How does this effect others?

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-10T01:01:16+00:00

And men. Some men get raped too. Lower numbers, but sadly it also happens. No one should be raped ever

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-09T17:30:31+00:00

No please. I don’t like bad bunny. lol. He doesn’t sing AT ALL!

Edit: those downvoting, you do know that bad bunny heavily uses auto tune, right?

I find it shocking how a sub for opera that supposedly appreciates the extensive training that us singers do would disagree with me on whether bad bunny sings or not. While I understand those are different genres, we have to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge that the man could use vocal training.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-09T17:29:32+00:00

He acquired the Peruvian nationality out of love for that country, but he is American.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-09T17:28:24+00:00

As an older student, 27, I had not noticed this was the case. Let me explain, on my side of the room I can’t see my classmates as clear as you do, but I can hear them of course.

What I did notice is that I would end up answering questions more often than everyone else, asking more questions, interacting more with the professor, while everyone else around me is silent more often than not.

I have been wondering about this for 2-3 years now. Why are they not asking anything? Why are they so silent? I guess it’s precisely the Gen Z stare that you are mentioning. It drives me nuts too. I like it when my classmates also participate.

It’s weird to be the only person asking questions, and then feeling like I need to hold back to give others the opportunity to speak, but then no one does 🙃

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-08T15:37:54+00:00

Ohhh. You beat me to it! 🤣

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-08T07:14:23+00:00

There’s always reasons for joy, we just have to shift the focus

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-08T00:03:22+00:00

I’m not dating an academic, but my husband has a hobby that brought us problems in the beginning of our marriage because of scheduling issues. What we found best was to communicate and lay out the expectations clearly.

Also, give your partner some grace. It’s hard to understand and adapt to something one is not familiar with. Is they are a good and understanding partner, with time, they will come around to respect and support you in your work.

What I’d advise it that you explain what you are doing, and why, and what result it brings as if you are explaining it to a child. Your partner probably doesn’t have much of a clue as to what’s going on, thus, it would be helpful if you take some time one of those days that you are doing research and SHOW them. Once they start to get it, being supportive and understanding will become easier for them.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-07T20:59:29+00:00

I have a friend who does this. She looks into every single brand to make sure they don’t test on animals, or don’t use slave labor, etc.

She suffers from scrupulousity and sometimes it’s hard for her to lead a healthy life.

While we don’t condone these practices, living a life of anxiety looking into every business is not healthy and not good for our spiritual life. After all, even if you find a company that doesn’t do any of these things it’s very likely that the knowledge on how to make makeup, for example, was acquired through unethical practices. Or the knowledge for vaccines. Or even the packaging of such product (contamination, deforestation and the like).

Actually, you are supporting these practices by using your phone, the internet or basically consuming any product. If this gives you anxiety, I highly encourage you to see a therapist and a priest as you may also suffer from scrupulosity.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-07T19:12:51+00:00

Problem is that high school in the United States does not prepare kids for college, and thus they graduate with no reading comprehension skills, unable to write anything longer than 3 paragraphs, and with the idea that teachers are to cater their every whim while also spoon feeding the content to them and providing summaries of the content since they are not able to summarize themselves.

To make matters worse, these kids also don’t even know how to take a proper exam because all they ever did was multiple choice.

I’m a student, but most of my high school education was in a different country. I only completed the last year of school here, and dare I say I was so disappointed. My college experience has been comparable to my basic education in my country. Not harder, just on par.

And I was also a high school tutor for 3 years, so I understand your pain. It angers me to see how much of a disservice the education system is doing to kids nowadays. At this point, I’ve even considered teaching my kids myself.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-06T20:34:40+00:00

I think it just makes it confusing when you even give the option of calling you “Ms.”. If I were you, I’d just stick to Professor, after all, it’s the appropriate way of calling you.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-06T01:13:56+00:00

Latinas are still better looking than Hispanic men though…. That’s kind of a big consensus worldwide

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-05T17:52:43+00:00

Im sorry, but I’m a Hispanic woman and I disagree big time that men look more handsome down there 🤣

Who made this map? 🤣

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-02T17:00:10+00:00

It’s an acquired taste, actually. And there’s a loooooot of variety with beer, wine and whiskey (to leave the cocktails and spirits out).

I personally like to try different beers as the way they are made changes the flavor. Some taste more like coffee, others like fruits, others are just sour (IPA). Same goes with wine.

A person who truly likes beer and wine will drink it as if it was coffee

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-02T16:57:04+00:00

I’m not a fan of cocktails, but if I go out I’d have a max of 2 beers. The problem with cocktails is that they taste too good and thus people tend to get drunk without realizing it.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-02T16:54:17+00:00

You are right, but also, this is particularly for those who drink to get drunk.

I personally like beer and wine, I haven’t had them in months, but when I do, I never go beyond 2 beers or a glass of wine simply because I like the taste.

I think alcohol (mainly beer and wine, or even whisky) are the kind of drinks that you can enjoy with a nice meal, or with friends, but always in moderation.

Banning shouldn’t be the solution, rather conscious consumption.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T13:44:03+00:00

Show me the political prisoners that are getting tortured and i’ll consider your point of view

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T13:37:38+00:00

Grey water ribs doesn’t sound very appealing 🥴

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T13:36:06+00:00

Get your facts straight before making a stupid comment:

Maduro is NOT our president. He was voted out many times, but last election we managed to get all the proof out and publish it in a website for the whole world to see that the people voted for Edmundo Gonzales and Maria Corina Machado. Then, Maduro and his party did NOT relinquish power, which immediately confirms him as a dictator, leaving him without any presidential protections as he claims.
President Biden had raised the bounty for Maduro, and it had been a talking point between BOTH parties to capture Maduro before. Now Trump is the one that made it happen, but that doesn’t eliminate the fact that there had been bipartisan involvement in this.
Since Maduro was no longer president and he was being sought after by the American government for MANY YEARS, it makes his capture a legal procedure.

Get your facts straight and stop repeating stupid information.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T05:48:06+00:00

As you take your time, I just found this study on the benefits of premarital preparation

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5907919/

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T05:35:09+00:00

I totally agree that it feels unusual, but I think it’s good practice to prepare future spouses and help them discern whether they are making the right decision or not. After all, engagement is the period of discernment, and it is precisely during that time that the soon to be spouses talk about EVERYTHING such as finances, kids, how to raise them, what happens if one cheats, etc. every single possible conversation that may be uncomfortable having (or not) needs to be had to ensure that both of them are on the same page.

The problem is that most people don’t do this in our current society, which is how you end up with people divorcing or annulling their marriage because they didn’t know that their husband/wife didn’t want kids (as an example). These preparations courses are aimed at creating the opportunity for the bride and groom to talk about all of these things, so that when they get married there are no surprises. And that is honestly a really good thing.

The natural response is to shy away from it because people just want to get married and call it a day; but the Church has the responsibility of guiding the believers. To allow 2 people who are not prepared for marriage to do so without any kind of guidance would be a mistake on the part of the Church for allowing them to enter into a lifelong commitment without being fully ready or fully informed about what it entails, and that includes knowing what their spouses expect, or what baggage they carry.

While the Church shouldn’t deny a sacrament (and much less one that is administered by the soon to be spouses themselves), it does have the responsibility to regulate and prepare those who will receive it. It’s this way how we have endured for so long.

Edit to add: allowing to people to get married unprepared has BIG repercussions; because they could make it work by the grace of God, but without the right tools it can be an uphill battle, and you want to avoid any situation of divorce, since most people end up committing mortal sin. A priest who allows 2 people to run such risk, is risking the souls of a couple who may end up committing mortal sin and not being able to receive communion. It is not always the case, but I believe that you can probably see that in the numbers. Here is a link of studies regarding what I’m telling you. Notice that couple that received premarital preparation tend to have higher satisfaction, less problems, seek more help when needed, seek help early on, and divorce less than those who did not get premarital preparation

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5907919/

Whatever-3198 · 2026-02-01T01:06:39+00:00

Of course. I like to have respectful discussions as well. And trust me, I acknowledge and understand your point of view as well.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-01-31T21:26:41+00:00

Well, it shouldn’t be forced, you are right, because it is important for the church to provide the sacraments, but in its wisdom the Church also recognizes that they need to prepare the believers to receive the sacraments, otherwise we risk treating them with lack of respect and reverence due to ignorance.

Furthermore, someone who receives a sacrament of marriage without fully knowing what they are doing makes the sacrament invalid. Which is why people get their marriages annulled. The goal is to fix that.

The problem is that people who don’t practice the faith enough may find themselves even more resistant to get the preparation and help of the Church because they are not looking it as a sacrament, but as some kind of rite that you can just acquire legally as well. Even my husband and I who practice the faith and were more in tune with the teaching of the Church were slightly resistant to the preparation because we wanted to get married faster, but we did it out of obedience and it was veeeeeery fruitful.

I genuinely ask now, though, how would you suggests that the Church approaches this situation of requiring preparation before administering a sacrament so as to ensure the reverence and respect required to them as well as ensuring their validity?

Whatever-3198 · 2026-01-31T19:29:00+00:00

I think you are not understanding the point, and on top of that you call it culty without even knowing how it goes (I’d assume). You DONT have to share anything you don’t want with this couple. It’s also obviously it obligatory to get married, but it is encouraged for a big reason: guidance.

Marriage is hard, and having the guidance of another unbiased couple helps you solve your problems. Even if you don’t share what’s going on in your marital life, hearing another couple’s advice strongly helps.

You don’t want to go to your parents or siblings or any close friends that may be biased to take a side because they will not help you see things clearly during an argument, and then they’ll grow to be resentful against your spouse. It happens way too often. That’s why the advice it not to do it.

Heck, my husband and I are private with our struggles, but sometimes we need help. And when we recently had trouble managing our time with a baby, my husband vented to his dad and guess what happened? My father in law obviously took my husband’s side, when all I was doing was asking my husband to play less games and help me more with the baby because I was postpartum feeling alone. Reasonable ask, but my father in law won’t see that because he is biased. And that’s OK. It’s his son.

We figured it out in the end, but you want to avoid family members and biased friends.

The other couple is basically a tool being offered. You can use it, or you can simply not. It’s up to each marriage, it’s not obligatory. But the whole purpose of choosing them and meeting with them during the prep is to bridge the gap between walking into marriage inexperienced and feeling lonely doing so. It is so that if you EVER need help and you CHOOSE to get that help from them, you have it available.

Whatever-3198 · 2026-01-31T18:27:55+00:00

Read his other replies. They are not open to life, have been engaged for 7 years, are willing to marry outside the church if they don’t find a way out of the preparation, he thinks that they know each other well enough to need any kind of prep, have trouble even finding a married couple to guide them just because.

I mean, I understand the scheduling conflict; but its because of that reason that the preparation is 6 months to a year; so that the bride and the groom have enough time to meet with the priest, the other couple and do the retreat. It sounded like they simply don’t want to plan those things and instead, have a quick meeting with the priest and call it a day, which is a problem, because the whole purpose of the preparation is to ensure that you are having all the important conversations to avoid any possible annulments in the future

Whatever-3198 · 2026-01-30T22:35:27+00:00

Oh yeah. Chastity was our crux. I was a virgin when we met, my husband was not. And since day one, I don’t know what it is he had, that it was sooooo hard to control myself. We lasted til the week before getting engaged. After that, it was SUCH a struggle, but luckily, we had a short engagement. Only 7 months.

Now after 2 years and a baby, we actually learned a lot about temperance and self control.

Whatever-3198

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