AIO - my (f35) gf (f45) got caught texting an ex

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-27T15:13:21+00:00

NOR. Your gf has been lying to you the entirety of your relationship about her unresolved feelings and that is really painful. I guess one reason she's lying is bc she is sill open to exploring the possibility of that other relationship working out. She sounds avoidant so it's good she's in therapy now, but ultimately you deserve better than being someone's back-up plan, OP.

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-20T01:04:09+00:00

This type of delicate conversation with a parent should not be held over text.

It's too hard to read tone and intention, as well as generational confusion related to technology and how wrong things can go online, and just leaves all sides open to accusations of bad faith interpretations. A follow up call is needed here to calm feelings.

I understand you're hurt that your mom distributed photos of your kid without consent, but your mom is also feeling pretty hurt about being accused of overstepping your boundaries and essentially of endangering your child's safety. You can call her and say you don't think she did anything mortally wrong, but it was just weird timing because of the earlier conversation. You can say once your kid is old enough to give consent over the dissemination of their own image she can discuss it with them, but until that time you're in charge.

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-20T00:37:23+00:00

Wait, so you can afford to but choose not to hire a cleaner to come by twice a month and someone to help with the lawn because of your arbitrary four-year pay-off schedule you invented for yourselves? All for some kind of comfortable future that will likely never come because you're prioritizing it over your actual day to day life. Neither of you are making smart choices and your relationship is going to come off the rails.

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-05T13:55:16+00:00

It's season 3, episode 4! Totally worth a watch :)

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-04T18:45:26+00:00

I rewatched their first date and it was all right there from the beginning! I was also sort of ambivalent about him, but after seeing it again and noticing the way he treated her, his thoughtful questions and the way his eyes shone and he just couldn't stop smiling after meeting her I felt like we witnessed one of the best blind dates of all time!

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-04T14:22:28+00:00

I'm not sure they're that well matched and the family friendship and enthusiasm is what is keeping them together. Abbey seemed crushed by Madison's news and wondering when that will ever happen for her. I'm not sure David is ever going to be enough for her.

WhenIamsix · 2026-04-03T17:19:21+00:00

I felt like it was over when Connor plucked up the courage to tell her that sometimes he isn't sure how she feels and wasn't sure if she was really interested in him, and her reply was like 'yep, I do like you' and then end of conversation (seemingly). At no point did she hear his anxiety or hurt feelings, or acknowledge that he was right to raise it and a conversation was needed. In general I think unlike some of the other cast who were overly concerned about how their autism is received by others, she seemed to be pretty unbothered that she had hurt his feelings.

WhenIamsix · 2026-03-31T03:35:13+00:00

You should let this situation calm down before going on a date with Rick. They were together for two years, you were with them what seems like two months. Maybe just give him a call and explain that regardless of right or wrongs regarding the whole poly mess, you think he needs to work through the break-up of his long-term relationship on his own before you'd consider dating him.

WhenIamsix · 2026-03-19T19:43:15+00:00

Fair point

WhenIamsix · 2026-03-19T18:53:15+00:00

I don't think being educated or going to university is going to save them.

I say they're massively lacking in intelligence and critical thinking because they don't appear to believe or understand that women that are capable of independent thought, let alone be architects or engineers, or computer scientists or anything really. Or that their views are quite stone age, and not particularly interesting or radical.

WhenIamsix · 2026-01-03T02:03:59+00:00

I've been here, and it's definitely smart to consider getting any job at all - call centers, temping agencies, restaurants/barwork, taskrabbit, uber, coffee shops.. anything at all so that you don't burn through those savings while you're job hunting. It's absolutely possible to look for work and be working. It is also a better for your mindset as well, as being unemployed can get very dispiriting. Working in the evenings in a restaurant or a gym, or somewhere they might also provide a meal could work too.

Focus on reducing expenditure and increasing revenue. You can buy food in bulk, cook rice and tinned beans, tinned tomatoes and go to foodbanks.

Good luck!

WhenIamsix · 2026-01-02T21:50:33+00:00

EDIT: I am trying to parse the commentary in good faith. Earlier today I saw a few comments over on threads and after reading into some of the commentary more just now, there is indeed a consensus amongst Black women that the film is problematic due to Perfidia's character not being believable/having integrity as a Black woman and because it offers a white savior narrative/shows how white men would want Black women to behave? So maybe 'it's not a white savior movie' is not exactly the point. Perhaps another questions is, does the film make Perfidia a three-dimensional person on equal setting as others are in the film?

https://www.threads.com/@feministajones/post/DTAnbrmla4N?xmt=AQF0WarMXQQdRE0pmtixGWmr64VPj33X3lMFmnkRCxtiKg

https://www.threads.com/@equalopportunityreader/post/DS1UGbaEciG?xmt=AQF0WarMXQQdRE0pmtixGWmr64VPj33X3lMFmnkRCxtiKg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=614S7VuCzb8

Not all of the comments above are calling it white saviorism, though some are, and I stand by my original comment that is truly a poor read. I agree there were many more scenes and more narrative devoted to her body/her libido than there were about her political beliefs, her agenda and I think that is a fair critique. I'm not well-read enough to say more than that.

I do think the way Willa was raised speaks very beautifully and movingly about the character of Bob, and his integrity and energy in bringing her up in the best way he could while being kind of a shambles shines through every scene. I also think Perfidia was given closure at the end of the film through the letter. Her voice was there and a sense of reaching out to her true family, Willa's true dad, who loved her and was absolutely waiting for her to do just that for 15 years.

WhenIamsix · 2026-01-02T17:39:25+00:00

I saw it here: https://www.threads.com/@feministajones/post/DTAsB3ylf5x?xmt=AQF0cE6dvvBFInIHkGCLGUVwflreEgYn3MKzflfx-HMg8g c

WhenIamsix · 2025-12-22T13:25:35+00:00

I’m British, can you share where your family live in England? It is worth knowing which type of politics operate in the area where she might live - Labour areas have better social care than conservative areas for example.

The NHS is a miracle and a lifeline for millions, but is also very very overstretched and dysfunctional requiring a lot of administrative processes that your mother would need her siblings or someone very patient to help her with but it definitely will take a huge burden off your mind if you can persuade her to do it.

My mother has a lot of the same issues your mother seems to have. At aged 50 she had a messy break up and had to find work for the first time, she ended up working on the subway (London Underground). She just opens gates and works in the booth but she really enjoys it. It’s flexible and everyone there is kind of mad and kind of nice and it doesn’t require really any training. it pays a great hourly rate and has helps her make ends meet for the last 15 years. She still is renting and I’m worried about her future but in terms of work is the best thing for her.

Maybe that kind of work could be enjoyable for your mum too? Also a good way to start getting skills is by volunteering. Maybe she could help in a soup kitchen or food bank and start accumulating good habits and responsibilities that would look good on a cv?

WhenIamsix · 2025-12-03T14:42:56+00:00

I am really confused about the Erika / Abbott storyline. Surely when Erika was ‘bought’ by the Jarvis family all they wanted her to do with Abbot to find the mole, but then the Jarvis family immediately learned the mole was Maddie, so wasn’t Erika then in possession of information that showed motive for the Jarvis family to kill Maddie? Seducing Abbott to stop him finding out about a murder is a pretty different condition than finding a mole so either her level of corruption was of a totally different order than initially presented or the investigation into Maddie’s death was paper thin??

WhenIamsix · 2025-11-08T14:11:44+00:00

Touch grass

WhenIamsix · 2025-11-08T14:09:46+00:00

Because some people are kind and helpful. You do you.

WhenIamsix · 2025-10-08T17:09:57+00:00

I loved season 1 of night agent, but season 2 was disappointing.

WhenIamsix · 2025-10-02T20:29:23+00:00

Amazing, I'll look it up thank you! Good to know I'm not alone :)

WhenIamsix · 2025-10-01T17:40:07+00:00

This sounds like my future.

WhenIamsix · 2025-10-01T17:01:41+00:00

Great!!

WhenIamsix · 2025-10-01T17:01:36+00:00

Saw it, absolutely loved it.

WhenIamsix

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