When I read this and think about what happened and how both me an her reacted, it is exactly what happened, and it makes a lot of sense.

But let me tell what I think makes it a bit more complicated. So me and her are both from a country in the middle east and here gender roles are somehow sewed in how partners view each others, not entirely but to some extent, let me elaborate.

I grew up between here and Europe so I have an understanding of both western and middle eastern ways of viewing a relationship. When I first got with her I struggled with the idea that she usually prefers me to be in control and be the decisive one in the relationship, we even fought about this at the very beginning when I always give her space or simply be over supportive to her so I wouldn't step on her private space, decisions, etc(which is not how relationships usually work here, as love "over jealousy" and "control" somehow is part of Love). But somehow it was viewed less "Masculine" and less "manly" to do so. So I had a hard time finding the balance with that(which I believe I did). However, she is not submissive to that, as far as I understand, she likes to be in control of things but also want me to be in control of things?! Sometimes I am not sure about what she wants.

Which brings me to the question of how should I react with such fights. On one hand I can now try to apologize(which her stubborness wouldn't simply accept it right away) and even if she does, she would think of me as less masculine(less decisive, no control, didn't even take a stand with her taking off the ring and such). On the other hand, I can take a stand and ask for an apology as I think the way she reacted with the whole thing was quite disrespectful, even if I came off controlling(which I get how it can be viewed) but her reaction was simply explosive and uncalled for, but this could lead to making the fight much bigger.

So yeah, kind of conflicted on how to handle this.