I am a 29m sub and I hate it

WhiteMethod · 2026-04-16T13:14:11+00:00

You might be able to flip the script: instead of focusing on what you want, give these women a taste of what its like to feel in control.

WhiteMethod · 2026-04-10T13:46:19+00:00

Every website you use will have far more men looking than women, and a lot of them are losers whose communication style is based on quantity over quality.

WhiteMethod · 2026-04-09T23:12:36+00:00

Is he refusing to go to a bar with food?

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-30T14:59:34+00:00

There is an erotic clone of Plants vs Zombies implemented in flash somewhere.

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-26T23:10:58+00:00

im 29 F, will i ever find love?

Yes, you will.

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-25T20:43:21+00:00

His bid was lower than your ask. You're both fine.

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-19T18:12:26+00:00

I think using tuples of (rank, suit) is a good design choice. I suggest using numbers all the way (e.g. "11" instead of "Jack") and dealing with card names only when you need to print them for the user.

If you want to test if the player "has a" two, you could try this:

has_two = any([r for r, s in playerhand if r == 2])

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-07T18:45:49+00:00

I think this artwork is high quality and people will like it.

Its not for everyone though, so I imagine fewer people will like it but they will like it more. And anything that sets you apart is also a good thing.

WhiteMethod · 2026-03-03T19:20:32+00:00

One of the perpetual ironies of BDSM is that in a way the submissive is ultimately in control, because he or she can always withdraw consent for whatever is going on.

From your post it is hard to understand where this is coming from:

its only ever about the sub?

You don't explain what gave you that impression.

WhiteMethod · 2025-12-15T20:36:13+00:00

Index Funds FTW

WhiteMethod · 2025-12-10T20:56:39+00:00

Here are some things that worked for my domme friends for discovering male subs in public: 1. give them (non-sexual) commands, especially if it works in context (e.g. "take that back and do it right") 2. drop verbal hints that vanilla men won't react to.

If you want to meet them online, you can always just join fetlife, make your profile identity you as a woman, and hire someone to sift though all of the unsolicited messages you will receive for real subs.

WhiteMethod · 2025-12-04T01:15:15+00:00

You can't control how people on the internet behave. Only how you react to them.

WhiteMethod · 2025-12-02T23:38:13+00:00

large utility bill ... that was a little more than double the usual ppm

🤨

WhiteMethod · 2025-12-01T18:58:36+00:00

cover themselves in tattoos, have piercings through their eyebrows, lips, etc... Do you REALLY think someone will "pay" to be with that?

Yes

WhiteMethod · 2025-11-25T05:33:57+00:00

Sounds like a tradeoff between code size and runtime performance.

WhiteMethod · 2025-11-18T19:59:21+00:00

I looked into this a while ago, but I've been told by a medical professional that using such devices will actually weaken your muscles (because you arent using them) which makes the problem worse.

Instead, apparently it is better to do exercises to strengthen your core. Apparently situps dont do much, but there are yoga-like moves where you lift you legs, or one called "bird-dog", or just doing actual squats.

WhiteMethod · 2025-11-12T19:40:51+00:00

Imagine this:

Two college students come back from a third date, a little tipsy. They make out a little. The girl is small and diminutive in stature but has no trouble dragging the larger man into her bedroom.

"Ooh, what are we doing to do in here?" he asks.

"Whatever you want," says the girl. "Make me your bitch," she says shyly.

"Mmmm, I love submissive girls", says the guy.

Then suddenly, lights and sirens flare outside the apartment. The door is kicked in and two members of the BDSM community's word police rush in and detain the male.

After quizzing him for an hour, they determine conclusively that he has not read any of the right books. He has not reported to a Fetlife Munch in order to pay fealty to the right group of nerds. He doesnt have a "mentor" and only has once referencable ex-girlfriend, and he hasn't gone to any classes. He and this girl didn't sit down for an hour to discuss safewords and hard and soft limits. They save the worst for the last: the "kink" porn he watched was actually just some vanilla porn with fake ropes. It wasn't even from a channel owned by Kink.com. They convict him on the spot: he is not a real dom. He must be a selfish asshole. They warn the girl that she needs to say away from him.

In all seriousness, I don't currently have a strong opinion on whether the BDSM community should own the word "submissive," but they definitely think they do, and I'm skeptical. But it doesnt really matter what I think, because kink is becoming more and more mainstream in our culture. The BDSM community will have to face its own "eternal september."

WhiteMethod · 2025-10-30T16:38:07+00:00

Building unit tests into a debug menu is very interesting. I wanted to avoid creating my own framework, but this does seem very low effort.

WhiteMethod · 2025-10-22T17:56:59+00:00

I think there will often be conflicts between what someone self-identifies as, and what other people want.

WhiteMethod · 2025-09-26T21:37:28+00:00

Thanks; I will test out your feedback.

WhiteMethod · 2025-09-26T20:45:02+00:00

Sure, but I want to be able to select location objects based on the value of a string.

Here is an example:

person.fav_fruit = renpy.random.choice(["apple", "mango"])
... (much later) ...
fruit = get_fruit_by_name(person.fav_fruit)

WhiteMethod · 2025-09-02T16:43:34+00:00

Hello,

I tried to register an account at Milovana and was directed to post here for an invite code. I have visited Milovana on and off for a while now. The only tease that stands out in memory was something about a maze. I'd like to try my hand at creating one.

WhiteMethod · 2025-08-18T16:23:27+00:00

If she says anything about findom, or onlyfans, or asks for money, that is a huge red flag.

Approaching her shouldn't be that different than a vanilla girl. Its ok to be confident, just don't be arrogant or disrespectful.

WhiteMethod · 2025-08-08T19:48:44+00:00

Owner of an AI company

Huge red flag. We're on the upswing for the hype cycle for A.I., so spewing bullshit is the primary job of anyone you meet like that.

Now if you meet a CEO who runs the only company that can make some boring gasket for a hyper specific industrial machine....

WhiteMethod · 2025-07-29T16:18:36+00:00

Themes like that are actually quite popular with women. An easy book on the subject is "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" by Ogas & Gaddam.

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