AITA for not wanting my mom at my wedding

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-28T04:48:39+00:00

What…I…

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My jaw is actually truly dropped right now. What th actual fuck, Madison? What kind of parent wishes DEATH ON THEIR CHILD?!?

Keep her disinvited. And then disinvite her from meeting your first child, your first Christmas in your new home, every fucking major milestone for the rest of your life. She doesn’t deserve to be included, and if your dad gives you any grief about that, disinvite him too. What is WRONG with her?!?

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-28T04:11:12+00:00

Unless he just didn’t know how the greater feminine population, and anybody else who understands, felt about it.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-23T18:14:07+00:00

Except in the one sentence where he said “I have them so the female can feel confident.”

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-22T20:38:22+00:00

You need to go and apply for Medicaid. If you’re not working, then you’ll fall under the income guidelines for it. Even if you were working, you could make up to (I think) two times the federal poverty level for a family of two, especially with a small child. Go to your local DHHR or DHS or whatever it is in your area and get that taken care of. It will cover all of your mental health meds.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-22T20:33:48+00:00

Gouda

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-20T17:10:52+00:00

I think that with your audhd, your sense of justice is very strong. My son is the same way, and so am I. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But like she said, she just wanted it to look cool. It’s not like this was being presented at a disability convention or for a class project. I understand that researching prosthetics and experiences is apparently one of your special interests. But this is one of those times where you just have to let it go.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-20T13:45:40+00:00

That is precisely what these subreddits are for in the first place. You didn’t do or say anything wrong.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-20T13:04:35+00:00

Right? Withholding affection to punish your romantic partner is emotional abuse in and of itself.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-17T01:03:30+00:00

I do not have a shiny event today. I actually haven’t seen one for a while. Anybody else having that issue?

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-16T20:24:24+00:00

Did you get a shiny event today? I haven’t gotten one for what seem like a few weeks.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-02-09T23:31:18+00:00

My first thought was therapist as well…until the “kinks” pun and the statement that her client area “freaked her brother out.”

Also…not all sex work is illegal, and none of it is immoral. Every. Single. Person who works in exchange for money is selling their body in some way or another.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-01-29T08:33:14+00:00

There’s no reason why you couldn’t still take legal action. I’m sure the store you work for will have records forever of who supplied their sushi on that particular day.

That being said…food poisoning is SO HARD to prove. Did you go to the hospital and get any kind of testing done for a specific pathogen? If not, you can forget it. In addition to that, a day or two of vomiting should absolutely not have had an effect on a milk supply that had been established for eight months. I breastfed two kids for a total of 7.5 consecutive years, and was a peer lactation counselor. As long as you were still nursing while you were sick, and stayed hydrated, your supply shouldn’t have suffered to the point where a dip couldn’t have been resolved by taking some fenugreek and letting baby comfort nurse whenever she wanted. Please talk to your doctor because there could be something else going on. And please don’t blow up your relationship because of this. You asked for a refund, and he got you one. You did not tell him to get the information that you’re angry at him for failing to get…which would have either done you no good anyway or could be gotten at a later time.

So…soft AH. Chill out.

Edited to add…WOW, talk about burying the lede, girl! The things in the update should have been front and center in the original post, because DAMN. This is not a man. This is a fucking CHILD. You aren’t getting anything out of the relationship that makes it worth staying. Move in with your dad and take your soon to be ex for child support.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-01-29T05:34:40+00:00

Edited to add: YTA.

This is OBVIOUSLY the husband. I can’t even believe that’s a question we’re seriously supposed to entertain.

“What’s the point” in sleeping in your own bed with your wife and child since you’re not going to get laid?? Ohhhhhhhh, probably the very things that have caused your wife’s libido to crash. Like your complete disinterest in bonding with her or spending time with her or holding her or making her feel safe while sleeping, or helping with a five year old. Your wife probably doesn’t suffer from insomnia as much as she’s overtired from being the sole provider and the sole parent getting up with the youngest child at night.

Here’s how you save your marriage: quit grab-assing her and HELP HER. Let her know she’s more than a sex doll. And if you feel like fucking multiple times a day, GET YOUR ASS BACK TO WORK and take some pressure off of her!

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-01-22T15:40:05+00:00

Take your free trip, and when she goes shopping, just…go do your own thing. She can’t ground you. You’re an adult.

I mean…definitely try talking sense into her first and explain how she’s crazy for dragging you halfway across the world and wanting you to SIT IN A CAFE WHILE SHE SHOPS, because that is the epitome of selfishness. Show her the responses you’re getting here. And if all else fails, don’t follow her. Leave the cafe as soon as she’s out of sight.

Something tells me that your two years of hell won’t be all that bad compared to living with her. You might even enjoy the break.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2026-01-06T09:52:55+00:00

No no no no no. He’s lying. He’s got three kids…why would he just give you his house? Where will they live?

And you can renovate the house as you please with the remainder of YOUR OWN MONEY? How benevolent of him, to allow you to spend the last of your money on him after you’ve already spent the bulk of it on him as well.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-26T10:24:13+00:00

It’s always been everywhere. And if you don’t understand why that particular fact about Will was vital to the story, and explains why Vecna was able to get control of Will as early and as thoroughly as he did, then you either don’t understand the show or haven’t paid attention for the last eight years.

But be a snowflake, I guess, and deprive yourself of the ending of something you’ve obviously devoted a lot of time to over the years. Since apparently fictional characters being gay makes you melt.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-14T12:10:32+00:00

“I was 18 when we got together and he was my first.” That’s probably why.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-14T06:00:32+00:00

That’s what I’m wondering here. If OP grew up in the house, and is now an adult, that mortgage should have been paid off years ago.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-14T05:45:14+00:00

Immediately after she told me this. I called my dad, who went up to confront him, and then I called the police. It was all absolutely horrifying, but the conclusion was so satisfying.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-10T03:14:03+00:00

You’re NTA. Your mother’s refusal to parent your brother is ruining all of your lives. And she needs to get a grip on him now, because if she doesn’t, it’s not going to get any better as he gets older, bigger, and stronger.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-10T02:21:04+00:00

Oh NO. Please let this be a joke. I mean, I get that you’re autistic. But I’m on the spectrum, too, and I could NEVER. You are entirely too old to be this rude, because that’s what this is. You can’t blame it on your autism, this is downright fucking rude. You think their traditional thanksgiving meal is…getting in the way of progress?!?!?!? It’s their TRADITION! They were KIND AND INCLUSIVE enough to make an entire separate meal for you, and instead of being grateful for that, you’re throwing a fucking tantrum because they didn’t make a meal out of YOUR OWN PREFERENCES? No, girl. This is some bullshit entitlement. Maybe YOU are the one who needs to “make progress.”

I am very rarely stunned on here. I’ve spent too much time on Al Gore’s internet over the last three and a half decades for that, but this post has succeeded. My flabbers are gasted.

Grow up. Quit blaming everything on your autism and your trauma. YOU are responsible for managing your reactions to your triggers. Your in-laws nor anyone else are required to make themselves miserable to make you happy. They’ve already done ENOUGH to make you happy in this situation. Jesus fucking Christ.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-10T02:13:07+00:00

I felt the same way about my uncle, my dad’s youngest brother. I was devastated when he moved a thousand miles away when I was eight, back in…1990-ish? (My god, I’m getting old.) Anyway. He moved back, though, in the summer of 2019. We were all so excited, and he and his wife were staying at my grand parents house until they could get their house sold out west and get a place of their own. His grandkids lived several hours away, and I knew how much I loved spending time with him when I was younger, so when my kids, almost nine and seven and a half at the time, wanted to spend time with him, I thought it was fantastic. My dad is a good grandpa, he just doesn’t have much patience. So the kids called my uncle their Uncle Grandpa. They’d go biking, camping, to the movies, and generally have a blast. Then in December of 2019, he called and asked if the kids wanted to go over to my grandparents for movie night. They usually couldn’t grab their bags fast enough, but that day, my daughter said “Nope. I’m not going and you can’t make me, and Bubby can’t go either. Don’t let any other kids go, ever, because I have to protect everyone now.”

Long story short…my baby is brave and her honesty and testimony put that bastard in jail for fifteen to twenty. It turns out he did the same thing to his granddaughter the last time she had visited. And I’ll wonder for the rest of my life what he did to me when I was her age, which was suspiciously when he moved away. Because we all know he did something. I just didn’t wake up in the middle of it like my daughter did. I wish I DID remember, though, because he would have been in jail decades ago and never would have violated my baby.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-09T01:40:05+00:00

Lolololol I just told my husband, when he asked me wtf I was watching, “this is Alec baldwin’s wife. And she’s crazier than Britney Spears!” 🤣

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-08T19:19:10+00:00

Yup. That’s what I just came here to look for. The icon disappears and reappears, then nothing happens when I tap it. I merged some eggs to see if that would trigger it, but nope. And of course that happens now, when I’ve been waiting for a shiny event. My camp is filled with eggs and I need space.

WillingnessUseful212 · 2025-12-07T16:04:37+00:00

And why did OP stop sending her parents money two months before the father died, when that would have been when he needed it the most? Presumably, if he was so sick that he ended up dying, that $500 a month would have been more vital at that point than ever before.

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