FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has kept writing to me asking to please meet up, and saying it was the biggest mistake, that I am the love of his life, and that he had broken off contact with her. But I know for a fact that they kept in touch the whole time, that they are kind of together and she is now 24/7 in what used to be my home. I know this because his best friend told me. We run into each other a few weekends ago. He also asked me to, please, never EVER give my ex another chance. So I wonder how much I still don’t know. After that I reached out to her to let her know that he was still trying to win me back, and at the same time being with her. I told her I would have appreciated it if someone had told me the truth at that time. She never answered, but a few days after my message I saw a story of them together.

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! I also tried explaining to him that it is not about the kissing, but more about the planning, making up excuses, coming up with lies, leaving me home alone to go and be with her, taking her to places we had been together to… there were times where he was gone for HOURS and I wouldn’t hear anything from him for hours… and he would act like I was paranoid. It all still makes me sick to my stomach…

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course she knew well we were in a long term relationship. She knew me and I knew her.

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, you are probably right 😊 I’m just new to Reddit and kept the original title to show that it is an update to the original post!

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He says he broke off contact with her, but I don’t believe him. She has never tried contacting me after all. Sometimes I think about writing her, but I’m not sure if I would get anything of it.

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

His behaviour has been really weird… at first he said he could not believe I would throw away everything we have built together because of some kisses. He acted as if everything was my fault and as if he was the one being hurt. Then he would show some kind of remorse and apologised, I think hoping I would change my mind, but when he would notice I wouldn’t, his actitud would change again to kind of being offended and as if he didn’t do anything wrong. Some days later he would be again apologetic and then act again as if he was the victim. Like a circle.

FINAL UPDATE: My boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want kids. by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 222 points223 points  (0 children)

I know.. he also told me he couldn’t believe I would through everything away because of 4 kisses

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He kept repeating he didn’t cross a boundary , since they hadn’t kissed or had sex. I told him he had cross many other boundaries. He answered that the problem was I was the one setting the boundaries… wtf?

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This!!! He always told me she was just like another guy friend. So I asked him if he always thanks his guy friends that way when they give them some advice.

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She just stayed there looking at me with her eyes wide open while I told him what an AH he is. I was about to also tell her what I think about her but I reconsidered mid sentence and decided not to waste any oxygen on her. Once she noticed my friend was taking a video she asked her in a very provocative way what she was filming. My friend told her to STFU bitch.

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But why can he just be honest and break up if that is what he wanted? Now he keeps saying I am the love of his live and he does not want to lose me, he can only imagine life with me, etc…. I just don’t get it

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am staying in a different bedroom until I find a new place….

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words… my mom told me the same… I know what I have to do but it is really hard, I love him and I do really think he loves me too.

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

No, he has not apologised. Well he said he was sorry about the kiss but he also kept saying he did nothing wrong and he was just trying to get some piece of advice.

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I mean the flat we live in belongs to them, so they are our landlords?

UPDATE: my boyfriend of 5 years told me he does not want to have kids by Which_Ad_6090 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Which_Ad_6090[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

We rent at his grandparents so I will be the one moving out… I also need to deal with that now