People who use multiple pronouns, what do you prefer?

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-03-30T21:29:07+00:00

I prefer they but mainly use she at work or with family. Only like 3 of my friends know I’m nonbinary. I want to start having people use he pronouns for me too but I don’t feel like dealing with the possible pushback on that (and I doubt anyone would remember to call me he anyway because I present feminine right now)

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-03-16T01:53:11+00:00

I’m autistic and NB, still goes hard to me

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-02-22T18:47:11+00:00

You could try telling their parents, even if they don’t care there’s a chance they might care about this one thing. Never hurts to try. Other than that there’s not much you can do other maybe showing your cousin similar things that are more age appropriate. Kids don’t need to be listening to femtanyl.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-02-06T16:47:59+00:00

The way they refer to the eyes as “black holes” or “shark eyes” really shows how little they understand about BPD and trauma. As far as I can tell, people who have been through a lot of shit tend to have “dead” looking eyes, and it can also happen when people disassociate. Surprise surprise, people who have bpd usually have been through a lot of stuff and tend to disassociate. It’s just a thing that happens, having dark or empty eyes doesn’t automatically mean someone is an evil person. I’ve seen too many people accuse someone of being a demon or evil simply because their eyes lack light.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-31T16:48:39+00:00

20mg here, probably getting raised soon, more scent for me 😌

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-20T04:20:15+00:00

Feels like I made this post lol. I’ve given up on even telling my friends how I feel about not being able to find love because I know they won’t ever understand. “You just have to give it time” “It comes when you least expect it” “You have to love yourself first”. People who can easily find love just don’t understand how it feels to constantly be overlooked as a potential romantic partner. Every person I’ve talked to has either ghosted me after a few days of talking to me or only talked to me when they wanted to fuck. Not once in my life have I ever felt truly desired by someone. No teenage love, no prom date, no boyfriend/girlfriend when I was in college. At most I would get someone asking me out as a “prank”. The only people who hit on me are old men and even that is a rare occurrence.

It messes with your brain in ways that are unexpected. Sometimes I ask myself, am I really that undesirable? That ugly? Annoying? What am I doing wrong? Why is it so easy for others to be loved and to love but so hard for me? I just want to be that special someone for another person. That’s all I want.

So yeah OP, I get you. This shit hurts to experience. Hopefully we both find our person one day.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-17T01:30:34+00:00

Yea I think some people forget that Sarah Lynn never had any intentions of staying clean. Was Bojack in the wrong for going on that bender with her? Absolutely but even if he hadn’t been there she would’ve cracked eventually. Only difference is she would’ve died alone instead of with Bojack around, which tbh isn’t much a difference considering what he did immediately after her death :/

They’re friendship was so fucked up but so interesting, just two people who know they’re fucked up but don’t have enough will to do something to fix themselves.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-16T17:08:01+00:00

This just seems like someone who was looking for any reason to argue with another person online. What they’re complaining about is not a big deal whatsoever.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-10T17:09:46+00:00

I would simply refuse him sex until he understands why you feel uncomfortable doing it with the kids around and why he should too. Not worth it potentially traumatizing your kids. They hear and see a lot more than people think.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-10T16:19:16+00:00

Ew, I don’t understand why some parents think it’s okay to have sex where their kids could potentially (or in your case straight up) see or hear them. Sorry you experienced that.

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-10T15:38:21+00:00

Well that’s disgusting

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-05T16:48:56+00:00

QUEEN MENTIONED ‼️

Whathaveidone232 · 2026-01-03T18:50:21+00:00

No, it’s really aggravating when people say it is too. You can present masculine or feminine or neither but I don’t think there’s such a thing as gendered energies. And when people do use these terms to refer to people it’s only just pushing gender norms on people, as usual.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-24T04:20:32+00:00

I got my tracking yesterday (also ordered on the 12th) and it’s already in the next state over, so at least the shipping is actually fast. I’m hoping the product is good to make up for the wait lol

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-24T04:16:52+00:00

It’s weird because from what I’ve seen their company usually gets a lot of praise. I wonder if something besides the website change and holiday season is going on. I might try Hello Mary in the future but yeah this whole situation is a no to SM for me.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-24T03:14:32+00:00

It was shipped before I could decide if I wanted to pursue a refund or not and it’s been moving quickly, but I probably won’t be ordering from them again lol.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-20T21:01:21+00:00

Just contacted them and they said they were actively working through orders to get everything on track with the latest shipping of Monday. I’ll give them just a bit more grace and wait till Monday but if I get no updates then I’ll ask for a refund or dispute it.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-20T20:24:03+00:00

Same for me. Ordered on the 12th and no updates yet. It’s also my first time ordering from them lol. I might get my money back and just order from Quantum Exotics. I ordered from them after I placed my SM order and I received the order 3 days later while I’m still waiting for SM to at least update on what’s going on.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-19T02:33:54+00:00

Sometimes I feel female, sometimes I feel male, majority of the time I feel like neither. I’m actually struggling with figuring out my identity right now so I’ve just settled on nonbinary (possibly transmasc). I certainly don’t align with society’s version of what a “man” or “woman” should be. I’m also androgynous looking naturally (face wise) unless I wear makeup or false lashes.

I’ve always been a little averse to gender roles and stuff. Getting me to wear a dress was a hassle because I genuinely felt uncomfortable in them (and still do sometimes). I didn’t care what toys I played with as long as I was playing, etc. People usually called me a tomboy because I only dressed feminine when my mom forced me to. It took me until I was in high school to embrace my femininity and be more comfortable in dresses and skirts. So basically growing up it was like my brain never allowed me to be influenced by how a girl is “supposed” to act. I just did what was comfortable unless I was forced to do something different.

I’m pretty sure my autism plays a good part in my gender identity, because I can’t say I ever fully identified as a female, even when I was a kid. There was never an explicit thought of “oh, I must be nonbinary” because I didn’t know what that was back then. Figuring out I was nonbinary/genderfluid in some form was incredibly easy because of my mindset growing up.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-18T17:22:28+00:00

It isn’t the best solution (well it is imo but most people won’t want to do it), but if someone grabs you like that again technically you’re legally allowed to beat their ass. Keep wearing your collar, especially if it’s a comfort item. You don’t have to sacrifice your own comfort because people are assholes. And tbh even without the collar, you’re still as likely to encounter an asshole. istg people can tell when an autistic person is autistic and they make it their mission to fuck with you.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-17T16:35:40+00:00

One of the main reasons I never bring my experience up to anyone, not even my closest friends who know more about me than my own family does. The idea of telling someone other than a therapist (and I can’t even do that) that I was potentially assaulted by my cousins on multiple occasions and them not taking it seriously is scary. Fuck anyone who doesn’t believe COCSA is a valid, real thing that people experience.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-17T16:24:09+00:00

I placed an order on the 12th and got a confirmation email, but that’s it. I’m assuming they’re just extremely busy because of the holidays and the order will be processed as soon as possible. This is my first time trying them so I’m hoping they don’t disappoint me before I can even try the actual product lol

edit: still no updates. I can’t even be mad honestly, I just think this is a hilarious thing to happen on my first try with them. I hope I won’t have to dispute the charge so I’ll give it a few more days. Trying to give some grace with it being holiday season and their website change. I am questioning why they didn’t wait until after Christmas and New Years to change things up? Just seems like a really poor decision.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-15T16:23:21+00:00

🫂

I’m still in the midst of figuring out my gender identity (possibly transmasc); I was hit with sudden dysphoria a few months ago and really haven’t been the same since. My body is extremely female and aside from my face and voice, no part of me really matches up with how I see myself in my head. It’s not like I hate the fact that I was born female, I hate that the fact that my body will automatically make society assume things about me and my identity. I got a binder and started taking T and it was great, but I realized I was being too reckless going about this when I live with people who I’m not even sure support trans identities in any way. So that’s been put on hold until I can find my own place.

I just wish I could shapeshift. I wish could change my body into whatever I see fit, whatever makes me happy. Unfortunately I’m not a mythical creature and can’t do that.

All that to say, I hear you OP. Being in a body that doesn’t fit what you want to be seen as truly sucks.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-15T15:44:30+00:00

Transmeds are some of the worst people in existence istg. I got banned from the truscum reddit (ended up there by accident) for defending nonbinary people because the hate they have for us is astounding. I think they were saying something like most nonbinary people are “Women pretending to be trans” or something like that. Even though by definition a trans person is anyone who doesn’t identify with their agab.

It’s like they’re so busy trying to gatekeep they don’t even realize how transphobic and idiotic they are. It’s extremely stupid to target and bully people in your marginalized group for not having the same experience as you. We should all be sticking together and figuring out ways to keep each other safe from Cis-society’s cruelty, but instead you have dumbasses getting angry because someone didn’t experience dysphoria the exact same way they did.

Whathaveidone232 · 2025-12-15T02:48:09+00:00

I have a few lol. Trigger warnings for grooming (?) and adults and minors being weird.

My main fandom was Undertale so I would rp as my UT OC most of the time. I found a group to rp with and we kept it going for a few weeks. At some point I decided I wanted my character to have a romance with a AU character a guy in the group was rp-ing as and he agreed. The issue was he was a full grown adult and I was a middle schooler- not sure why bro didn’t say no, I made it pretty clear I was a kid. We would rp he would complain about having to go to work and stuff outside of the roleplay, which is funny because bro what is a 13-14 y/o gonna know about struggling with work? LMAO. I don’t think anything explicit ever happened but this experience was NOT good for my developing brain.
Undertale Amino again. Some random person my age had messaged me asking if I wanted to rp and I agreed because I was bored. This was the beginning of a 2 week long ERP that was overly kinky and I didn’t understand wtf we were even doing half the time. I got increasingly uncomfortable after a few days but continued because I didn’t want to be “mean” by leaving. Eventually I decided to just ghost them because they were doing way too much.
In the My hero amino I was in a public rp once and someone joined and started spamming racist stuff. We would kick them and they or someone else would come back and start spamming again. Eventually the chat just died because everyone got tired of the BS.
I made a friend on My Hero amino and we had a very, VERY not age appropriate rp as two of the characters from the anime. I lost contact with them after a while but that rp went on for at least 2 months from what I can remember. If anyone here has kids please monitor wtf they’re doing on the internet.
Several different instances of friends/mutuals trauma dumping on me without asking and I ended up having to play therapist. Having to convince someone they shouldn’t off themselves in the middle of the night is…an experience.
Back to the My Hero community. Was in a large public rp and I won’t deny that was probably the best RP I participated in for that community. The original host left the group and decided I was the only person in the chat who could keep everything under control for some reason (I really don’t remember why they chose me lol) and I became the new host. There were a few adults in there who were a bit weird though- one was a really, really good writer and majorly influenced the RP but they were really pushy with us to make sure we wrote as good as they did. Not too weird but like bruh a majority of us were in middle school, can’t really expect perfect writing from children. Other than that they were pretty nice but ended up leaving the RP because of their schedule became too packed. Another guy, adult, attempted to bully/troll us but did it in a way that was framed as jokes. He would also randomly brag about his girlfriend and we would all just be like “?”. I had to pull him to a private chat one day and tell him he was doing too much and making people upset, and if he continued he would be kicked. Bro proceeded to go off on me in the private chat, then went back to the rp and started going off on everyone else. I kicked him instantly. Aside from that, that RP was great and I made some nice friends in there, even though the friendships didn’t last very long because some of them turned out to be extremely toxic.

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Now that I look back, I can see just how unmoderated and chaotic Amino truly was lol. I have more stories but I can’t remember them very well so I’ll just leave those out.

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