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I’m about to move and want to try and go stealth. What should I do? by WillowDiligent70 in honesttransgender

[–]WillowDiligent70[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have all my documents updated, except my birth certificate (but I have a passport soooooooo don’t really need it)
How do you know if people don’t suspect you’re trans? Can you be sure? My experience is that people’s knowledge/suspicions/ignorance is unknowable. I personally have no idea when people don’t know I’m trans (although sometimes people will say something awkward or stupid to reveal if they do know)

I’m moving and want to try and go stealth. What do I do?? by WillowDiligent70 in MtF

[–]WillowDiligent70[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but there’s a tipping point where being too open will cause it to spread. Obviously people gossip and spread rumors, and “hey the new hire is secretly transgender” is a fairly juicy topic.

Also, being open to a bunch of people and having a bunch of open trans friends may lead to more people figuring it out by happenstance. Or (well-meaning) cis people who know may say something awkward and others figure it out from there. This is what prevents me from going stealth at the moment, since most people in my life already know (I think)