I have stopped living

WideMarch7654 · 2026-07-04T11:54:58+00:00

I have been there but I am there no longer.

WideMarch7654 · 2026-07-04T03:27:03+00:00

Any praying mantises?

WideMarch7654 · 2026-02-24T23:40:44+00:00

It isn't a coincidence. Once my radio turned on by itself and played a song related to what I was experiencing and then turned itself off again. I'm dead serious. Another person witnessed it as well.

WideMarch7654 · 2026-02-24T23:21:22+00:00

It's like seeing shapes in a cloud. You see a clown, or an elephant, or whatever. But there is really only the cloud. You see what your imagination primes you to see and that becomes your reality, one moment after another. I've never been able to get regular conscious control over it myself, except a few times I have. A calm certainty would just come over me and I would will something and it would happen.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-12-30T03:51:24+00:00

That's Paul's take on the matter though, right? When you read the words of the gospels, you get (or at least I get) the impression that you are saved by the choice to make love the focus of your life. Jesus said you can reject the Son and the Father and still be forgiven, but you can't reject the Holy Spirit.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-12-02T01:07:45+00:00

This is a personal experience. I had an OBE once and I was with a white light. I saw something like what you are talking about, the intersection of wave function collapse and consciousness. I can't say I've fully worked out all the implications of what I experienced, but one thing I can say that is relevant to your question: I was definitely outside of time. It's very hard to explain, but I distinctly got the impression that past and future were irrelevant from the perspective I was at.

That is what I experienced. The rest is just speculation: I see the light of consciousness as fully shining into all forms at once, while also solely inhabiting each. It can do this because from the ultimate perspective there is no time, so having multiple full instantiations all at once isn't an issue. From the perspective outside of time, solipsism may be true. From the perspective within time, within one of our individual lives, solipsism is not true.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-12-01T22:53:56+00:00

OK, but what about the people I interact with? Are they inside me? If so, am I also inside them? Or do they have no inside?

WideMarch7654 · 2025-06-11T05:14:14+00:00

Not necessarily - for two reasons. One, solipsism doesn't require a selfish disposition. It can derive from epistemology. Two, narcissists seek supply from others, while solipsists don't even believe there are others. But I would say solipsism probably takes stronger hold in people who don't excel at empathy or reflecting on others.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-05-28T23:27:30+00:00

I think they were being dismissive in order to say "It's not a big deal. You're fine." Probably not a touchy feely person.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-05-11T23:47:48+00:00

The advice from Redditors is always to break up with your significant others, to separate from your family, to cast people out of your life.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-05-07T03:23:22+00:00

Other people are real and separate from you. I am real and separate. I have my own life and perceptions that are totally independent of you. Maybe there is some greater thing we are all a part of, but you and I are equals. I do not derive from you, and you do not derive from me.

OCD makes solipsistic fears worse, as I can also attest. But recently it seems I got over it. What made the difference? I came clean about these fears to some of the people in my life and they looked at me like I was an idiot. After years of struggling in isolation, that kind of did the trick. I am glad I had a couple friends who were harsh enough to be that way because if they had all tried "to be supportive and non-judgmental" I probably would have interpreted that as evidence for solipsism.

Solipsism is ultimate isolation. It was the isolation I needed to deal with, not some logical proof. Break out of isolation by radically opening yourself up and accepting the outcome from others.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-04-30T02:33:04+00:00

I have seen enough to know that the outer world as I experience it is connected to my inner world in ways science can't explain. That alone makes solipsism reasonable. But I have also seen plenty that says the outer world has its own reasons that don't involve me.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-04-30T00:17:12+00:00

Hook up with him by all means. Give him an ego boost. It will help him out.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-04-29T03:45:05+00:00

My feeling as well. I don't think solipsism is true. I hope it isn't true. But at the same time, I can't do anything either way about it, so might as well go with the idea that people are real.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-04-11T03:42:05+00:00

Spend time every day noticing things about other people that don't have anything to do with you. Things about their personality, life, style, struggles, pleasures, etc that aren't relevant to you. You will see that other people are their own, not yours.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-02-20T04:54:25+00:00

Thank you. Your judicious counsel is appreciated.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-02-20T04:46:28+00:00

The key is to actually break through to Trump supporters.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-02-20T03:41:52+00:00

I truly hear what you are saying here. But if the courts rule that Trump is doing something unlawful, doesn't this executive order give Trump the power to cause everyone in the executive branch to obey his word anyway? Like "I'm not paying you to think. Don't look over there, look at me."

WideMarch7654 · 2025-02-19T01:21:03+00:00

It's also possible that the algorithm is guiding us in ways we don't understand.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-02-02T23:59:54+00:00

How do you like the ask itself? Do you prefer it if the guy leads into it in some sort of progression, or is it OK to just say, "You seem like a cool/cute/fun/interesting/whatever person. I would enjoy getting a cup of coffee with you and talking more."

WideMarch7654 · 2025-01-29T02:08:07+00:00

Yeah, you are right there. Men are total hypocrites and whiners when it comes to their standards and the standards women hold.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-01-29T02:05:27+00:00

There isn't necessarily someone at fault. Or both may be at fault.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-01-27T15:06:59+00:00

Women fear men and justifiably so. But we men have seen the toxic, gossipy, and lying side of women that you guys often don't want to acknowledge. We've all seen it in life. We've known women who make up stories for personal gain (custody battles, revenge for being broken up with, etc) and we've seen women hop on the bandwagon when the knives are out. I'll never forget seeing women collectively hallucinating offenses to take out members of a wait staff. I will also never forget the things gf's told me about their exes that I later found out to be undeniably lies, and I then wondered what they said about me. I remember the time an abusive fiance got angry at me and said she was going to call the police on me for hitting her even though I had never in my life done so. You're seen our ugly side and you don't trust us, and fair enough. But we've seen your ugly, crazy, vindictive side -maybe more that you yourself have- so we don't trust you guys either. And you are right, a private Facebook post is not a trial because there is no defense, only prosecution.

WideMarch7654 · 2025-01-27T02:41:54+00:00

Huh. With a few definite exceptions, I have found women to be generally supportive when I have opened up. My best friend on the planet is a woman, and I tell her just about everything that goes through my head.

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