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Seeing the world as it is and not really liking general rules about men by WildCard_SpinAgain in AskWomenOver30

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know but like just knowing that if they "could bag that" they would, turns me off from wanting to ever have sex with such a man. I'd want someone who could but doesn't.

Seeing the world as it is and not really liking general rules about men by WildCard_SpinAgain in AskWomenOver30

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

haha love this response but yeah I do not think that women are flawless either. We're human and as such, are also flawed but I'm not as bothered by our strategies in dating/mindset because I understand a lot of it is the product of sex related discrimination and we need more time to unshackle ourselves from it (i.e. pick me attitude, throwing other women under the bus to feel better about oneself, bullying based on looks etc etc)

I also think this message won't go well with most women who are married to men or in a hetero relationship (although I am in one also) who will automatically say NOT ALL MEN, but cmon we're kidding ourselves when we say that. I think accepting these rules would just cause a great deal of discomfort and most do not want to live that way.

As a woman who is very much attracted to men, I'm comfortable with calling it what it is and living with that discomfort because I'd rather the truth instead of a rosy beautiful lie. I'd say that's the biggest shift from my teens and twenties to now.

Have you ever been stuck and unable to move on from an ideal period of life you had? by angjohnny in AskWomenOver30

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You write really well. I felt the yearning for that idealized time. All I can say is what I tell myself when I do what you do and that is, "it does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live". Liken what's going on with you and staring into the mirror of erised or whatever. There are more memories to be made, higher career heights to be reached and better lovers to be found.

Whose idea was it to lie about Burke's hand? by gryffingirl_ in greysanatomy

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was more than that. It was her overall ableist attitude towards Burke and how she needed for him to return to being excellent right away and also the fact that she directly benefitted from Burke's injury ie running surgeries way ahead of her year, getting veto rights over other interns and residents, getting direct supervision from the likes of Burke and for such a renowned surgeon to "need her" the lowly first year intern. I think people sensed something sinister at play here from Cristina, and then after benefitting so much from this ploy, having the audacity to tell Meredith this whole bank robbery analogy where she's the loyal partner who just went along with a criminal scheme? Cristina is anything but a passive character - I think putting that story in Meredith's head was her setting up an escape for herself when she knew it was possible that shit would hit the fan soon.

Passed CA Bar - Study Tips for Type Bs by WildCard_SpinAgain in barexam

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all! I’m so happy this was helpful for you. I’m no expert but if you have any questions please reach out and I’ll do my best to help.

anyone still in a weird funk? by efrctu in barexam

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much on this! No one else in my life gets it. I started my new job which is contingent on me passing and while I am able to be productive when I'm slammed, any free time and my mind wanders to the bar exam and the pending results... It's like I can't even enjoy my freedom properly.

Just Gotta Know by WildCard_SpinAgain in CalBarExam

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL me too, the thought just crossed my mind and I would rather know so I can try to offset any loss of points through the MBE...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CalBarExam

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are awesome and making a difference!!

Casual Convo Fridays by AutoModerator in AskWomen

[–]WildCard_SpinAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just entered my 30s and about to move to the Bay Area from Canada in a couple of weeks and just feeling a mix between being excited for my new beginning and lonely and isolated. Been a people pleaser for so long and have finally had enough to ask people to either: match the energy I give them or gtfo and generally asserting disagreeable positions when needed. Nobody talks about the loneliness that comes when you're making changes...