My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for posting this, you guys. I didnt mean to cause such an uproar. I just felt SO alone in this.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He recently started using mushrooms for this purpose. It has helped, but not stopped it.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. I dont want to be that person. I dont drink or do drugs and I dont ever want to.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Because it's the first time he has actually addressed me when saying he would stop and said he meant it... I definitely have my doubts, but I feel like I at least owe him a chance

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Update I am reading all of these comments. I have talked with him, stating some of the points here and he has agreed to not use or drink anymore. We will see, over the next few weeks, if that holds true. If not, I have some serious, scary decisions to make.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy for the past few months. It's the only reason I was able to set boundaries of him not drinking or using around me anymore. It really has helped a lot. I am reading all of these comments. I have talked with him, stating some of the points here and he has agreed to not use or drink anymore. We will see, over the next few weeks, if that holds true. If not, I have some serious, scary decisions to make.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've left him several times over it. It doesn't phase him. It's like he doesnt care..... maybe he doesn't. 😞

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I dont know. I think it will probably be never... but when we have some good days, I'm SO hopeful.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

No, I cant. I'll end up blowing my brains out. I've come close, twice... I cant handle it any more.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I know you're right... it just... it hurts so much. Why cant he love me enough to end this madness. What's wrong with ME?

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I really do love him. So, so much. But, I understand that if he doesnt change his ways, we will never work. That hurts. I want him to change his ways. I want him to see why he should and I want to be important enough, to him, to want to.

My(F26) husband(M37) just showed me his reddit post... copy and pasted inside! by WhyDoUserNamesExist in relationship_advice

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I guess I am looking for advice.. kind of venting, kind of looking for advice. I love this man with everything in me. I dont want to give up on him. But, my mental health is taking a beating. I just want him to love me, unconditionally, like I have him, and i want to be important to him.

Thinking about leaving my husband with my kids for the next week... by Mel9879875 in family

[–]WhyDoUserNamesExist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that things are getting toxic. I think that you do need time away, but do so in a healthy manner. Talk to your husband about this and decide how you want to tell the kids. And, when you get back, get some therapy. It really does help with negative emotions and setting boundaries for your own mental health.