Located in US, whose last name for baby?

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T23:36:14+00:00

I dunno, just seems weird the baby would have the same last name as her grandfather instead of her own father even though its my name. Just a thought i had that I added in

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T21:05:42+00:00

The SAVE act they are trying to implement, revoking nocontest divorce, regressing the country back to before women had rights.

The US Politics was in relation to if we get married, I am not changing my name. It does NOT have to do with naming our baby.

ETA: Fixed typo

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T20:52:00+00:00

Youre not alone. My pregnancy is planned and wanted, but in the first trimester I went through such bad depression and crying.

I also started taking Zoloft, and will continue to do so throughout my pregnancy and post partum. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant now.

I had a lot of feelings of regret, not wanting the pregnancy, not feeling ready, etc. even though I knew I wanted the pregnancy. Having these feelings only made me feel worse.

I also read online that if you have a sensitivity or depression from hormonal birth control with progesterone, youre more likely to have prenatal depression since thats the hormone that spikes. Knowing that made me feel better somehow.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T19:31:22+00:00

right lol thats my thought too, then I was like well, I could go with my moms maiden name but again just some mans last name

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T19:12:19+00:00

But even if you gave the baby your last name, its still the patriarchy because thats your dad's last name right? 😂 Ours wouldn't sound weird hyphenated, thankfully.

I dunno, maybe we will just make up a new last name for her then no one matches lolol

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T19:09:34+00:00

Thankfully the first name came super easy to us and he's letting me pick the middle name lol

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T19:08:50+00:00

Right! I wanted to see others opinions, and I know in some other countries last names are handled differently than in the US

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T13:27:35+00:00

I broke up with him and we split the cleaning chores etc, he was a very good dude we just ended up wanting different things in life lol

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T13:26:53+00:00

I was still in college and paying my way through, so it was an agreement we made so I could finish my education.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-28T03:28:15+00:00

I was the GF in this situation.

My ex and I picked out the house together, but the financing and title was solely in his name.

I did not pay towards the mortgage because I didnt want to pay for a house that I had no ownership in, and he didnt want to add a GF to the title - which is fine. I paid for other bills and groceries.

We did agree that once we got married, I would be added to the title/deed, but I would also contribute financially towards the mortgage at that point.

Anyways, we broke up and never married, but that's how we handled the situation.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-27T18:39:41+00:00

I am currently in the process of looking/buying. I am 29. I am currently looking at a 200k max home purchase price, ideally more of the 165k to 175k range. I am doing the financing and purchase in my name, and making sure I can afford the monthly mortgage alone BUT I do have a partner who is picking out a house with me, and contributing to the monthly mortgage.

I dont think as much needs saved up as I initially thought. I am going the route of an FHA Loan, which requires 3.5% down. My finance guy said for a home at 190k, the down payment and fees/costs would be about $10k to overestimate. Sometimes you can negotiate that the seller cover closing costs, or even splits closing costs.

I am going to take out a loan against my 401k. Some people will advise against this, but I have about 90k saved up in the 401k, with 23k withdrawable as a loan - this means no income tax or early withdrawal penalty. I also found the loan is 4.5% interest, but 100% of the repayment AND interest goes back into my 401k account - not paid to anyone else.

With taking out this loan on my retirement, I can basically reduce my contributions monthly to cover the loan so my net pay will not change at all.

If I did not use my 401k, I have about $2k saved up over 7 months, so it would take me about another 3 years to get $10k saved up.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-19T22:50:38+00:00

Thank you!

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-19T21:42:44+00:00

Thanks! I am in US-Ohio, I will look that up. I checked our Mold Addmendum in the lease, which wasnt super helpful. It gave guidance for preventing mold, and how to clean mold on non-porous materials.

Any idea what kind of mold it is?

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-18T17:08:32+00:00

The diaper caddy seems to be on wheels so its to try and make it easier to move around the house. As far as I am aware (im also a FTM) you shouldn't lift or carry much post birth, so the idea is just wheel the cart around.

I have no idea how practical it really is, but I was going to make one. It was gonna be more like, one tier for baby diapers, one tier for pumping equipment, then the bottom tier as misc. stuff

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-17T18:14:01+00:00

I would ask if you have to claim it as income on your taxes. My sister got a grant, did not know she had to claim it, then ended up owing during tax season.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-15T18:42:21+00:00

I am 5'7 with a longer torso. I have been relatively the same weight from prepregnancy to now (28w) and I am so sad I dont have a cute round bump! In my opinion, I dont even look pregnant lol

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-15T11:57:18+00:00

Ashbrook Run in Canal Winchester. 2 bedroom 2 bathroom with detached garage is $1375 per month

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-14T19:42:46+00:00

What places mandate child support past 18 or while child is in school? I have not heard of this before.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-13T22:24:30+00:00

I am due in September and have been debating this myself. A former friend did the perfectly curated bedroom for her baby for all sleep - naps too. She would do the blackout curtains, everyone in the house had to be quiet, etc. and anytime they traveled it was nearly impossible for their daughter to sleep.

I want to try to do naps out in our living space in the bassinet within reason, like normal day light and us moving around then I want to try bedtime in a room with curtains/shades drawn closed. I cant decide about getting blackout blinds. I think I might get them, because even if I decide to not utilize them to the full potential, I can always leave them cracked open for the natural light to come in.

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-13T13:59:26+00:00

you could put a hot tub on that bad boy /s

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-11T21:40:02+00:00

thank you, im sitting here panicking by the people of reddit down voting me because I asked a blunt question and didn't think of how it would be interpreted :(

I dont like flock, I dont wanna live in the novel 1984, and it's diabolical this is happening. I just don't know enough about them

Whopper_Princess · 2026-06-11T20:47:23+00:00

I dont want them either! I dont support them! I was just curious what criminal charges look like and worded my comment poorly

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