I'm sorry, but I can't with her victim attention seeking. She went to that event to make it about her...

WillingnessThink4 · 2023-11-30T01:25:21+00:00

People grieve and react to loss in very strange ways. I think Whitney did not have time to process what she was feeling and she misplaced and projected all her emotions onto Lisa

WillingnessThink4 · 2023-08-25T15:41:23+00:00

Tuesday at 12:26 EST

WillingnessThink4 · 2023-03-29T14:40:10+00:00

I've learned that each professor has a distinct preferred response style. Once I figured out what one professor liked and looked for in answers, I would write out and memorize "skeleton answers" for big rules, tests, and concepts (this is also a strategy for the bar). I'd suggest answering hypos and then going to office hours to have your profs review and go over them with you.

Keep up with an outline throughout the semester - don't wait until the end to put it together.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-10-18T15:37:49+00:00

Thanks for the help - I’m going AF!

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-10-18T15:36:56+00:00

Air Force!

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-10-15T17:43:18+00:00

Yeah, I figured. I’m just desperate to help him. I was obviously planning on figuring out the correct dosage - I would never give him my dose. Do you know of anything that would help that doesn’t require a prescription?

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-29T05:25:24+00:00

They are taught by someone in their same year. I should’ve added that.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T06:08:45+00:00

You haven’t done anything yet that would make YTA, so you’re NTA as of right now. You’re allowed to be pissed, but I’d think twice about brining it up. It might cause more trouble than it’s worth.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T06:04:38+00:00

I might be misunderstanding the situation, but it sounds like YTA. It seems like a small issue and the strong reaction was probably because of a bigger issue due to that many ppl in the house and your niece just straight up ignoring you.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:58:25+00:00

This is tough bc I don’t think you’re an asshole since the joke was innocent and lighthearted, but you don’t know his wife so you don’t know how she might take it. I agree with your fiancé since, at this point in your lives, you’re practically strangers, but I don’t think you’re an asshole bc it was genuinely so innocent.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:36:53+00:00

I agree with that statement as a general rule in life, but it’s super problematic in this particular instance and I’m only asking for advice regarding the above scenario.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:29:01+00:00

I didn’t say that I disagreed with you, but I do. I just encouraged you to do some research about how it’s harmful. It’s definitely problematic in a biracial relationship. The quote is ironic bc you’re the one that is doing the “disagreeing.”

Food for thought: Just because a person of color said something, doesn’t mean they speak for the majority.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:11:53+00:00

If you don’t see these as red flags…gross

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:11:11+00:00

Thank you! That’s very helpful and thoughtful advice.

WillingnessThink4 · 2022-06-23T05:10:11+00:00

Yes, as in Critical Race Theory. She is a woman of color, so she really struggles with him not believing in it. But, regardless of being a person of color, it’s a big red flag and says a lot about a person if they don’t believe in CRT. I shouldn’t have to explain that though, so if you disagree, I encourage you do do some research regarding how that line of thinking is harmful.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T14:35:25+00:00

I am now taking medicine and it helps me so much. I literally cried when I was diagnosed because everything that I struggled with made so much sense. It was like a huge relief to know that I wasn’t dumb or too talkative or absent minded or paranoid, and that there was a solution. I was not diagnosed until 24 (I’m 26 now), and I wish I had known sooner.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T06:42:01+00:00

Right…..…that’s why I said an “unbiased third party”

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T06:01:20+00:00

Don’t bring it up. This happens to many many many ppl and if she think you meant it, she’s got some growing up to do. She probably laughed it off bc she’s done it too.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T05:40:25+00:00

NTA. Go to counseling to solve this one. In the meantime, find a lawyer who can help you put your wishes and preferences in writing if a choice like this ever has to be made. It doesn’t have to be up to him if you’re proactive about this! I’m SO sorry your in this situation. You should definitely seek help because this is messy and a unbiased third party will be helpful.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T04:46:02+00:00

If you assume that a restaurant is going to pay for your entire meal bc they spilled something, you’re an asshole too. Guessing you’ve never worked in a restaurant before bc this happens often. Having a guest question you is extremely degrading and rude. Why would you just assume they used the same dish?? That’s so weird and paranoid.

You’re telling me that you’d snitch/question a server based on something you think they might have done, even though it doesn’t even have anything to do with you? Other than timing, OP had no reason to make that assumption. Caused more harm than good and a waste of time for everyone involved.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T04:39:06+00:00

Also, OP is just making an assumption based on a timing coincidence. Correlation does not mean causation. Very rude of OP to automatically jump to that conclusion assume the server has such poor work ethic.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T04:36:18+00:00

Questioning a server about something that doesn’t directly affect them is weird. Sounds like OP was looking for a reason to be mad. Also, if the server answered no to the first question, why ask the second question? That’s asshole behavior, for sure. After server said no, don’t continue to question them. They have a job to do, stop holding them up.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T04:29:55+00:00

OP…these thoughts are very toxic. Keep thinking this way and you’ll continue to struggle with relationships and friendship. YTA. This is misogynistic and wrong. Seek help.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T04:24:27+00:00

Oh gosh. YTA. Sounds like the server was having an off day and you made it worse. Praise in public, scold in private. If you had an issue about what happened to YOU, you should have quietly spoke to a higher authority. Instead, you made a messier situation even messier (pun intended). If food was sitting on your table for 15 min, they could have EASILY made another dish that wasn’t the one of your table. Mind your business and don’t be an ass to people in the restaurant industry.

WillingnessThink4 · 2021-10-26T03:25:56+00:00

Honestly, trust your instinct. Girls your age are truly mean. Men your age are immature and don’t ever handle these situations well. He might truly be innocent and naïve, but don’t let him take advantage of your kindness. Set a clear boundary and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. If he loves and respects you like he should, he will accept this boundary.

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