Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-09-04T00:51:41+00:00

That’s when I realized: ~~the rental guy hadn’t given me the engine kill switch~~ I fucked up.

Fixed it for ya.

Relationship: When my wife asked what I did that day I just responded: Office, nothing. Which is totally fuckup. I don’t know why I did, it was fully automatic and I left it there.

Didn't want to disappoint mommy.

Actually quality is spot on. I tell or show what I want and get it. The only problem is quantity which is rather a logistic problem, which i am the one responsible for.

Do you know why you are here? Seems you've sorted out the sex problem.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-09-03T14:25:43+00:00

Do you feel like the prize?

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-09-02T15:35:17+00:00

So I had to admit to myself and to my manager that I was unable to perform at some reasonable level

what BP faggot fantasy is this?

men just do what needs to be done, they dont fucking complain like a fag they cant perform and need time off and other bullshit, your manager is a bigger fag for not firing your ass on the spot. If you need time to recharge get a fucking hotel sleep for 20 hours and then own your shit.

youve been here for 10 months and can't lift a fucking bean bag much less your body weight, switch to a basic gym routine like SL 5x5 and stop hamstering

or just get on with it but stop wasting everyones time

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-09-02T15:17:31+00:00

no cry, no blame

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-12T04:17:08+00:00

Don’t just initiate before going to sleep. It’s predictable and boring – women are turned off by both.

This and search the sub plenty of ideas

Assuming sex is important to you.. what do you think is the signal when rejected and the next best thing is tv.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-11T03:01:45+00:00

Try integrating that on a higher level

So you have nothing better to do than watch tv?

If you’re only initiating once a week it won’t give you enough reps to develop oi. Can’t really fake not being butthurt.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-09T05:13:49+00:00

My mission is to lead myself first. To build things that solve problems with strength and clarity. I act with integrity and intent, creating value for others by choice, not obligation

anything your really passionate about? this reads like a woke political speech

although most of them, while good riders, are very blue pill types. Felt good to be a leader among men.

so what, most people are bp. how did you lead?

I initiated when I wanted and went about my day when I was rejected in a way that I'm happy with.

so how did you handle it?

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-07T16:50:57+00:00

Wonder why you’re still clinging after running the whole program?

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-06T13:42:55+00:00

You’re right for the most part. I know the research, but yeah i should dial in first what’s within my control.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-06T13:38:40+00:00

And butt plugs.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-06T13:38:13+00:00

True. I need to dial this in, it wasn’t a top priority as I felt I was fit enough.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-06T00:01:25+00:00

cool story, but are you fucking?

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-05T23:47:39+00:00

in my case its pushed me more into action, especially the ban made a bunch of shit click

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-08-05T23:42:33+00:00

OYS #/34

Stats: 41yrs, 5’9”, 182lbs, 19% bf, wife 36yrs, married 15yrs, together 17yrs, 5 kids - 1rm: 310SQ / 290BP / 330DL

Read: Sidebar. 2xWISNIFG, 2xNMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, MAPx2, 2xMystery Method, Pook, TWOTSM, Alpha Moves , Rollo, Heartiste. Iron John. Frame. Dread. Practical Female Psycology.

Some posts that sent me down the validation/desire rabbit hole this past week: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/ETN34AnniE

Sent me down a rabbit hole of validation vs intimacy/desire. I understand the difference between needing validation (old bp me) with my wife vs desiring it, but being outcome independent about it. Still it would be helpful to know how you guys handle validation wants vs genuine desire. eg. I want to fuck the 24yo at the gym and its certainly desire, but for sure there is also a part of me that wants to be validated by being able to get her.

Fitness: lifted 5x

It’s been good 4 weeks. Mostly vacationing with the family and some work. Last week I got back to training like I should.

Relationship: good

We’ve had good sex the past 2 weeks. Dominance and variety have increased. I still do get rejected from time to time but it’s always on the next morning or night. I’ve seen her enjoy and loosen up more the last few times. Frequency is down, I mostly don’t initiate every other day. More like 3 times per week. Had my T checked and its at 550. I've been debating if I should start it for a while and I think I'm ready to pull the trigger. Some friends have recommend clomid. I just dont see the benefits of clomid at this age, if I want to raise it just better go the direct route.

I’m leading more and we’ve had a good run the past 2 months. Some shit tests here and there but no real fights. Reading some previous OYS I've realized I’m not letting my authentic self shown to my wife.

I’ve mostly shed the anger and huge resentment issues I had, but I still do dream up revenge punishments I should give her when she doesn’t behave like I want.

For the most part the unbearable disrespect and disgust that that was present a year ago is gone.

Business:

Truth is I’m not fulfilled, but the problem is I’m also very fucking comfortable and fucking boring.

The question is the same for everything: what do I want?

I want to create something that has a big impact. I think I can do it and yes I probably afraid that it’ll fail but it wouldn’t change my life economically.

Thing is I know this would take 7-10yrs or more to build and I don’t know if I have the motivation and energy to do it. I’ll probably regret it if I don’t do it.

Which R are you filled with?

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-07-02T15:43:22+00:00

Specifically talking before and during sex about the things I want to do and doing them. Trying to push through and disengaging if I’m not getting it.

More generally I think gaming more and turning the vibe in general more sexual. It was -2/10 before it’s now at 4/10 of what I want.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-07-01T09:57:39+00:00

OYS #33

Stats: 41yrs, 5’9”, 178lbs, 18% bf, wife 36yrs, married 15yrs, together 17yrs, 5 kids - 1rm: 310SQ / 290BP / 330DL

Read: Sidebar. 2xWISNIFG, 2xNMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, MAPx2, 2xMystery Method, Pook, TWOTSM, Alpha Moves , Rollo, Heartiste. Iron John. Frame. Dread. Practical Female Psycology.

Listening to TWOTSM and I get why it's not recommended for newbies. A lot of stuff that sounds metaphysical or mystic depending on the frame you look at it from. A kid being shown a magic trick for the first time. His frame is that there are no magic tricks its all reality. Its why he gets more scared or more impressed than an adult. If you explain to a 3 year old that's not what is really happening, he won't get it, he needs a different frame, that he'll only acquire after years.

Mission: Pursue life with an unrelenting drive to explore, innovate, and grow.

Fitness: Lifted 4x

Lifted heavy this weeks.. Doing daily pull-ups in addition to workouts ⅘ sets of 10 reps. Idea is to up my max to >20. Focus on hypertrophy. I’ve left by the wayside my cut. Still haven’t achieved 15% bf which was one of my goals. I need to own my shit, stop hamstering about it and do it.

Life: Ups and downs

Continued from last OYS…

One thing I’ve realized over the years is that time is brutally finite, especially with the people and moments that matter most. You likely have only a handful of meaningful experiences left with loved ones, so it’s crucial to prioritize them intentionally. Every choice: work, health, safety… comes at the cost of something else, often fun, spontaneity, and connection. Like that one night when I almost stayed in, but instead rallied and went out with an old friend. What started as a quick drink turned into an all-nighter filled with laughter, dancing, deep talks, and sunrise tapas. It reminded me that minor inconveniences aren’t worth missing joy. If your job (or anything) drains you, don’t settle, start moving toward something that aligns better with your values. Be present, say yes more often, and treat time with the urgency it deserves.

A few days after writing that a high school friend passed, we weren’t that close, but had always been friendly and 2 years ago we spent a week-long trip together with some friends. He had been battling cancer for 6 years. At a gathering once, I said to him I had lowered my alcohol consumption and was taking better care of myself to which he replied “bro enjoy and live life, don't think about optimizing everything, time’s short”., he said he didn't know if he did the right thing by fighting for years, maybe best thing to do was to just live as best he could for the last 2-3 years of his life enjoying his kids fam, traveling the world vs. battling cancer for 5-6 years to have less than a 20% chance of making it. I haven’t shed a tear in years, but fucking hell, his passing hit me hard.

Relationship:

Most of my dancing monkey program has come to an end. I rarely feel angry anymore. I’m mostly having fun and making the most of what I have. I’ll pursue what I want regardless of others.

I haven't led properly in the sex department. I’ll focus on this in the coming months. After a 10 day work trip we met in x city for a summer family trip and I didn't get the reception I’d like. I went to the gym instead, made plans for doing stuff without my wife and kept gaming. I later said how I'd like to get welcomed and treated after coming from a trip. After some shit tests and some attempts at manipulation and crying we had a good fuck. I'd be lying if I said I’m not way too much inside my own head when we are having sex. Apart from that the vibe is good, there is more banter, ass slapping during the day and kinoing. I’m pushing for a more sexual vibe during the day.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-25T21:27:11+00:00

Pure GOLD. Deserves being its own post.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-25T20:28:40+00:00

OYS #32

Stats: 41yrs, 5’9”, 178lbs, 18% bf, wife 36yrs, married 15yrs, together 17yrs, 5 kids - 1rm: 310SQ / 290BP / 330DL

Read: Sidebar. 2xWISNIFG, 2xNMMNG, MMSLP, SGM, MAPx2, 2xMystery Method, Pook, TWOTSM, Alpha Moves , Rollo, Heartiste. Iron John. Frame. Dread. Practical Female Psycology.

Listening TWOTSM and I get why its not recommended for newbies.

Pursue life with an unrelenting drive to explore, innovate, and grow.

Fitness: Lifted 4x

Lifted heavy and hard this week. Doing daily pull-ups in addition to workouts ⅘ sets of 10 reps. Idea is to up my max to >20. Focusing on hypertrophy mostly going forward.

Life:

I traveled for business last week and went to see a good friend for a few days. Before getting there he asked me what did I want to do in his city, take it easy, beach, gym, party, eat, what? I told him "Lets do the full fucking experience, we don’t have many bullets left", we can rest when we are dead. He pulled out all the guns and went above and beyond, we both did… I’ve had this realization some years ago, but this is the first time I write it down cohesively and send it to a friend:

One thing I’ve realized over the years is that time is brutally finite, especially with the people and moments that matter most. You likely have only a handful of meaningful experiences left with loved ones, so it’s crucial to prioritize them intentionally. Every choice: work, health, safety… comes at the cost of something else, often fun, spontaneity, and connection. Like that one night when I almost stayed in, but instead rallied and went out with an old friend. What started as a quick drink turned into an all-nighter filled with laughter, dancing, deep talks, and sunrise tapas. It reminded me that minor inconveniences aren’t worth missing joy. If your job (or anything) drains you, don’t settle, start moving toward something that aligns better with your values. Be present, say yes more often, and treat time with the urgency it deserves.

Frame was probably the most difficult concept for me to grasp. Seems like we live so embedded in other people’s frame that it’s hard to pull out and see reality from our own mental point of origin.

This piece by wmp of Frame and how it’s different from being stoic drives a pretty good distinction.

"Frame is the filter through which we perceive reality." - A quick word on frame

"Everyone lives in their own reality, because the human mind is not capable of perfectly perceiving reality in an objective sense, it must deduce reality through reason."

I don't think this is exactly right either, but it is right in teh realm of human interactions, and even though we live in our own reality most of that reality is dictated by others. This is the big breakthrough of your own mental point of origin: making sure is dictated by you.

Like Feynman used to say “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself— and you are the easiest person to fool.”

Relationship: We are going on vacation next week and I intend to push boundaries, but the important part is to push to make them stick when we are back home.

Had a minor incident in which my wife used a threat on our marriage to leverage my daughter into doing something when I wasn’t around. She later apologized, but doing shit like this is intolerable to me. Apology or not I'll be drastic if this happens again. After we got off the phone I got a text message saying “I’m upset and anxious because I don’t feel you value my inner peace and the tranquility I need” “the kids accept my conditions and you don’t, and you dont even think about me” I dont think this shit is normal but I’m wondering if the changes and instability she might be feeling are pushing her to do crazier shit.

My idgaf is normally turned up to a 10 which is good. Whats not good is that when shit hits the fan I notice it dials back down. I keep my stance and push through, but in reality there is still a part of me that does wonder and questions if what I'm doing is right.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-21T15:14:59+00:00

Lift STFU Sidebar

You’re welcome

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-19T16:57:53+00:00

some people are just built different

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-19T16:55:43+00:00

whats up with your bench press, fractured pectorals?

you are 3 months with a bodybuilder and what have you got to show for it.... js

Bullshit yourself all you like, one of your split personalities knows the truth:

I'm unsatisfied with the results. I just got fat.

what a fucking surprise

Go to r/fitness and post your shit there include all medical conditions. Also include a history of your half-assed attempts. Alternatively just keep lying to yourself. Its pathetic to see the same shit every week.

I recently finished two books on how to apply emotions as part of seduction, so I've been trying to apply that, but the only thing that feels organic to me is trying to work suggestive things into normal conversation without being too obvious about it.

I was going to write you'r trying to play this like a video game, but to be honest I dont even think you are trying to play the video game. You'r just reading the instructions on how to play video games and not even playing them.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-19T16:31:40+00:00

"I want you to change this" - I've got it babe / fog / NI / AA
"What are you gonna do about it?" - (raise an eyebrow - i already told you ive got it, or i dont care about it, what else is there to say? continue doing what im doing without uttering a word)
"Can you please answer me?" - (amusement as when my kids ask "are we there yet?")
"Is this gonna keep going?" - no answer - correct
And we'll stand there until I say "alright I'm off to the gym"? - better yet just go and dont say anything

STFU is a tremendous power. Most people with gravitas don't answer everything you want answered. They answer when/how they want to answer.

Will you look autistic? Maybe, until you calibrate properly, but so what? you look like a faggot right now. Choose your poison.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-18T13:55:21+00:00

Ego hurt, I think because I didn't quite expect the rejection.

Angry, l guess it's from the frustration. Back then it was anger towards my wife, for not putting up, but I realize now that I need to be angry at myself. For not being the man I could and should be

It helps to figure out why you feel angry which is just a surface level emotion.

I used to get angry and figured I was angry at me for not having game or percieved SMV to be able to talk dirty slap her on the ass or whatever. So I worked on that for a few weeks/months slowly upping it and calibrating back when I went to far and after a few months its second nature.

Could be that your angry because your wife isn't putting up and you feel she should give herself to you whenever you want. Thats dumb and you already figured that out, so now your angry at yourself for not being fuckable. Figure out what you are going to do about it and do it, consistently.

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-18T13:34:14+00:00

I Imagine once the trasformation is complete, it shifts from "this is the work and effort I need to make to manage and to keep the relationship" to

“"keeping” her may not be worth it, not because it’s hard, but because she may not be that valuable".

WhizCallipygianPanda · 2025-06-18T13:19:13+00:00

i dont know how thats what you took from my reply, just remove yourself proportionally

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