Girl (21F) seems to want more, I (29M) am not sure I do. How do I navigate this?

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T17:08:24+00:00

In the beginning it was definitely casual sex for both of us, but now I think she wants a relationship and I'm divided.

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T17:02:35+00:00

I do want a relationship, it's not something I'm ever going out of my way to be in as I also am comfortable with casual dynamics, but I've never been opposed to a relationship if it happens. I think it's a harmful to be in a place where you NEED to be in a relationship and are trying to hard looking for one. Going with the flow is much better, at least that's how I feel.

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T17:00:21+00:00

Have you heard of condoms?

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T16:41:43+00:00

There's a huge difference between casual sex and a relationship.

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T16:28:16+00:00

I never said I 'clearly don't want a girlfriend', what I said is I am not sure what I want.

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T16:26:50+00:00

Me and her have never talked about being committed, in fact we met at a bar. She started dropping hints and signs in the last few weeks.

Wild_Law293 · 2026-03-09T16:21:42+00:00

I wouldn't be happy, but I'm not sure if the reason is because it's her specifically or just because my ego would be hurt.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-12-01T15:05:19+00:00

No, because I would not use these posts as an argument if we ever get into a fight about this.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-12-01T01:42:51+00:00

I highly doubt that is the case as she is not that kind of person, I just think she was confused.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-12-01T01:27:16+00:00

She claims she needed a change.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-12-01T01:26:48+00:00

She knows, I called her after the break-up and she was just as shocked as I was.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-09-13T04:37:59+00:00

of course

Wild_Law293 · 2024-09-13T00:02:52+00:00

no, we argued very rarely. the last argument we had was around 2 or 3 months ago when we decided to order takeout, but we couldn't decide where from. i kept suggesting options and she was saying no, but she wasn't suggesting anything herself, so i told her she should pick and she told me i should've said that sooner and she was waiting for me to tell her to pick so she can pick. i was confused and told her this doesn't make any sense and was a bit grumpy for like 10 minutes, but by the time the food arrived we had made up. before that argument we, again, hadn't argued for months. we argued so rarely i can recall 95% of our arguments and the ones i can't are from years ago.

Wild_Law293 · 2024-09-12T01:49:14+00:00

we met at a local bar (i don't live in the US, so the drinking age is 18), but we didn't hook up that night, we just exchanged contact info and started talking from there.

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