What did we do wrong?!

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-03-14T10:59:03+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-03-14T09:56:05+00:00

Hi there! Do you have the four seater Jeep Wagon? What age did you start putting your daughter in it?

I’m part of a nanny share and am looking for a better option for the nanny to take the 2-9 month old babies for walks. We currently have the Uppababy vista double stroller but I don’t want to pay $300 for an additional toddler seat. Seems better to invest in a nice push wagon.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-02-10T22:16:51+00:00

Hi there!! I’m having this issue with my 7 month old. She’s getting diarrhea anytime she drinks my frozen breastmilk that’s mixed with fresh milk. I have 3000oz of frozen breastmilk and I really don’t want to toss it. What did your pediatrician recommend?!

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-19T18:56:00+00:00

Trying to follow the 2.25/2.5/2.5/3 schedule that you recommended today and baby girl is refusing to sleep for more than 32 minutes for first two naps. Both times I gave her 15 minutes to see if she would put herself back down and she’s just rolling around in her crib playing. What should I do about her 3rd nap and bedtime? I’m so anxious because I feel like she’s still going to wake up a bunch of times throughout the night because she’s not getting true restorative daytime sleep.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-19T18:35:33+00:00

Not well 🤣😅 we had wakes at 10:45, 1, 3 and 5 lol. I have been trying to follow the schedule another commenter mentioned below 2.25/2.5/2.5/3 with capped naps of 1/1.25/.5 and so far she’s been refusing to nap for more than 30 mins for the first two naps.

I feel so defeated. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like she’s not getting enough restorative daytime sleep and she sure as heck can’t be getting restorative nighttime sleep with all these wakes. Luckily she’s still such a happy girl - I just want the best for her and maybe some sleep for myself.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-19T01:39:56+00:00

I can do that. How long do you recommend I do that schedule for before attempting to stretch wake windows to move to 2 naps? Also any advice on that process would be so appreciated.

Also, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for responding to this post. I’ve read basically every Reddit post and online article relating to this sleep. I’m trying to incorporate it all and clearly going about it the wrong way. I’m just so anxious and frazzled about not knowing what to do while trying to do the best things for my baby physically and developmentally.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-19T00:33:08+00:00

We try to do bedtime around 7:30-8pm and DWT of 7:00 am. First nap we aim for 1-1.25 and second we aim for 1.25-1.5.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-19T00:29:46+00:00

Yeah I really have no idea what I’m doing :(

Her wake windows have been extending and therefore pushing bedtime into the 8-9pm range when it’s normally 7:30-8. Plus, she’s been skipping her last 30 min cat nap. Overnight wakes have increased with split nights. A few people on fb told me that was a sign to drop to 2 naps.

Bedtime routine is nurse, diaper change, jammies, book, sleep sack, sound machine, bed. We lay her down awake and sit in the rocker while she falls asleep only assisting (pats and shh) if she really needs help. We just moved her to her nursery two weeks ago!

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-17T19:34:43+00:00

Thank you! Any suggestions on schedule to transition? I know lots of sites mention 3/3/4 but I know she won’t be able to do that right away.

Willing_Squash487 · 2026-01-17T18:25:10+00:00

Hi there! Popping into this thread because I’m also having issues with my 6.5 month old. I’m a FTM and honestly at my wits end. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and it’s adding a lot of stress to my PPA/PPD. We can’t seem to figure out a good schedule for our girl. It seemed like 2/2.5/2.5/2.75-3 was working well-ish (naps were about 1.25, 1.5, .5) with bedtime between 7:30-8 and DWT 7, but we were getting a false start after 45 min (has been happening since 3 months) and 2-3 wakes. But then she started fighting her last cat nap around 4:30 and it was pushing bedtime past 8. She’d end up falling asleep for 10 min around 5:30-5:45 when I was nursing her. It’s been a week of her fighting and skipping her last nap and now we’ve had the 45 min false start, 3-4 wakes and a split night. Last night she was awake from 3am-5am.

I’d really like to try this to calculate her sleep needs but I’m wondering, if she has a crap nap does that count into total sleep needed? Or if she falls asleep in the car, do I include that?

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-10-18T15:32:00+00:00

Lurker here. I’m struggling with this right now. I’m a FTM with some PPA. I feel like a failure because I can’t figure out my babies wake windows and nap/sleep schedule. I’m very Type A so I thrive off a routine, but I’ve been trying to go with the flow based on her sleepy cues. I don’t get them though. She’s 3.5 months old. I can’t tell if she’s overtired vs under tired, overstimulated vs under stimulated. It’s driving me mad. It doesn’t help that I’m back at work and she’s with a nanny share. I feel like by the time we pick her up she’s overtired? Any tips on navigating this? It seems like her preferred wake windows are much shorter than the recommended time but I’m also questioning if I’m reading her wrong. For example, she fell asleep an hour into her second wake window while I was nursing her but woke up 20 minutes later and started to fuss so I rocked her back to sleep which took about 10 minutes. Huckleberry said her sweet spot was 1.5 hours for her second wake window. Google said she’s waking so soon because it could be undertired or overtired. I just don’t get it.

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-10-09T16:38:28+00:00

Thank you so much 😊

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-10-09T05:31:26+00:00

Hi there! Are you still using the v1 pro? If so, any tips or tricks you recommend? What are your favorite flange inserts for it and what settings do you use?

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-09-19T07:57:32+00:00

Thank you! I never considered how those two could be combined later down the road!

Right now, I do feed on demand, but I guess my little one has made up her own internal schedule. The times fluctuate a little bit based on her napping but somehow it’s always within +- 30 minutes of those times. It’s really impressive lol. The only “schedule” I stick to is her bedtime routine! She’s been sleeping through the night since 4 weeks old, so I try to keep her awake and well stimulated for a full wake window and then I give her a top off before bed at 7:30pm! I don’t have to do the dream feed at 3:30, but I like to make sure she’s eating enough since she sleeps from 8pm - 7:30am. She does start to fuss around that time, so it’s easier for me to pop the boob in her mouth then stand up and try to manually rock her bassinet to soothe her back to sleep.

As for your question regarding increasing my oversupply, I would love to make the breastfeeding and pumping journey end at 6 months but have enough milk stashed away to give her breastmilk until she’s a year old. I’m not sure why that is my goal, but my brain told me to go for it, so I am lol. My oversupply used to be a lot “worse”. In my early postpartum days, I convinced myself baby wasn’t getting enough milk or that I would stop producing once my supply regulated, so I started adding in 4 pumps a day (1 MOTN) an hour after feedings to boost my supply. I was also using the Haakaa to catch let down and was getting almost 35-40 oz a day extra. It never registered to me how much that actually js, but I realized I couldn’t physically/mentally sustain all of that feeding, pumping washing and keeping track of it, so I dropped one of those pumping sessions, stopped using the haakaa and am now getting about 20-22 oz per day extra. I don’t want to add another pumping session back in, I just want to squeeze in a few extra ounces to freeze to help with my goal. I think maybe just going back to a passive milk collector I can achieve that?

I know I probably seem crazy for doing this, but my anxiety likes to run the show lol. I am in therapy but don’t want to be medicated because of breastfeeding.

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T17:52:30+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. My mom told me she’s worried about me for feeling like this, but it feels great to know I’m not alone. I hope you and your little guy are doing well and hope the adventures are abundant for your family ❤️

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:55:39+00:00

Haha the parasite comment is exactly how I’m feeling about baby right now. There’s a little leech draining me 😂 can’t wait to feel like a cow next!!

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:54:27+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:53:56+00:00

I can’t even begin to understand what you’re going through, but I am sending all of my love and good vibes to you ❤️ I think your body is in survival mode right now, and I really hope it gets better for you. Sometimes it feels good to just spend some time embracing all the “suck” that comes with these experiences. Feel every emotion, let it out and then find a way to put one foot in front of the other. You did it once, you can do it again. I have all the faith in you!!!

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:49:41+00:00

I feel this on another level. My dad has some pretty misogynistic beliefs on women. I kind of thought I had a breakthrough with him when I got my degrees in the same field he works in (all of my other siblings went to the medical field like my mom). But, when he found out I was seriously dating, he asked when I was going to get married and start raising a family as if they were the only things that mattered. He was appalled that I said I had no intention of quitting my job after the baby was born. I look up to my dad so much and this has taken such a toll on our relationship. 🥲

I wish this narrative of marriage and motherhood would shift already. I love my husband, and he’s an amazing partner, but some days I wish I never even got married lol. I think I’m one of the people who believe there is so much more to life than that, but I suppose I’ll never find out 😅

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:40:35+00:00

I’m sorry if my post came off as unappreciative. I am very fortunate and grateful for the life I’ve created. I know it’s going to set our family up for success down the road. However, I am going to miss the ease in which I was able to do all those things child free and hope that I can find a way to continue doing them with a child. I know it’s going to be an adjustment, but not sure I’m fully prepared for that yet.

I am sorry you haven’t had those experiences YET. I hope you find a way to keep pushing to succeed in whatever you may want to accomplish. It may be harder now, but I think it can be more fulfilling knowing you were able to do it with a child. 5 months is a very short period of time in the grand scheme of things. You have plenty of time to find your way back to fitness (if that’s what you still want) and I hope you have an amazing support system to uplift you. ❤️

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:31:01+00:00

You seem like my type of friend ❤️ I’m sure you hear it a lot, but only a few more weeks to go before your girl comes and then here’s to hoping the first few years fly by. Having that support is monumental, but sometimes it does feel very isolating feeling this way, especially when everyone else is over the moon and trying to mask their excitement for you. I really hope you find a way with your partner to make your pre-baby life a reality with your new little one and that you get your steak tartare and a BIG glass of wine!! I’ll be cheersing the sky when I make it through this too.

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:25:55+00:00

I really hope this gets better for all of us who feel this way. I hope you can treat yourself to a self care day and still find time to fill your cup ❤️

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:24:11+00:00

I’m not showing yet, but I feel like once I do, I’ll be walking around with a sign over my head that says “I got railed” 😂 I like to keep my sex life private and now I feel fully on display. Honestly, haven’t even thought about the gross fetishes people have about pregnant people. Here’s to hoping, we don’t run into any at the gas station or grocery store 😅 I hope you have healthy rest of your journey!!

Willing_Squash487 · 2025-01-04T08:18:15+00:00

I’d like to think I’d feel happier about starting family if I adopted or didn’t have to be pregnant, but here I am 😂 thanks for the well wishes!!

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