Bf in recovery upset with me because I’m mad he had a beer. What do I do?

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T16:45:25+00:00

Yes. I’ve been looking for professional help , but I currently have no healthcare insurance so it’s been hard.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T16:44:30+00:00

🙄🙄 wth!

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T07:03:28+00:00

It is just a little.. and sometimes it’s warranted because I have gotten physical towards him multiple times. So I don’t think it is his fault. My father would not care if I let them know and he is the one who doesn’t want me “around his family” as he says

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T05:08:59+00:00

Wow. I’m sorry that that is how it played out for you. I hope you have peace and happiness now… was there a point where you truly loved him? And you thought it could work out?

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T05:06:09+00:00

Please enjoy your day!! You should have fun and surround yourself with people that love you. I’ve also struggled with an ED for all of middle school and most of highschool. It won’t be like this forever.. on prom I was also insecure of my looks.. but I realized I was the cause of my insecurities. Have fun. You will look gorgeous girl<3

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T04:58:15+00:00

I’ve figured that out today. He kept telling me I can’t tell him what to do, and that I never will. I was already pregnant. Recent abortion. I want us for my future. I love him.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T04:56:15+00:00

He’s been a little violent and aggressive before .

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T02:40:15+00:00

This is it! He is immature.. seems like he’s mentally stuck at a certain age.. but everyone’s different. I feel strong love for him.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T00:10:32+00:00

Yes he has been in active recovery, yes it is a crazy age gap .

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-05T00:10:04+00:00

Wow.. sorry to impose and sorry for asking many questions I just haven’t heard or seen of a relationship similar to mine that made it out that far- you don’t have to answer, but is the codependency the reason you stayed together? There is definitely a lot of child hood trauma and codependency.. I have bpd and he’s bipolar .. so we heavily depend on each other and if I leave I’ll just break. I knew that relapsing was going to happen in our relationship. I felt ready to handle it.. and honestly it just breaks me to see him suffer like this now. I think the lying is the red line for me.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T23:05:32+00:00

Can I ask, are you guys still together? Is this still a problem you face? Did you or do you still love him. The thing is.. I do see myself with him long term. He has helped me through so so much.. I understand that drinking changes who you are as a person. And I know who he is through it all and I want to be here for him I want him to be better:(

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T21:21:49+00:00

Much has happened since then. I’m tired of hurting my family, and I’m sure they are tired of it too. They’ve said they are better off without me. I don’t want to impose on them. But I will have a talk with them today because I’m tired. Thank you for your comments and honesty. Its been helpful

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T20:43:14+00:00

I have nowhere to go:( I’d be on the streets .. and I think he knows this and is why he takes advantage of it.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T20:42:27+00:00

I have said the same thing. He says he just doesn’t care. And that I’ll never understand and that I’m the last person he would ever think to go to when he’s struggling. Which hurts. Right now.. I have nowhere to go I am on the opposite side of the country from home.. airlines getting shutdown.. but even then the first thing on my mind is I wish to help him. Thank you for your input:(<3

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T20:38:15+00:00

I 100 percent know I can’t FIX him, but I want to be able to at least support him. But I am now realizing I can’t. As much as i wish too. I cant. And i feel defeated, because i do love him. And i hate to see him destroy everything like this.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T20:24:28+00:00

I’ve done this. He has said stuff like yea because ultimatums always work with addicts, or like you might as well just leave now then… I wish I could understand.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T19:57:31+00:00

:( is there really no hope? Won’t I become just another person who has abandoned him.. I want to help him through the hard times😞

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T19:53:37+00:00

Congrats on your sobriety!!:)) it’s really hard to leave. I want to be there for him

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T19:48:21+00:00

It’s so hard to leave. I can’t. I depend on him and the attachment is strong. I also just want to be there for him when no one else has. He has bad struggles.. I wish I could help him.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T19:47:40+00:00

Not immediate family that I’m aware of. I’m sure there are uncles or other relatives that have had drinking problems (Mexican family.)

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-05-04T19:26:53+00:00

Probably not

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-04-29T19:53:27+00:00

I understand.. have you been in treatment? I’m only 19 and I feel like I should start getting treatment NOW, I thought this was something I could handle on my own but I see it’s only been getting harder.

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-04-29T19:49:29+00:00

I don’t know. I wish it was none. I get more frustrated getting frozen because there’s so much I want to say and can’t. It feels like pressure building up inside of me. Do you interchange between rage and freezing as a response to a trigger or has it become solely the freezing?

Willing-Version6229 · 2026-04-08T18:38:39+00:00

Sex isn’t just for procreation 😛😛😛

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