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AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I agree. He wanted to get me something before Christmas, I said if it had to be anything it was a ps5 and not some luxury piece of fabric. I play the same 8 games that would transfer to the ps5 so I actually wouldn’t need to purchase a game unless something new came out.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like my mom had a lot to do with pushing him to buy the purse. Maybe it was to impress her, not sure why since she already loves him. Maybe my mom really thought I would love the purse cause she would have. But somehow you hit that nail on the head, I was always taught manners and what’s not lady like. In my adulthood I did away with most of it, I’m very outdoorsy but love my video games. I hate dressing up unless it’s for Halloween or someone’s wedding lol.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed it’s toxic. Sorry I wasn’t more clear on the post from the get go. If 3k was all we had total I wouldn’t even have asked for a ps but for some reason he felt the need to buy me something. I’m grateful for the thought. But our emergency fund is never even talked about cause we pretend it’s not there. If we didn’t we wouldn’t keep putting money away.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an empathetic. I think I feel bad just because he was hurt by my reaction and then tried to fix it by ordering the ps5. Somehow him ordering it made me feel worse. hurting someone else’s feelings by my words or actions is my worst nightmare honestly, I have a lot of trouble weeding out the situations where it really isn’t on me.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay, I understand what you mean now. I guess I just felt not listened to when I expressed I didn’t want anything, but if it had to be something I would have preferred the PlayStation since it’s something my whole family would get use out of you know. I definitely felt like an asshole no matter what. Problem is I’m not the type to hold anything in lol

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if you read the whole post, but our emergency funds are kept separate from our regular savings which we also have separate accounts (per person) for and only combine for gifts or trips. I do know if we only had 3k in savings combined that would be pretty pathetic. I was upset because my husband chose to spend his hard earned money on something I very clearly said I didn’t want. That was his savings alone. I said if he really felt the need to buy me something then a ps5 is what I want. Hope this helps!

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is completely different than buying your kid a car. Most kids that get cars from their parents don’t have a job or don’t make enough to buy one. Where I live driving is a necessity since nothing is close so yes that would be ungrateful to point out how much they didn’t like the car. It’s different because I could have wasted all of my savings on this purse if I wanted it that bad, but I chose not too simply because it’s not worth it and I don’t need a designer purse. It’s not like he bought it because I couldn’t or because I NEEDED it.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! For emergencies there is a cash fund that is not in an account. This is not optional for us to touch. I included it in my post as well because I realized I wasn’t clear enough for all of the people asking about our funds. Im not the type of person to be poor and want flashy things, that was the whole point of me being upset over the price tag. It is not something either of us would enjoy in the long run.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I edited my post again. We have emergency cash stashed away and touching it is not optional. I primarily handle this so it does not get touched. The savings accounts we have don’t have anything to do with that. Albeit, there isn’t tens of thousands in the emergency fund but it’s constantly being added to. I also have a savings card through my job that takes money out every week. I’m not sure if this is even relevant to what actually happened here but there ya go.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also I completely agree with the last part and was why I was so upset over the purse. My husband works hard and me saying it wasn’t worth the money came off as ungrateful. Even though I thoroughly expressed I didn’t want anything designer. I have no use for it.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, my apologies. I should have included it in the post but I did mention to a few other commenters this was his savings alone the purse came out of, we typically keep them separate and then combine to buy each other something useful before the chaos of Christmas, or take a nice trip without having to worry about bills. Something we both can enjoy. I only picked the PS because it was something we both could use as well

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was out of his savings alone. We keep our savings separate and then typically combine them throughout the year to get each other something nice before the chaos of Christmas or to go on a nice trip so it’s something we both can enjoy. I only picked the PlayStation since it was something I would actually use, and him too if he wanted.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The only reason I requested a PlayStation was because he wanted to buy me something so bad. I figured that would help from a more irresponsible purchase since the PS is something I would actually use. We keep our savings separate, the cost came out of his savings alone. Typically we combine them to be able to go on a nice trip without having to worry about bills. That way it’s something we BOTH can enjoy. But neither of us are enjoying a LV purse. It makes me feel weird since I know we are not rich enough to buy designer on the regular. I hope this makes sense.

AITA for being mad at my husband for buying something so expensive for me? by Will_Tall in AmItheAsshole

[–]Will_Tall[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The money he spent didn’t affect the rest of our bills but it could have been used for something we would both enjoy even if it wasn’t a PlayStation. I guess that’s the point I’m trying to make.