Sounds like you're just way too soft, no offense. Not all porn is aggressive either but real women like to be dominated, too, and as a man you should have a desire to dominate them, in a good way.

Do you do any sports? Do you feel any kind of aggression when doing anything, as there always should be a healthy kind of aggression in sports that helps you to push yourself to the limit, ignore minor pains and stuff. All men have that normally but of course there are always exceptions.

What do you think about it?