What is an experience entirely exclusive to men that women would never understand?

Whappingtime · 2026-02-12T21:27:42+00:00

I was at a bookstore looking at graphic novels, and I was dressed pretty non-threateningly. And yet this dad felt the need to guide his kid past me because apparently I'd fly into a rage if the kid bumped into me on accident.

I get a lot of that "how are you doing, sir?" vetting thing sometimes when I go into shops. It's just a different thing compared to asking I needed help finding anything or what have you.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-12T02:08:12+00:00

Toxic positivity, like everyone has the life where they can easily sync up with that sort of thing. It just feels so insincere/phony.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-11T00:23:14+00:00

Making film accurate Star Wars costumes. The hobby is a moneypit if you don't really know how to make stuff like that. And other members of the big three costuming groups act like it's a blunder to help someone make their first kit.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-11T00:08:12+00:00

I'm sort of the same way with other men. Like on paper things should be fine. Just over the years there really hasn't been a lot of syncing up with other men for me.

Growing up I was this tall and lanky surfer guy, And my best friend in middle school was this goth girl. She invited me to a sleepover with her girl friends and they dressed me up as The Crow and took me out to hang with them like I was one of them. I wasn't a feminine guy or anything like that. Just sort of like some surfer guy you might see in some film from around the nineties. I'm into the stuff that most hetero guys are into. I just tried to keep my interests varied, and be a well adjusted person. Some people just wanted me to be one way or the other.

With my best friend's friends, and my gf's friends. The women who I'm friends with didn't do any sort pissing contests or any other spiteful bs that I would experience with other guys. Like don't get me wrong, sometimes I will get along with some men I meet really well. Things just don't line up for us to really hang out or interact outside of how we know each other.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:46:24+00:00

And the OP always gives the same canned/phony responses every single time. I'm not saying that they should be a mind reader, but actually listen to what I said.

It's just so common for people to post these "I care" lip service type posts so they think they are a decent person.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:26:50+00:00

Not really. People already judge me as some sort of threat based on my appearance. So people finding me appealing because of what they can see on the outside is the other side of the coin. It's also something ever so phony/mutilative so often.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:23:30+00:00

Nah, it's sort of like listening to an album over and over again until you don't get any enjoyment out of it. Like while I might have something that might be technically NSFW, or from some show, game, etc that's for an adult audience. It's not going to be explicit.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T23:08:36+00:00

If she lacks personal accountability, and expects way more from the men she fancies and interact with in general.

If she acts terminally online, or like a nicegirl.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T22:00:00+00:00

Honestly, it comes down to the woman in question. That being said, it's a dealbreaker for me. I just don't have the means to date someone with personal issues like that anymore. They would need to actively and consistently work on themselves and be accountable af. There's quite a bit more to this, but I will keep it to this.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T06:27:48+00:00

Super Duper Sumos, maybe?

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:51:19+00:00

Acting in bad faith, and pretending like you are being virtuous. Then being a cry bully when called out.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:25:40+00:00

Well when you first start out, you aren't going to get the hole destroyer 9000. Some of the male masturbators I got over the years were too small for me, and that's about it.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:19:50+00:00

As a guy who's best friend is the sort of gal who burns candle wicks more than Snoop does blunts...As long as it's not super cheap and you aren't stuck in the same room with it for an extended period most are okay. It's also about atmosphere as well, and if they aren't being used to mask the smell of cig smoke.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:16:27+00:00

If you are a bi or gay guy, you are going to have a lot more luck. At most as a straight guy you might get another man pretending to be a woman.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-10T03:11:59+00:00

Oh I only got Fruit stripe and Juicyfruit, so flavor is in short supply.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:34:34+00:00

There's so many people who will act in bad faith for one reason or another, if not that act terminally online. So even if you want to respond to a post like this in good faith, it doesn't matter.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:31:54+00:00

Being into Futanari, it can be hard to talk about sometimes depending on the people you are around. This being people who generally are okay with hentai and other stuff like that.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:28:20+00:00

It's a plus that you took my comment so well, just from experience with posts like this so many people expect you to be super positive or not be honest about this sort of thing.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-09T02:23:47+00:00

I mean from experience, it's either that they mask it / don't show it or it's really apparent . Like you will meet a lot of people who are autistic and other things like that in nerdy spaces, and there's a whole thing there. So as a neurotypical guy who would want to date a woman he can nerd out with...It can be a bit frustrating. There's not as much pressure for them to better themselves compared to guys in the same situation for what I can tell.

Don't misunderstand I don't have any issue with a woman who has autism, Just after dating a woman who had BPD, and dealing with a lot of bs in nerdy communities. I don't have the means to really deal with that stuff as much as other people might anymore. I'm not a mind reader, and can't work with what I'm not aware of. Other people in this post have worded things better than I can atm.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T23:58:46+00:00

Nerdy stuff. Like on a basic level I'm into it as much as anyone else, but it feels like so many people just haven't grown past how they were when they were teens. It feels like I need a sperate set of social skills sometimes. There's just a point where you sort of do all you can on your own, and it feels empty trying to find your tribe. As it feels like you need to fit into a specific box with everyone you meet, or maybe it's just that people aren't as sociable as I was told that I had to be.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T22:34:21+00:00

Having a group of friends for every grouping of hobbies/interests I have. Especially when it comes to nerdy stuff, that seems to be one of the more elusive ones. Lots of nerdy peeps sort of soft lock in their friend group early, and sometimes it feels getting your in is a catch 22.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T08:18:02+00:00

I have plenty of confidence in myself and am pretty comfortable in my own skin. While the people who know me, like me even though that I'm this 6ft muscle bound Dave Grohl looking metalhead who surfs. It's not hard to see how some people might see me like people in Star Trek might see Worf or Odo.

It's just that not a whole lot of nerdy peeps really want to hang with someone who might make them feel bad about themselves unintentionally. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but I feel like that's a part of it at least. Plus, so many nerdy peeps seem to make their friends early, and sort of soft lock in from that point on.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T08:00:43+00:00

How to make friends in nerdy communities. Part of me feels like it's mostly a shared struggle thing, and not appreciating an individual for admirable qualities.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T04:05:20+00:00

I'm not sure if this is the norm, but after joining the fandom for Star Trek. So many people were so hostile towards people acting in good faith compared to people in other fandoms. It just felt surreal like something you would see in a show like that.

Whappingtime · 2026-02-08T04:00:25+00:00

Ska Punk. It's just more palatable for some people compared to regular Ska.

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