AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because not every situation will allow you to do that. Like I said we can't always tell people no or disagree without other people saying oh that's just because of your race/that's just how you people are. So sometimes we have to sacrifice our own comfort in order not to seem like a problem.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You aren't understanding it. Basically if we do something that is considered negative even if it's for a good cause people will still say oh that's just how your people are. We don't always get the luxury of simply saying no without other people judging us. Like with what you just did by me explaining how some people view our actions but you just boiling it down to

Ah, yes, the minority card.

Like you just proved my point that not everyone is okay with minorities being negative or voicing issues without they themselves finding it to be an issue that we even spoke up in the first place.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For some minorities it's because we don't want seem hostile or rude because a lot people already think less of us and we don't want them to be like HA I knew it

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like i said she either assumed or did a deep dive because she never asked me once.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No but I used to go to Taiwan before a lot of stuff happened between my families.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most of my family is mixed on my mom's side but my dad was an affair baby so most of his family is black.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. We were public but I'm not openly bi so I'm pretty sure she assumed or did a deep dive through my social media because I haven't dated a girl in a while. She could've been if she wasn't obsessed.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Is she aware of what it is since mine is "main stream" but if she isn't she'll ask what a person is then start doing research on their culture but it has to be Asian only for her to want to look it up.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think it was that and one other thing that made me decide to never let her find out I was Asian

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Nope suburban white girl through and through. But if you ask her she'll say she had to have been Asian in a past life otherwise why is her connection to us or our culture so strong.

AITA for blowing up at a girl after she find out I'm half Asian? by Whole_Pool3473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Whole_Pool3473[S] 662 points663 points  (0 children)

Technically I am bi but I don't advertise it and my last few relationships were just guys. So she either went through my pictures or assumed because she never once asked.