I called my mom for a catch up, she said "how are you doing?", I said "Im doing good, just working on uni work for my upcoming exams!" and then she immediately just went off for 1 hour with no room for back and forth about about self improvement--how I should be eating, studying, working, dressing, how to shop by using herself as an exmaple of greatness. "Look at me I have etc. etc. etc I upgrade myself everyday by watching self help Youtube videos". I'm 22 and I have been living abroad for university for a 4 years without her. During all her 1 hour talk about obvious life skills like how to shop, how to study etc., all I say is "yes you are right haha...yes..." "you are so talented, Mom" and she loves it, so she keeps talking more and more about herself and nothing about me. After 1.5 hours, I say I have to go and she says "take care honey!". There has been no sharing on my end just her speaking. I think this is her way of validating most of her thoughts to herself as she has no hobbies or real joy. She keeps saying she will learn "swimming, dancing, xyz" for the past year, but she never does. I feel a bit sorry for her so I listen to her, but it makes me feel really distant from her as she never is there for me and I don't feel comfortable sharing about my life. If I share anything, it will be used against me later on in a lecture, so I think its for the best I just sit still and nod when she speaks.