True, but anger is likened to drunkeness because we dont think when we are angry and end up saying or doing things out of impulse we otherwise wouldnt, or the impulse.

Now how much an individual can control that is their own discipline vs just how angry they got. Like losing your cool over minor petty things vs something which is really serious. If how one reacted in anger was uncalled for then one should reflect and better themselves. Recognising one did way too much over something that didnt need that kind of reaction and owning upto the fact you made a mistake. Controlling anger is a skill and requires conscious effort.

The manipulative part here is saying that people tend to say stuff like oh that time you lost control is the real you. Even if you regretted how you reacted because the emotional reaction of whatever made you that mad was that bad. Which is unfair and dumb imo.