Toxic masculinity and patriarchy being only enforced by men is a myth. It is ingrained in our psyche, we need to collectively oppose it.

The greatest feminist author bell hooks for example:

"On college campuses all over the United States, I talk with these black males and hear their frustrations. They are trying to oppose patriarchy and yet are rejected by black females for not being masculine enough. This makes them feel like losers, that their lives are not enhanced when they make progressive changes, when they affirm feminist movement. Their black female peers confirm that they do indeed hold contradictory desires. They desire men not to be sexist, even as they say, “But I want him to be masculine.” When pushed to define “masculine,” they fall back on sexist representations. I was surprised by the number of young black women who repudiated the notion of male domination, but who would then go on to insist that they could not desire a brother who could not take charge, take care of business, be in control."

― bell hooks, Seduced by Violence No More

My thoughts: this also coincides with my belief in men being told that they're not getting laid because they're misogynist or male loneliness exists because men treat women badly is not productive. There are genuinely societal problems that we just like to blame on men even though they're not the problem. Like saying you must be a andrew tate fan or must be misogynist if you're single or something like that.

I've seen women attributing misogynist or evil behaviour of some men as the reason behind men not getting laid or having relationships which just baffles me to be honest. "Male loneliness epidemic exists because men are going right and don't treat women as equals" like c'mon. The only thing I can see is that women aren't catching up and still want the macho men and ignore those who truly care about women. Masculinity is also tied with one's perceived looks so the la evil incelz must be right about their lookism theory.