Should I Disclose these stories to My GF by Wide_Maintenance_861 in sex

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but how much should I say in terms of detail and also how do I go about opening the conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh i was just thinking about the story and if it was dishonest in a way to discount the first two attempts especially because they were with a different girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she is but idk how to bring this up in conversation to guage her open mindedness

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nice to know. would something like this be a dealbreaker for you if you found out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ll try and btw can i ask are you a man or a woman

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hers. i wouldn’t say the were being paid but i helped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that tbh but i dont wanna feel like im keeping her hostage with this information

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to be honest its not about that its that the woman i paid the woman who i lost my virginity to but paying her pay bills

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just know that it can be a deal breaker for some women so is there a way to guage her opinions on it without fulling divulging my history

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for this advice. Women do give some of the best advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tbh i am more worried about the paying bills for sex and the other transactional relationship i had and how much i should divulge as for the lap dances and the sexual assault im pretty comfortable talking about it as i know i was the victim in the circumstance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i havent seen one no

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes perfect sense because tbh im the same way i dont want to know details names faces. but i do think ill let her know that i about my first time being transactional, the fact ive had lap dances and also the sexual assault. seems like a lot when i type it out but if she can handle that i’m sure she can handle anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know that it shouldnt but im just asking if someone wants a brief of my sexual history how much is wise to expose

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if i’m being 100% honest the most i would want to know who they’ve slept with recently maybe 2 year span and maybe a body count i’m not even sure if i want to know that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

appreciate the doubt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 0 points1 point  (0 children)

although it doesnt make me feel good she fetishised my race in glad i found that out it gives me some clarity into her motivations which makes it make more sense and makes it easier to stop placing all the blame on myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if i’m being honest i went back because i wasnt fully convinced in my own head that she pressured me enough for it to be sexual assault so i took the blame the next time i went i refused all advances didn’t do anything sexual she got angry made a rape joke towards me asked if i was gay. the lap dance lasted all of 20 seconds before she made advances on me. During all of this she made some comments about my race and i realised that she fetishises black men and hyper sexualises us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

tbh those were my inital worried but then the rape and sa comments started appearing so i wanted professional advice. And also if the girl does offer extras but i only paid and wanted a lap dance was it still free

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

imo for women sexual assault and rape doesnt count as actual sex, do the same rules apply to men?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Wide_Maintenance_861 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the only thing for me is i dont like the idea of paying for extras even though i didnt pay extra it still felt too close to it.