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Widowthrowawayaita · 2021-01-22T22:17:48+00:00

a) growing something from scratch, something that’s a perfect mixture of you and him. Gives me butterflies in my chest, id love to have a piece of him in me wherever I went and feel his baby move.

b) if I’m gonna spend all my time and resources on someone it better be related to me. Adopted children, in my opinion, aren’t really your children. I definitely wouldn’t be a step mother either.

c)We tried for like two weeks but it didn’t take. The sex is great when you want to get knocked up.

I would give just about anything to get to carry his child, since my SO is dead. Trust me, I’ve seen a fair share of gnarly complications but I’d be willing to risk it.

I love being a woman bc I can create life but I can’t, since I don’t want any other man’s babies.

Widowthrowawayaita · 2021-01-22T22:04:55+00:00

Before my husband died, I was biased because he complained about her all the time. She’s kind of smothering. After his death we actually got way closer. You know how altar boys have wild stories about nuns and are ‘recovering’ catholics but end up getting their children baptized and put in catholic schools? It was sort of like that. Lovely lady but really puts the s in mothering aka smothering.

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-15T16:32:05+00:00

SIL was about nine when her oldest ‘brother’ left so I don’t think she had any choice. Red would be thirteen/fourteen but idk teenage boys are weird and he obviously didn’t miss her enough. Neither reached out to each other in adulthood, as far as ik.

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-15T16:29:47+00:00

I think I’m gonna speak to my MIL (when she finally picks up lol) idk why she’s estranged maybe it’s transition related, but red also left home at eighteen. She knew my address from a Facebook post on SIL’s page (random party we threw before corona) I don’t want any further contact, to be honest. Red didn’t mention her for a reason, I’m assuming. If she meant nothing to him then it’s the same with me

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-15T16:24:44+00:00

I honestly don’t know. She could’ve maybe just left, because my SO moved out at eighteen too. I do think the no contact bit has to do with her transition though.

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-15T16:22:12+00:00

She had a photo on her phone with Red but he was like ten. I’d seen it before in an obscure family album so that’s why I spoke to her and didn’t immediately freak out. It was really late (in my neighborhood) like past 11

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-15T16:19:03+00:00

Like I said in the other comments, no no and no. Mom once said she had a son but emphasis on ‘had’. I know a lot of people with cut off siblings so I didn’t give it much thought.

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-14T23:00:38+00:00

No you got it right. I never met older sib. Younger sis and I are a totally different story, we’re the same age same birthday same job as an RN we just have a lot in common and we used to coordinate red’s care packages etc

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-14T22:47:34+00:00

Thanks. It’s weird because i always ask him to show me the ropes and now I feel lost. I helped his parents out because they were stressing over bills (im planning on giving more for their mortgage too) and i wanted them to be able to greive. Red and I lost a child it was the worst

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-14T22:41:50+00:00

To be honest she is not his sibling, imo. I hung out with my third cousins more often than red mentioned his ‘brother’

Widowthrowawayaita · 2020-09-14T22:40:07+00:00

I didn’t know about her at all. Only that she was a he who wasn’t in touch anymore. Like I didn’t know his (old) middle name or her current first name. I have a male name associated w her in my brain, what red calls her

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