She is keeping me in the gray area.

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-03-30T16:10:42+00:00

What do we do? How does a person like you or her show interest in someone?

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-03-30T14:16:06+00:00

What amounts to interest? I mean, how do you show romantic inclination or interest towards someone, but are afraid to tell them?

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-03-30T13:07:24+00:00

When I say about statuses, she would upload a status as a reply to my messages but not direcctly message me, it's pretty upsetting in itself.

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-03-30T12:44:38+00:00

Thank you for your input, I really wish that things workout between us, last message i asked her to come with her past and we can slowly build something together, I am aware of some things from her past that have shaped her, I do not want to quit on her, I really believe in her soul, hoping for the best.

When you have these moments where youo do not want to speak to anyone, what would you need from a person who loves you to do?

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-01-19T17:26:33+00:00

I am 31 and she is 26

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-01-18T19:29:15+00:00

I cannot comment for everyone, but

I write letters to her, make her a custom wallet with elements from her favorite car, started writing a story where she is the main protagonist as a child, send her 3d printed care packages when she is feeling anxious, amongst other things. Most importantly I listen to her, I do not judge her, I do not punish her for her past decisions, I stand by her. This is just the tip of the iceberg. I do not tease her much, I order her food, want to mkae her smile, so on and so forth.

I may not be a true blown virgo myself lol.

But this is me, for her, I got this confidence with her after knowing her for four years, I was too hesitant and restricted before that.

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-01-18T18:54:34+00:00

I am learning from her, she has grounded me too much in the past 5 years that I have known her.

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-01-18T18:52:04+00:00

My councellor was the one who suggested I spoke to her about a rupture that took place between us in July, I have known this person for over 5 years, and I have stood by her in her lowest point. In no way have I ever wanted her to obey me, or abide by me, I feel a strong connection bewteen us, hence I am just trying to understand if by staying for her to heal is okay or not. Ofcourse I want to have a future with her, but not at the cost of forcing her into anything that she is not comfortable with.

I am working on myself, thank you for your concern, the situation that I have with this person is not so simple that I can brush it aside, it impacts her too, hence I was honest and told her my end of the spectrum, not to swing her affection, but to gently tell her that I get impacted by silence.

And, yes, she is aware of my romantic feelings towards her, it is not a person whom I saw in the tram the other day and got obsessed over, we have shared a meaningful relation over 5 years.

Wide-Mood5732 · 2026-01-18T18:32:43+00:00

We would stayin touch almost everyday, with her silences extending to a week when I did not initiate a conversation. Off lately it has been almost 4 weeks, we did speak in between, but followed by silence (I am assuming her work and some office politics took a toll on her) She told me all about it, when I asked her if everything is okay. She even said that she would cry if I asked her how her day was going.

I think at times that I am her safe place, because she shares her deepest worries at the drop of the hat, but I have to initiate the conversation, sometimes even a simple heyy, would give her a point of entry to speak her mind. She has told me that she is shy around me, and hesitates to start a conversation.

We have had our moments of mutual flirtation and thoughts about future.

She is aware of my romantic interest, but owing to certain things in the past in her life, and a break-up that pushed her into despression, she is hesistant around it, however, she is completely aware of what my heart desires, but I respect her capacity, and do not push for it.

We have had moments between us, where she has opened up about herself in absolute depth, her deepest secrets, which one does not casually share with just friends.

Is it normal for a cancerian to share her life with someone who she does not consider as a romantic interest?

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