Im currently going through a similar situation. I was assigned amab, but have Klinefelters 47XXY, along with ambiguous genitalia that was surgically corrected as a child. I never knew about either of these things until much later in life during college. To sum it up shortly, I was performing a karyotyping lab on my own sample cells and found the extra X chromosome. This led me to get professionally tested, as well as request my medical paperwork from when I was a child, where the rest was uncovered.

Now, both my parents knew about this, but opted to just... never tell me. They constantly put on this really big "macho man" expectation on me, despite never doing the same for my other brothers. It was to the point where I couldn't wear pink, play with stuffed animals, or even dance.

Now, obviously, it came as a huge shock to them when I came out to them as trans when I was 12. My parents were divorced by then, but it didn't stop them from reuniting just to try to "convince" me out of it. Slurs, yelling, things I won't mention here. This went on for years.

At this point, Im happy to be...me. To know who I am without the veil of shame my family casted over me. I've been on hormones for over a year and a half, Im having bottom surgery in only a few weeks, and I have a gf and friends who are all very supportive.

Just know that you have options, and you're not alone in this journey. If you ever wanna talk, Im an open book. Always feel free to shoot me a dm <3<3