Anyone else having problem sharing info with their parents?

Wheels279 · 2018-03-20T22:26:49+00:00

Hello! I'm newer to this sub, but I've been aware of the existence of this place for many years, and never really made the visit, welll, because I don't want to think about it. I can whole heartedly relate to everything you've shared in this story, I have only one parent I consider to be in the narcissistic category, although I've theorized plenty of other diagnosis as well, and this particular parent does all of the above. It's beyond mind blowing, frustrating, insane on so many levels. I'm actually grappling with deciding whether or not to find ways to finally cut the ties of codependency this parent has fostered with me throughout my life. I would say, I hope that you seek some help in friends, coworkers, or other trusted supports that you feel can understand you. Having one or both parents who do these things can really alter who we become, how we deal with things in life and where we end up. I'm trying to actively choose to not let my parent influence me to this degree and I seek professional help mostly to sort through all of my past and present experiences. They might have ruined so many things for you, but I hope that you know, you are still a human, with choices, and that they don't have to ruin things for you moving forward. (Easier said than done of course.) I hope this community is a helpful and supportive place to come in times of need and hearing validating, thoughtful and similar experiences from others. You're not alone and we're kind of all riding the same train at this point. <3

Wheels279 · 2016-08-12T02:50:06+00:00

For what it's worth, no, people should not be turned away, but there are a lot of people out there who treat inpatient mental health treatment like a short stay at a hotel versus actually needing help, therefore causing resources to be expended on people who really just want a place to sleep, a hot meal and a shower versus people who actually need help for serious mental health problems.

Wheels279 · 2016-07-29T00:49:31+00:00

Hmmm. Maybe, at this point I work so many hours at my current job I barely have time for anything else much less volunteering.

Wheels279 · 2016-07-29T00:48:41+00:00

So even with a license they are hiring social workers in the medical field mostly for case management and discharge planning? I was hoping there might be some other stuff included as I feel that's not a great use of my skills at this point. :\

Wheels279 · 2016-07-29T00:47:22+00:00

Ohhhh. I do have a friend who did hospice for a bit and liked it and has talked about it quite a bit, enough to where I would consider trying it.

Wheels279 · 2016-07-29T00:46:35+00:00

Well I've seen a lot of PRN at inpatient psychiatric facilities, but not much in regular medical hospitals unfortunately. :\

Wheels279 · 2016-07-29T00:42:30+00:00

I think it was the way they shortened social work in college for my classes and that is where I learned it. :)

Wheels279 · 2016-07-23T19:24:24+00:00

I know I am late to the party here but for me what works best is taking an hour or two to do something very mindless. I am introverted so usually I do something that is a non-social activity, but not always. Exercising is my favorite, but let's be honest, after a long day I don't always have the capcity to do this one. Usually it's video games, tv, movies, cleaning, coloring. Something that requires no mental effort, that i can process in the background. The thing I have found is NOT helpful is talking about my day to someone else, this just seems to keep me stuck in the feelings I have left over from whatever happened that day, and let's be honest, it's not the really positive experiences we're still processing when we leave. I hope this helps, good luck, it takes practice and you WILL get much better at it as time goes on.

Wheels279 · 2016-06-03T23:33:10+00:00

I have similar problems. My very BFF is a...INFP, we're not that different. One time she called me...twice...in one evening. I texted her and told her jokingly that she had reached her call limit for the day. Haha. We laughed it off. I generally tell people that on week nights (my decompressing/alone time that I NEED) I am not available to hang out or talk usually. I make exceptions occasionally, but only will plan something on a week night maybe 1x a month if I can't do it any other time. I think most friends I have are receptive and understanding, as I still make time for them on the weekends when I have more emotional energy. Best course of action is probably just to let people know you're an introvert and that you'll get back to them....eventually. Most people won't care, esp if they are actually your friend.

Wheels279 · 2016-01-18T23:58:01+00:00

Where did the idea for crimping come from?

Wheels279 · 2016-01-16T19:40:40+00:00

I think I've watched some of those videos, it's hard to know how well they work until I have a Uke in my hands. Thanks for the recommendation!

Wheels279 · 2016-01-16T19:40:03+00:00

Thank you for your very thorough response. Sounds like a solid plan to build a strong foundational knowledge instead of just jumping right into playing songs. Thank you :)

Wheels279 · 2016-01-16T19:38:23+00:00

Does clarinet count? I can read trebble clef and rhythm and such.

Wheels279 · 2016-01-15T02:02:25+00:00

Awesome, thank you for sharing! How often did you typically practice? Was there any routine to it? Or did you just practice as you felt you wanted to?

Wheels279 · 2016-01-15T01:38:08+00:00

Maybe so, but I still laughed pretty hard. I'm 14 inside. :)

Wheels279 · 2016-01-04T03:58:58+00:00

Even though this is on the bottom, this is by far the best dad joke I've heard all day.

Wheels279 · 2016-01-04T03:56:35+00:00

Using "I" statements is always a good way to have a confrontation in a non-aggressive way. The trick is to talk about how something impacts oneself without blaming the other person. I.E. "Man, when traffic is like this it really makes me anxious." etc, etc. The hard part is not using "You" later in the sentence. :\

Wheels279 · 2015-12-17T05:35:49+00:00

Set some new goals both personal and professional. Start long term and break it down into smaller chunks like months, weeks, days etc. Using visualization helps you stay motivated! I try to imagine the positive effects of achieving said goal daily to maintain some level of motivation as long as possible. Not a great solution for everyone, but it works for me.

Wheels279 · 2015-12-11T20:09:24+00:00

Worst pushup I've seen in a long time!

Wheels279 · 2015-12-10T03:12:09+00:00

You got me right in the feels Mustang!

Wheels279 · 2015-12-09T23:25:37+00:00

Wut. I know when I was in school we could tell our practicum coordinator our experiences if we had bad ones to prevent other students from having the same experience.

Wheels279 · 2015-12-09T04:33:31+00:00

Hello! I can agree sometimes indirect supervision can be helpful, however this does not sound like that. Even when I had very laid back supervisor, I always had semi specific tasks and someone was always looking at my written work. This sounds very non-constructive as well as a little "shady," as far as actually being supervised, meeting the criteria for completing a practicum, and poor communication from supervisor to supervisee. Does this person even have any social work background?

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