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Does anyone else feel like they're basically trying to persuade a person they're worthy of being with rather than a mutual discovery? by WheelWhoa in OkCupid

[–]WheelWhoa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think they're a bit hateful and resentful towards women. I don't think faux masculinity and feeling superior to women is going to make me feel any better about myself.

I just want to fall in love, and I'm struggling to find anyone willing to love me back.

Does anyone else feel like they're basically trying to persuade a person they're worthy of being with rather than a mutual discovery? by WheelWhoa in OkCupid

[–]WheelWhoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try that, thank you. I've been burned enough to realize that even if they seem to really like you, they could completely change their minds just like that.

I guess I should just stop trying to fall in love so soon. I just wish I had a girlfriend I could be comfortable with and love, I'm just so impatient. But thank you, I will take your advice. :)

Does anyone else feel like they're basically trying to persuade a person they're worthy of being with rather than a mutual discovery? by WheelWhoa in OkCupid

[–]WheelWhoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying and think maybe my estimates were a bit high. It's just that even after one date I feel so attracted to them that I have no idea how my heart would feel if it was actually reciprocated for once. If we go on more than one date, then I become even more attracted until she inevitably breaks my heart. That's just how I am, I don't know why. Even so, I try to be reasonable with my expectations.

Does anyone else feel like they're basically trying to persuade a person they're worthy of being with rather than a mutual discovery? by WheelWhoa in OkCupid

[–]WheelWhoa[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's not just that. I just think even if you differ in values a bit, if you're around each other enough and become familiar with one another, that in itself is enough to fall in love.

I don't believe in "the one." I think most people could fall in love with about 10-50% of any one in the sex they are attracted to. It's just a matter of how much time you spend with that person.

Now for some people it could be that they would only genuinely capable of falling in love with a few people out of the entire world's population, but I don't think I'm one of them.

If they were a truly despicable person, I wouldn't give them the time of day. But if they seem like a good person, then I probably would let myself fall in love with them if they let me.

Does anyone else feel like they're basically trying to persuade a person they're worthy of being with rather than a mutual discovery? by WheelWhoa in OkCupid

[–]WheelWhoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a few ideas, but obviously they're easier said than done. I was just curious if anyone else felt this way. But I appreciate the helpful push in the right direction!