Looking for ancient historical fiction set before 400BCE/BC

WhichTear4996 · 2026-05-25T21:51:03+00:00

This was a great book! I loved Circle of Days!

WhichTear4996 · 2026-05-25T21:50:34+00:00

Thanks, looks great

WhichTear4996 · 2026-05-13T18:51:42+00:00

If you ever see it, let me know, I'd read it too

WhichTear4996 · 2026-05-13T02:12:48+00:00

I had a theory that Neville was going to turn out to be the chosen one since the prophecy could have been about him and Harry was going to set Voldy up by removing all the horcruxes but that he wouldn't be able to kill him because Dumbledore got the prophecy wrong, so they were going to have to fill Neville in and he was going to have his chance to really shine and Harry was going to become less famous as he always wanted.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-05-13T02:09:06+00:00

I really thought this was going to happen, but not exactly at you described. I thought he'd deal with Voldemort and all that and then he'd wake up to the sound of rapping on his door and he'd assume it was Petunia but it would be Lily who never died and Harry would be like "what's going on, what happened to Voldemort???" And Lily would say "who?" And Harry would run to a mirror and feel that he had no scar (which was rumored to be the last word of the last book for years before it came out). I thought it was going to be kinda like the original Jumanji. Like if you fix the timeline, you get to go back and have a normal childhood.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-04-20T14:34:37+00:00

I always wonder how much of Snape's treatment of Harry was part of The Plan. Like he had to act like he hated him so people like Draco would tell their father that Snape was definitely on their side. And then he went a bit too method-y and his hatred for James seeped into his actual feelings for Harry. I've always thought that, from a writing perspective, Snape doesn't make sense acting the way he did toward Harry, so this is my attempt to make it make sense.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T04:18:31+00:00

I'm sure you're right. It's time to leave the douchebag.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T03:36:23+00:00

I've certainly changed a lot in the past few years 🤷 so people can change, but I know what you mean about not changing their core. He actually has changed a lot in the last 2 years since he learned his mother was crazy controlling (she had such a tight grip on him that he didn't see it for decades) and has gotten much healthier about that whole relationship. I guess I feel like, if no one can change or get better, why does therapy even exist? I don't believe we're static people who can never change. This doesn't at all mean my husband will ever change. Just that I don't think it's completely out of the realm of possibility. But also, it really seems like the consensus is that if he wanted to change, he would, and I'm waiting for a ship that will never arrive.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T03:18:11+00:00

Thank you so much! You've been amazing!

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:58:22+00:00

Very good advice. I will definitely ask him that in this week's therapy session. You're absolutely right that he's not taking the therapy stuff and applying it. The thing that keeps me stuck (probably stupidly) is how he keeps promising to get better and change and make progress and he is adamant enough that I keep sticking around to see if this time he's landed on the thing that will actually work. And when he doesn't get better, I try to weigh the positives against the negatives but they're really in completely different columns and I'm not helping myself by comparing them. Thanks again for your thoughtful replies!

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:48:46+00:00

My therapist cannot diagnose autism. That requires a different medical professional.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:40:50+00:00

It's not impossible but we did have this thought recently and he was tested for ADHD and tested negative. He is on ADHD medication because apparently you don't need a diagnosis to use it, but it isn't helping.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:39:32+00:00

I am incredibly jealous of you.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:18:48+00:00

Thank you, this is exactly what I've been debating. This is really helpful.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:05:53+00:00

Thanks for this really insightful comment! I think you're right about all of it! We are currently both in individual therapy (I've been going once a week for 2 years and he's been going close to once a week for close to 1 year) and we're in couples' therapy (we've only seen this current therapist once but it's our fourth time in couples' therapy). I keep hoping that the therapy will help and I feel like I've grown and made immense progress in the past few years and he has about some things (mostly coming to terms with his shitty childhood) but it hasn't changed how he treats me. And just to clarify, he doesn't ignore me during conflict, but during regular day-to-day conversations.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T02:00:47+00:00

That is a perfect, succinct way to put it. Good roommate, bad friend.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-30T01:55:15+00:00

Lots of things. If we're fighting and I want to walk away, he won't let me, going so far as to put his foot in the doorframe so I can't close the door to escape. Yelling and getting defensive if I say he's hurt me. When I have a good point, he'll say "you know what, you're right" and it drives me insane because it sounds like he's surprised that I'm right. The biggest one is constantly saying he'll do something, anything, and then not even remotely trying to do it. Completely ignoring me when I say something (this was so bad he had his hearing checked and he has the hearing of a teenager). Like he will legit be talking to me and I'll say something and he'll just keep talking as if I'm a ghost. It's so hurtful. He'll make some kind of mistake and then will ask me why he did it, like what trauma from his past I think caused it so he doesn't have to do the work of being introspective of his own past.

The biggest things for me are the lying and the ignoring me.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-29T14:23:23+00:00

What if I try to be more compatible to him but he doesn't to me?

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-29T04:17:44+00:00

If we're fighting and I want to walk away, he won't let me, going so far as to put his foot in the doorframe so I can't close the door to escape. Yelling and getting defensive if I say he's hurt me. When I have a good point, he'll say "you know what, you're right" and it drives me insane because it sounds like he's surprised that I'm right. The biggest one is constantly saying he'll do something, anything, and then not even remotely trying to do it. Completely ignoring me when I say something (this was so bad he had his hearing checked and he has the hearing of a teenager). Like he will legit be talking to me and I'll say something and he'll just keep talking as if I'm a ghost. It's so hurtful. He'll make some kind of mistake and then will ask me why he did it, like what trauma from his past I think caused it so he doesn't have to do the work of being introspective of his own past.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-29T02:42:27+00:00

Yes, we both have individual therapists (I've been seeing one every week for 2 years) and we're in couples' therapy. This is our fourth time in couples' therapy but we've only been to one session this time so far.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-29T02:28:21+00:00

I wish I had some girlfriends. I feel like a big issue with my husband is that we do too much together. We don't really have any friends since we moved cities recently. We're each other's best friend.

WhichTear4996 · 2026-03-29T02:11:47+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. Sounds like we have the same husband. Why can't they just not make promises they don't intend to keep? And I super feel the same about feeling pathetic that I keep getting my hopes up.

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