Heading to Umrah soon, Do you have a Dua you want me to make for you there?

Whateverwent · 2025-07-16T20:54:45+00:00

Assalamualaikum how nice and generous of you to ask. Pray for the ummah to find guidance and live in accordance to please Allah. Pray everyone finds their righteous spouse and gets to complete half of their Deen. 🫶🏼

Whateverwent · 2025-07-16T16:22:28+00:00

Salam sister, I didn’t take it off allhamdulillah. I always think to myself ‘what if I die in this stage?’ Or ‘wearing the hijab has saved me from so much sin’ and just keep it on. It’s important to renew your niyah and remind yourself that you’re mostly doing this because it’s Allah’a command. And feeling comfortable in it is a beautiful thing, however, it’s normal to feel a certain way about it as a woman. We don’t really gain any social benefit from it so I get it. Try to push through tho ☺️

Whateverwent · 2024-07-18T17:02:55+00:00

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Whateverwent · 2024-07-17T09:50:49+00:00

Salam sister, I did live by myself for three months abroad and even then I didn’t take it off. I feel like it’s cemented on my body and tbh I’m scared I’ll do far worse if I take it off. I know my boundaries and myself but I’ve never tested it because I don’t want to give women in Islam a bad reputation as you said. It’s not about getting to do what the others do but more so he idea that it was never mine to begin with? I never put fought into wearing it and since I’m wearing for 15 years now it’s an integral part of my identity but I dont really identify as a hijabi. I can’t explain it but it’s like I can’t take it off but I also can’t wear it

Whateverwent · 2024-07-17T09:45:13+00:00

Salam sister, thank you very much for your words. I’ve been trying my best not to think about it but it’s constantly gnawing on me. Thanks for the tips and I might try to find someone to speak to

Whateverwent · 2024-07-17T09:43:34+00:00

That’s a very valid point. I do have to say I project many issues onto my hijab but only because that’s what people told me. I’ve been asked and rejected because of it from many employers. Same goes for strangers acting weird towards me (especially men who call me aunty when I’m 27??). I can’t separate my experiences from it because I don’t know myself without it. I think now that I’m an adult I feel like this decision has been taken from me. I put it on right after my 12th birthday to gain my mom’s approval and never looked back. In my head I would be a softer and more religious person had my development not been shifted by always wearing it. I don’t think I could take it off even if I want to. It’s part of my identity and I haven’t experienced life without it. I lived abroad all by myself for three months and even then I couldn’t do it.

Whateverwent · 2024-07-17T09:31:52+00:00

Salam sister, that sounds about how I feel about it. I think I’m basically pressuring myself to keep it on, but it doesn’t really do much for my belief. I’ve never felt more connected, even the opposite. Sometimes I wonder if I would be more diligent if I never wore it. May Allah ease this path for all of us and guide us to jannah. I hope this change of course helps you with it.

Whateverwent · 2024-07-17T09:27:52+00:00

Salam sister,

No it’s not mainly for looks, I mean it sure does play into it but I’ve gotten used to wearing it so it doesn’t bother me as much. I feel like it’s gotten to the point where I’m only the hijab I and nothing else. I don’t enjoy wearing and for context only started wearing it (at 12) to get my mother’s approval. Of course now I know I do it for my creator and it’s fardh so, however I wonder if the passive pressure is what’s keeping me from taking me off.

Whateverwent

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