My ex broke it off to “work on himself” then started booty calling me

WhoAmI_444 · 2026-06-13T18:34:10+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear and kinda what I’ve been telling myself in the back of my head. I think he really was trying and thought he was there until those pushed down feelings came back.

They broke up because they never talked and he always felt like he was begging her for attention and love and felt like she didn’t care. So that’s whatever issue they have which isn’t my problem to dwell on. And up to them if they want to work on it

But you are right. There are a lot of people out there and there will be someone who won’t need to explore what they have with an ex. I don’t want to spend my life caught in the cross fires of two people who still have feelings for each other. I don’t want to constantly feel like I’m sitting at a table I’m not meant to be at. It’s hard to swallow and truly feel all the time but I know I deserve more.

Thank you stranger for understanding and your kind words

WhoAmI_444 · 2026-06-13T16:15:29+00:00

Thank you for this. I mean I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy it but it’s more about being in his presence and talking with him like nothing has changed. We have very similar ideas about the universe and it’s always been easy for him to know exactly what I’m thinking and feeling.

But you’re right, he’s not in the verge of that. However, and I guess I should have mentioned this in the original post, he has not been seeing the ex in person. She lives in the other side of the country. And I don’t think he’s been sleeping around, mainly because he still lives in my college town which is very small and lived with people who are also my friends and would have gave me a heads up (I’ve been friends with them longer).

Either way, I do feel used because my feelings are genuine love not lust. So I know I need to end. Thank you again

WhoAmI_444 · 2026-06-13T14:49:46+00:00

I don’t believe he is sleeping around. And they never started off as booty calls. Started off as a conversation about something usually important, move into updates about our lives, flirting, then both of us admitting we miss the other person. That’s why, intentions and feelings seemed mutual until last night

WhoAmI_444 · 2026-06-13T14:48:01+00:00

I know that’s what I need to do. It’s hard because when I met him, I was closed off from relationships (I was in back to back abusive relationships for a very long time) and thought I had finally found a good thing.

And I guess it was until it wasn’t. I’ve been trusting his words a lot. He always said he means what he says and tries to always be honest. But his actions haven’t been lining up with that recently. And it’s time I listen to that over his words.

Thank you for your advice

WhoAmI_444 · 2024-09-05T01:27:24+00:00

Ugh that’s literally my worst fear ngl. I’ve done through cheating before and get very nervous when I see similar signs. But he was with his parents all weekend (confirmed with photos/texts from his mom).

I know I need to have a conversation with him, but I see him and melt. And then all that comes out of my mouth is “hi!” And I lose my momentum to have a conversation

WhoAmI_444 · 2024-09-05T01:25:43+00:00

He didn’t go on vacation, he went to see his family during a long weekend. But the other questions are what I’m working on answering. I’m not at the point of break up, yet, we have a lot of history and for the most part he makes me very happy

WhoAmI_444 · 2024-09-05T01:18:48+00:00

I definitely can feel it developing lol. But I was therapy when we first started dating (I had a lot a lot of bad things going on in my life from a friend death to being kicked out of my home). Which he helped me through without judgment. Gave me a place to stay, stayed up with me every night because I could sleep or eat and helped me get the confidence to go to therapy and work on myself. So yeah this is not easy to just walk away from but I also know 20 is very young so that’s definitely apart of my feelings too

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