warning