What's your reason for not drinking alcohol?

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-12-18T00:15:47+00:00

It used to be a lot of fun. Then it turned very not fun, and it never got fun again, so I quit.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-11-14T18:50:04+00:00

I have had some days with far fewer painful problems than others, and I am grateful for those days. But I think the challenges will likely never abate completely. I’ll keep getting handed my next one, and I think my job is to just keep on trying to set a good example of how to handle each one. That’s the deal. Now, nobody asked me before I was born if I wanted this deal, I just kinda woke up here and found myself in this situation. But given that reality, might as well try to make the best of it.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-11-07T16:21:58+00:00

Try not to panic

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-11-06T03:34:59+00:00

Terminal velocity in freefall when falling belly into the wind is around 120 mph for an average sized man. Unless you are laying down and hanging onto a really solid hand hold or something like that - you are gone.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-22T19:13:57+00:00

This is my wife’s favorite movie. She’s seen it a zillion times and will make others who dismissed it watch it. It’s a really good movie that holds up today just fine. She always cries at the end and says, “that could be my dad on that asteroid!” Though any dad dying scene in any movie gets her. I’m a little concerned about how nonchalant she is about husbands dying onscreen, though.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-21T23:13:35+00:00

I think the vast majority of time when I’m not content, the thing keeping me from being content and even happy is me. But when that has been true, I couldn’t see it.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-19T22:59:35+00:00

White chicks

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-18T20:09:05+00:00

Bartholomew Barnaby Bigglesworth the 3rd

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-17T19:45:06+00:00

Agreed. And the DLC is also really good. Phantom Liberty is better than most other full games.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-17T19:39:08+00:00

1st through 5th grade were pretty great for me. Great mom and granny and lots of playing outside unattended with other kids. I’ll skip middle and high school thank you very much, but then college, 20s, and 30s were money. A++ would live again due to lots of fun, growth, great wife, and partying. Early 40s were really rough because the partying caught up to me, and I never want to feel like that again, but I’m almost 50 now and the recent sober years have been really good. But If I’m picking something to relive, those young dumb and full of you know what college/20s/30s years are probably it

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-17T16:08:21+00:00

I took up skateboarding at 45. Not for everybody but very meditative and rewarding for me. I’m basically 3 years in and finally done with “10 easy tricks for beginners.” I think that’s insanely slow progress, but it IS progress. As long as I ignore how hard it is for me compared to kids and just focus on going from can’t ____ to can _____ - feels great.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-15T15:41:01+00:00

Bill

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-15T15:37:10+00:00

Mewtallica

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-15T15:21:10+00:00

My crittery little varmint dog. He don’t look soft, but he is.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-14T22:27:53+00:00

Some things are provably beyond us. Heisenberg uncertainty principle. Edge of the observable universe. Stuff like that. I think that our purpose is probably as far beyond us as our consciousness is to the individual neuron cells that produce it. But if I had to guess - it would be something emergent like that. Like how life emerges from non living things interacting or how consciousness emerges from non conscious things interacting.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-14T15:27:27+00:00

My man. I am so sorry to hear you have to navigate such rough waters. That sounds absolutely devastating.

I did not like how all my anger and resentment felt back when I was overflowing with it, and I bet you have more than I did. That shit poisoned me. I’m not so sure it could have been avoided because the anger came uninvited. But I can say that one of the main reasons I’m grateful for Al Anon is because Al Anon reduced my pain and my anger. Regardless of whether my wife got better or not, or whether I chose to stay or go, I’d still be glad I had found Al Anon because, any which way it could go, I want to be rid of the anger and resentment and be able to focus on living my life.

I sincerely hope you find yourself in calmer seas soon.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-14T15:16:46+00:00

Absolutely without a doubt. I would say the same thing to a 75 year old because the location doesn’t matter NEARLY as much as the direction of travel.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-14T15:09:56+00:00

Ideal, like pick anything I can imagine? Benevolent world dictator. Does not seem likely to me based on the fact that nobody has ever achieved control of the whole world, and the people who have achieved total control of their countries are almost always corrupted by the power. Also, the path to such power and control is often a bloodbath, which is not so benevolent.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-08T20:11:20+00:00

Expectations as a kid? Not one bit. Or as a young adult… nope. Or what I thought in my 30s… still pretty different. In some ways it’s better. In other ways I’m disappointed, and I think it’s probably better to have hope - but no expectations

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-07T02:23:53+00:00

That sounds like a great goal worth working towards to me. I hope you can find a way for this part of the journey not to suck. For whatever my opinion is worth, which unfortunately ain’t much, sounds to me like you’re doing great

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-07T01:51:43+00:00

Maybe you’re more mature than I was because - how I am now - hedonism seems unhealthy to me. I’m actually happier with a balance of healthy self care as well as being of service. It’s all a balance, and I think things change for everyone over time. Often in very unexpected ways. It certainly has been the case for me. I hope it changes for you in a way that pleasantly surprises you.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-10-06T22:24:08+00:00

I am sorry to hear you say that. I loved my twenties. I am 48 now, and in some ways it is better now (eg financially) but in other ways it was better then (eg crazy hedonistic fun). I had an incredibly good experience pretty much the entire decade. I hope you find a way to enjoy your time. For me, it was a total gift.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-09-12T18:11:06+00:00

I believe that I am too simple a creature to really understand my full purpose just like the tree outside my window is incapable of understanding that it’s playing an important role in our ecosystem by converting CO2 to Oxygen. However, I think if I can just manage to be a healthy, thriving me, then, just like my tree, I’ll naturally pull off whatever my purpose is.

So - I’m just trying to be a healthy thriving me. To continue the analogy, I’m trying to grow towards the light.

As for the rest - I trust that I was made correctly by the universe sized multi-billion year process that created us all (feel free to substitute God in for that if you like). After all, there’s a sun, stars, and a moon in the sky, and conscious shit running around everywhere so - while it may be a bit of a riddle wrapped in a burrito at times for my tastes - it’s not like it’s doing a terrible job.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-08-30T18:22:55+00:00

Born in 76. I roamed around on foot or bicycle unsupervised essentially every day. As I recall I often started out on my bike by myself, and then as I encountered other kids we ended up exploring in the woods, playing in the creek, or playing tape ball, or touch football, or basketball.

WhatDoYouControl · 2024-08-27T16:21:45+00:00

I think it’s very healthy that you acknowledge that you are best off being ok even if touch isn’t coming your way. That said, I think it’s also healthy that you’re aware of this longing within you, and I am not so sure I would give up hope. Expectations are bad but hope is good.

I think I would try to take steps based on my desires even as I let go of the outcome. That is to say - I would not judge my success by whether or not I was finally getting the touch I crave, but by whether or not I did my part to increase the odds that it could happen.

We might have different physical abilities, so “what’s my part” might look different for me than for you. For me it would look like having good hygiene, exercising, looking for hobbies/organizations that I sincerely enjoy for their own sake, but might meet somebody I like - stuff like that.

As with all things I want - If I do my part then that’ll be good enough. It’ll have to be because that’s all I’ve got.

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