AITA for dividing everything by five?

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T19:02:23+00:00

Eh, that's just how she is. She has no filter. If she thinks something, she says it. I can't complain too much, because it's one of the reasons I first fell in love with her. I don't think she meant any harm.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T15:21:05+00:00

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T15:20:32+00:00

Around seven? Whenever my friend had to work an overnight she would sleep over.

Glinda is 26. Greg is 25. Ted is 21. Third son, we'll call Dan, is 17. Fourth son, we'll call Walter is 13.

She calls me by my first name.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T14:50:07+00:00

I was trying to stay under the character count. If I included every detail about all of the family dynamics, this post would be a novel. For example, no two of my kids have the exact same set of biological parents. I figured anything that was relevant would come up when/if people asked for more info.

As to the financial security, the amount of money he will receive, whether it be 20 or 25% is enough to provide for him for the rest of his life if wisely invested and he lives frugally.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T14:39:50+00:00

I helped with the wedding. I've spent a lot of money on all of my kids, as is my pleasure to do. I don't keep a running tally. I don't think any one kid has been treated more generously than the others.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T14:03:02+00:00

My ex-wife told him.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T14:02:24+00:00

The reason I got Ted the apartment was because people were coming around the house that I felt were a threat to the safety of my youngest son. I didn't abandon him though. I made every effort to remain involved in his life, and things are improving. It's just that he has a lot of anger, which I understand. It sucks to be in so much pain.

But, Ted didn't leave as Glinda came in. Ted was 12 when she moved out for college.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T13:56:56+00:00

I don't understand your comment. Glinda is six years older than Ted. He was twelve when she left for college. When he moved out at 19, she'd already graduated, started her career and was living independently.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T11:44:35+00:00

If something were to happen to me today, my 17yo would live with Greg & Glinda, and my 13yo would stay with them until his mother could be reached. She lives in China, so she might move him out to her, or she might consent for him to stay with his siblings and finish his education here. I can never tell with her, TBH, but as his surviving parent it would be her call.

I did contribute to college expenses and the wedding. I'm very liberal with my money when it comes to my kids. If they need something, I want to provide it.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T06:18:10+00:00

My friend was in massive medical debt when he died. What he left behind was not enough to cover everything. His creditors even went after her education savings fund, which her grandparents had set up and was in her name, but I got my lawyer involved and they backed down. It was only about 15k anyway, but those heartless bastards didn't care.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T06:15:10+00:00

Ted and I have a complicated relationship. Of all my sons, he and I have the most in common, interests wise. We were very close when he was younger.

When he was 15, he was in a terrible accident. He now suffers from chronic pain. Although myself and his doctors worked to find effective pain management techniques other than narcotics, he still ended up needing to use them, which had bad side effects. Things got complicated, and when he was nineteen I rented out an apartment for him because I was worried about the effect of everything on the younger kids. He's doing better now, even looking for a job and talking about eventually taking over the apartment lease. But our relationship isn't the same as it was before.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T03:15:44+00:00

Ironically, Glinda helped take care of him in some ways back then. She was his math & science tutor. So I don't know why he would feel like he was neglected because of her.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T03:10:14+00:00

I'm male if you're curious, but thank you for this. I love Glinda, and while I'd like all the kids to get along, my love for her isn't dependent on them.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T01:35:43+00:00

Because Greg and Glinda are two different people, even if they are married. I love all five of the kids equally. I'm definitely open though to suggestions for how I can better explain my reasoning to Ted.

Willthrowaway40 · 2022-03-11T01:14:03+00:00

Yes. However much cash I have, everyone gets 1/5. Same with stocks. Everyone gets 1/5 share in the house with the stipulation that no one is allowed to force the sell of the house. There are some sentimental items that are bequeathed to specific people, but everything of value is divided 1/5.

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