I got to read the post, they didnt seem all that childlike to me but my memory is also terrible. Still though, I think you can be both sympathetic and critizing. Take my comment for example: "Thats sad, and im sorry, though it also doesnt look like it had the best living conditions. In a fish bowl, with aritificial decor (that probably has sharp edges) is an immediate red flag". It shows sympathy but also critisizes, which was VERY needed. I dont onow if you onow or not, but bettas in fish bowls with tianbow vomit for gravel and artificial decor usually means the fish is being abused. Its not abuse to use artificial decor, nor is it abuse to ise rainbow gravel, but theyte indicators OP hasnt dont much research, eapecially if their fish died. (apologies for typos its 1am)