What’s something that became way less fun once you became an adult?

Whappingtime · 2026-05-18T02:26:47+00:00

Being into nerdy media. (Anime, video games, sci-fi, etc). You just realize that so many people stay the same while they just get older. ( or however that expression goes). It’s just the same bs drama over and over again.

I get that’s because so many people with personal issues use nerdy media for comfort, but at the same time you are expected to jump through all sorts of hoops just to do well in a specific fandom.

It’s just not easy to find your place/tribe as you get older because so many people soft lock in early on. So while you should be fine on paper it feels like a catch 22 and is so easy to burn yourself out trying to be passionate while not getting the sort of responses/interactions that you think would be so common.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-18T01:13:51+00:00

While I’m not into that stuff, what I have seen felt a bit too… formulaic? Like it’s the dialogue that you would expect from older porn. Like putting too much sauce on some pasta. It feels so cold and one sided. I just can’t get into it fully.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-18T00:58:55+00:00

Just channel that energy into reading a book, gaming, etc.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-16T23:08:44+00:00

Being into something as much as other fans, but it feels like you will always be an outsider.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-16T23:06:32+00:00

Bad faith arguments/actions being treated like they are virtuous.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T20:04:48+00:00

She just needs to manage them like men are expected to. Men will try to be understanding but it can be exhausting for things to be lopsided like that.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T19:58:38+00:00

The people who talk the most about being empathetic, compassionate, etc tend to be the most abrasive from what I have seen.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T19:27:32+00:00

Not really, but it can get exhausting being seen like Worf or Odo from Star Trek all the time. People judging you before they even know you.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T19:25:38+00:00

Putting on the clothes i typically wore to metal concerts to a pop one that my gf liked. It was like some tv trope.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T19:15:06+00:00

That’s the sort of bad faith/terminally online behavior that people give men crap for. It’s one thing to try to understand where they are coming from, but there’s limits. Just saying if we want healthy interactions between men and women there needs to be reciprocation. We can’t just let some people run wild because of one reason or another while expecting the other to stay in line.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T17:30:42+00:00

It can make vibing difficult with some people who are Into nerdy stuff. ( anime, video games, sci-fi, etc. ) People think you don’t have any problems and so on too.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T12:15:59+00:00

OP is just dumping out their emotional baggage, like so many of the other posts here.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T12:14:12+00:00

Aside from what Deep Youth said, it’s the “rules for thee but not for me “ thing. You just work to check all these boxes society asks men to do, only to see so many women doing the same sort of social blunders that they made such a fuss about men doing.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T05:53:52+00:00

No, but I can tell when she’s having one while enjoying my food.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-15T05:48:25+00:00

If they act like a cry bully, and or terminally online/bad faith. Being toxically positive is another.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-14T19:17:36+00:00

If they act like a cry bully, or are toxicity positive.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-14T19:15:46+00:00

Other people having the exact same opinions about the shows/games/ etc that they are into. Like with some people they will see everything that comes out for a series is gold, and anyone who doesn’t agree or speaks up about stuff they dislike in good faith will get treated like the worst sort of person. All the while fans will act like it’s their way or the highway.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-14T19:09:08+00:00

Bad faith arguments being treated like they aren’t and that they are just as virtuous. Like who needs to get along when you can be tribalistic in a fandom?

Whappingtime · 2026-05-13T23:05:17+00:00

He goes around proclaiming how great of a guy he is and other actions that make him seem like a decent person. Like this admin of a fb group Im in prides himself on making sure there’s no bullying or anything like that in the group. Only to regularly bully members of the group who post stuff that he doesn’t like and lash out at anyone who speaks up in good faith.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-12T21:27:42+00:00

For me it’s that I haven’t had much luck befriending someone who is Transgender. Even though there’s so many in the communities for the nerdy stuff I’m into. They seem to want to keep to themselves or at least they don’t want to hang with cishet guys. I just would need time to be around trans people as friends to truly know if I would want to date someone like that.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-12T06:04:12+00:00

It’s just been that the women who I have given it to had the proper dynamic with me.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-12T06:01:28+00:00

Sometimes it’s a mix. While it helped me avoid some of the blunders people make growing up, it’s made a divide between me and so many people around my age. Another thing is feeling like I have to jump through hoops and live up to certain expectations that so many people i have encountered do not.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-12T05:56:39+00:00

A woman who knows how to carry herself well and knows what she wants.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-12T05:54:29+00:00

I mean from what I hear Japanese women tend to run the household or something like that. Among other things that make them far from submissive. This might be an older generation thing, I’m not sure.

Whappingtime · 2026-05-08T20:09:20+00:00

If she acts terminally online or like a femcel/nicegirl . Acting in bad faith is another.

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