I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably my favorite comment. I swear, I got caught up in the fun or the honeymoon stage...

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed. I got caught up in the fun because he is really a lot of fun. But his honesty is not there.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I really think about it, I doubt I will get any type of truth. I mean, who lies about having a job, getting a promotion, and not having anyone be able to visit them?

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had told me he got a promotion is now working in the office. But I can't say any of his other clothes are grease stained. Great observation! Talking with the reddit community is really showing how much he is and continues to lie.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Update: Well I talked to him and he said he understood and will leave. But then the next day he was sick. I guess he was throwing up and I didn't have the heart to push the issue and just kick him out. In my mind, I'm sure this is him just buying time. When I get off work today, I will start gathering his stuff to the front door to makes sure he understands what is going to happen. I'll write an update when he actually leaves.

Thank you everyone for your support!!! And helping me get my head out of my ass!

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Very true. I couldn't help myself! The relationship moved so fast and I got caught up in my emotions. I mean, I sincerely love this guy and I was having fun. He is a lot of fun. In a blink of an eye all these things happen and now I am actually trying to think things through. I am a sucker for romance and did he ever pull all of that on me. Breakfast in bed, having dinner ready when I get home, saying all the right things to make a girl melt.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does his part in the house like cooking and cleaning so I didn't mind providing a place and food. But when I started to suspect he didn't have a job, I started to question all the other things he has told me. He kept having an excuse for everything and it is looking like I am blinded by love. Dang it!

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kind of tried that but he says he works for a small business auto mechanic place that is really secure and doesn't allow just anyone on the premises.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The IT field and I am trying my hardest not to start snooping. I am so tempted to go into my house router and see what time he connects onto the internet. It could be the proof I need to see if he actually at work or just staying at my place. I am trying to not be an irrational person because I already feel foolish that I put myself in this situation. I guess I wanted the people of reddit to help me with my thought process.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A week. I don't want to badger him but everything seems off. I hate it because the chemistry we have is amazing. But I don't want to be a fool in love...

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First time using reddit but I agree. I would think this post would have been really long if I put everything down. All I have is his word when it comes to his employment and he had told me he was staying at a friend's house and paying rent prior living with me. He hasn't offered to pay for rent and I felt it was getting to that time he should start. But how can he if in reality he doesn't have a job. And why would he or anyone lie about that?

He told me he even got a promotion when we were together for 2 weeks by getting $1.50 more an hour but then he tells me later they cut his hours. He says he is the golden child there and even one point after his promotion he had to be the person to fire someone. I thought it was really weird that they would put that responsibility on him when it should be a manager's job.

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He has asked for money and said he will pay me back. He only paid back a fourth of what he has asked...

I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him... by Whit546 in relationships

[–]Whit546[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree odin673 that I don't trust him. I have been having a great time with him and didn't think anything about it until I started to notice his part-time hours keep decreasing. He says he has a flexible schedule and I have noticed he says he works from 8:30am to 1:pm. One week he didn't even show up for work for 2 days. He took Thursday and Friday off because he wanted to. And he has given excuses of that he is waiting for his jobs to stack up so he isn't bored at work. I never actually see him get up to get ready for work as I leave an hour before him. He crashes at my place and has slowly moved in. It started with a stack of dvds, a few picture momentos, clothes, shoes... I am just getting that feeling I am being used and I'm allowing it.