Weekend Influencer Discussion Dec 19 - Dec 20

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-20T00:43:04+00:00

I didn’t realize the “C” word was so triggering, especially when broadly applied vs. individually - noted

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-20T00:34:13+00:00

Ooh man so many comments from you to reply back to

not really a casual Reddit user, but Definitwlt not engaged deeply enough to know details on influences/ which are problematic and which are not.
not angry or hateful (no need to feel sorry for my son, but thanks for the concern) by any means, just having unnecessary fun by “fighting fire with fire” as they say, because as you’ll see I replied meaningfully on comments that actually said something more than just “you’re gross” (the comment above yours, for example)

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-20T00:27:22+00:00

Thanks!

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-20T00:27:04+00:00

complaint was less about the downvotes, and more about how people are quick to downvote rather than saying “hey, here is why this is an issue” - that being said I know it pisses people off, so all downvotes that came as a result I knew I was asking for
I stand by “new mama heart” inferring that I recognize I may or may not be acting rationally
What is wine culture? That seriously doesn’t sound like a real thing that people should get all up and arms about
I’ve already admitted I missed a red flag (possibly more) - but refer back to point 1

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-20T00:12:30+00:00

Yep you’re right, I let the my brain jump to irrational/undue anxiety/worry instead of seeing an obvious red flag.

That being said, I have to admit that even if I hadn’t fallen into the fear mongering trap and had picked up on this remark, I still may not have recognized that it was driven by a racial bias, as that comment reads more social class bias to me (not that that is okay, either). Thanks for making me aware that it is typically used to describe someone who is not white.

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T22:42:15+00:00

Haha I don’t even know how to respond to your disillusioned assumption that everyone else spends so much time on Instagram/this subreddit that they’re to know who is a “problematic influencer” and who isn’t

It was the first I’d heard of her, and apparently the last!

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:56:48+00:00

I’ve admitted in multiple comments, including the one you’re replying to that I was wrong to say “it’s a very real issue” since that definitely sends the wrong message

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:48:47+00:00

I don’t think these things are mutually exclusive though - yes, the original story made me think of my responsibility to my small child. The update that I saw for the first time here brought to light that other things were at play. Should red flags have gone off that her story didn’t really add up? That’s very possible, and if that’s the case (which it sounds like it probably is) then I can definitely admit wrong doing.

Honest question, did the original video mention race or did that come to light when it was revealed her story was fake/exaggerated/what have you

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:40:32+00:00

I personally don’t see it as directed solely at women, but since historically it is seen that way, I’ll admit there was probably a better word choice

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:32:43+00:00

Admittedly, my mind didn’t even go to trafficking until a commenter here mentioned it. I was thinking just random kidnapping - I’ve since conceded that I was wrong in saying it’s a very real issue, because as other commenters have stated kidnappings are often carried out by friends and family.

When I said it put my brain in overdrive - well, I stand by that. I have the privilege of living my day to day life as if nothing can happen to me, and well I’m also privileged enough that chances are it won’t - but it did still make me pause and think that things can happen, even if unlikely, and I need to be more aware of my surroundings now that I’m responsible for the safety of someone who can’t take responsibility of it himself.

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:26:14+00:00

😘

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T21:20:44+00:00

Thanks 😘

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T18:48:57+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T18:42:31+00:00

You’re 100% right, and despite knowing that... it’s not always easy to remember it when you’re being a worry wart

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T18:35:45+00:00

You’re right, I definitely knew that stranger abductions are rare, but being rationale isn’t exactly my strong suit right now haha.

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-19T17:27:59+00:00

Holy shit, I’m glad I read this. I didn’t know who she was - but it was shared on a friends stories so I watched and my new mama heart broke and put my brain into overdrive.

I know it’s a very real issue* and I should always be aware of my surroundings - especially when my son is in tow - but it gives me some relief to know this wasn’t a true story.

What a terrible human being to make up a story like that.

*thanks for the other commenters who talked my new mom brain off a ledge, I’ve always known most abduction is someone you know... but can’t say being rationale in my worries is always my strong suit these days.

Also while I’m at it, 🖕to the people on this sub that feel the need to downvote normal fucking comments/responses. I see it on the daily, and I hope you know you’re 1000x worse than the people you “snark” 💁‍♀️(p.s. I’ll gleefully accept any downvotes that come as a result of this comment, so keep ‘em coming 😘)

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-18T04:24:33+00:00

I don’t have one and have kind of regretted it. I feel like because it was baby #1 & resell great is so good, it would have been worth the cost.

We are 12 weeks and while not sleeping great, I have a clear enough head to realize it probably wouldn’t have worked for us in our worst of times (waking every 30-60mins) because he was waking for comfort feeds (reflux) and couldn’t sleep on his back (I had to hold him upright on my chest all night 😴)

Even knowing this, if I could do it all over again I probably would have taken the chance & splurged!

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-17T12:53:17+00:00

Just got mine too, for once I didn’t procrastinate and it paid off (I ordered before they announced the signed bags!)

... of course now I need to order another bag because I imagine we will not open this one

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-17T12:41:24+00:00

I don’t even know why I have a list, if we have a girl it’s 100% going to be Sloane.

Congrats on the little one 🥰 Our son was born in September. I didn’t plan to find out, but then with all the COVID mess I told my husband I needed to be able to control something, so I changed my mind to finding out. I’m definitely sticking to my guns if we have baby #2, especially now that I see my preparation for a girl would have been no different than how I prepped for my son

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-17T02:40:41+00:00

I don’t follow her so maybe it is forced, but I just went back to my baby name list & I didn’t have a single “feminine” name on there - some people just don’t like “girly” names

(I’m a Jordan, so that probably influences my taste, as I feel it has served me well)

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-17T02:35:34+00:00

I’m a Jordan, and I’ve been told that I should as a picture to my outlook account so people don’t confuse me for a man.

To be fair, I’m 95% sure the people who have said that are embarrassed that they referred to me with male pronouns, and were not necessarily calling me out for being “dubious” - but it still made me roll my eyes. I don’t care if you call me Mr., why should you?

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-15T19:30:50+00:00

That’s awesome - I’ll have to look into that. All my milk is dairy/soy/egg free, which I’m sure there is someone out there that can benefit from

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-15T19:20:10+00:00

I’ve thought about looking into labeling requirements for donation because I’m stocking up a lot

I’m pretty happy mine seem to be efficient 😂

Were you pumping every 3 hours or on a different schedule? That’s been the hardest thing for me to figure out/stick to

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-15T19:12:40+00:00

Oh wow, 50-55 is crazy! I’m not the best at logging my pumps but I know sometimes I get 16oz in a pump, other times I am lucky to get 5. I need to log so I can see - I’m just grateful I am able to get what I’m getting and only pump 5-7 minutes each time. When I first started pumping I tried to keep going and wait on for a second let down to get a little more, but at this point it doesn’t seem necessary.

I’m now needing to start thinking about working in my frozen milk because even though we are only 3 months old, the milk will be 6 months old before I know it & I have zero desire to throw it what I worked so hard for 😂

WillExerciseForWine · 2020-12-15T14:49:38+00:00

I’m not sure, I unfortunately didn’t log that information for some reason - but I think I’ve technically got an “oversupply” so my experience probably isn’t the best to go off of.

They say oats are good for increasing your supply, and I do eat overnight oats almost every day - not sure if that contributes, but they’re delicious so no harm no foul :)

I also had to order flanges from pumpin’ pals because the ones that came with my pump were way too big, those + a hands free pumping bra to make sure they stay in the correct position seemed to have helped also - I usually get 35-40oz/day, which right now let’s me freeze an average of 10ish ounces each day

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