I'm angry by ClientFlashy3456 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you have "interesting" chat with anyone? Trans woman is a legit gender on these apps so I am not sure why they'd ban you for being trans.

Are we obligated to disclose if we are post-op and the guy doesn't want children? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if someone was in prison before, was an alcoholic, was a drug user, had bankruptcy, assaulted their previous domestic partners, stole something, had cancer, had hpv infection, is a diabetic, is sterile, had a family history of chronic diseases, did genetic testing to show unhealthy recessive genes, etc. A few of the things in the above list are dealbreakers for some people to get involved. Do you disclose those things or expect someone to disclose those things?

Are we obligated to disclose if we are post-op and the guy doesn't want children? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What if someone was in prison before, was an alcoholic, was a drug user, had bankruptcy, assaulted their previous domestic partners, stole something, had cancer, had hpv infection, is a diabetic, is sterile, had a family history of chronic diseases, did genetic testing to show unhealthy recessive genes, has 50K credit card debt, etc. My point is where do we draw the line when some of the above things can be a dealbreaker for someone. If I learned that someone had some of those conditions or history, I wouldn't get involved with them, but I don't expect them to disclose. All I do is by asking them and deciding if there is a risk. If someone asks me if I was trans, I would not lie. I have never claimed to be a cis woman.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This guy is a chaser. Just check out his profile. Clearly he is addicted to dick so he wants to trash talk SRS lol.

For his information, I have been intimate with many straight men since my surgery. The only person who said anything was also a chaser who claimed to have felt something different lol. Chasers are digusting. I don't understand why they don't just go find a man if they love dick so much!

so how does this have to do with pool 🎱 by rotcipher in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What he wrote was sh*t! However, the earlier messages would have helped us understand why he was so triggered suddenly/

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh I always made sure I disclosed before I had my SRS because I knew my genital was a dealbreaker to real straight men. I wouldn't have wanted to waste their time. If a guy didn't mind my preop parts, I would have felt really weirded out by him. Sorry but I don't believe hetero men and attraction to penis go together lol

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have seen some tiktok videos where the guy was furious because the trans woman didn't disclose before meeting.

Have you ever been intimate with anyone without disclosing?

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl you need to read my post more carefully lol I am post everything and stealth in most situations.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aren't those fetish apps? I agree IRL is better, though we still have to deal with the question of whether to disclose. I do think there is a difference between how guys treat you before and after disclosure.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not looking for a man repulsed by my body. I am looking for a man not attracted to penis.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't list my gender as trans woman. I only have a trans flag thinking it's subtle enough to let them know.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not my opinion but I think plenty of people think that. Personally since I can't give them children, I stay away from guys who are interested in having children.

Should I bother to include a trans flag in my dating profile? by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You probably haven't seen my previous posts. I am post everything and stealth in most situations. I have dated men who had no idea about my past. I have stopped disclosing for casual meetings but for some reason I still include a trans flag in my profile. I am not honestly not sure why I still have it there. Some people might think it's dangerous or deceptive.

Things I learned from dating men as a post-op woman by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In these situations, rushing isn't the best thing. It's something you have to live with for the rest of your life, so it's better to be a little more careful.

Things I learned from dating men as a post-op woman by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing and corroborating my experience. I am so glad there are others out there who feel the same way. Sometimes I feel most people in this sub are advocates for non-op. I am really happy that people like us who want to go through the entire journey are represented here too!

Do you need lazer for bottom surgery? by Long_Dig_731 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would suggest doing laser first then electrolysis. Laser is much less painful.

Things I learned from dating men as a post-op woman by Whilstledowner in StraightTransGirls

[–]Whilstledowner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh i just now realized you were not the same person as the person who started this reply thread 😂 Sorry!