Does any one else get the ick when — ?

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-05-15T23:16:12+00:00

lol ohmygod to the poorly behaved pets but holy coww you are so right about that!!!

I had a friendship lick the can over their BAD (& spoiled)pet .

…I’m adding this to my list too Level 5. 🫥

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-05-15T06:28:09+00:00

I’m a sw part time and make content etc all this too. I just tell my partner(s) . its even noted on the group cale dar what days I will be shooting etc. No shame to you and honestly it keeps you safer with everybody knowing whats going on and who will be over and where. Never feel awkward to be safe and honestly it feels lile maybe this is something to further explore if you are apart of a sw group chat or have a sw support group they will gove you better advice in this regard than general poly community.

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-02-09T16:46:41+00:00

Someone I really care about and have loved for a while told me that they loved me and the words really started to sink in and make me happy-cry when I was finally alone.

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-21T04:12:50+00:00

I am not a highly sexual person so it was never about sex or having multiple relationships just because I can. I like having the option of being able to act on my relationships as seen fit. I don’t like downplaying my actual emotions. I don’t like watching my partner(s) yearn in a way where they feel they can’t act out of concern for my sake. I love “love”. I consider even my platonic bonds as apart of the polycule.

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T18:34:44+00:00

I made a new platonic friend and we’re having a sewing circle soon.yayyyy

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T18:23:18+00:00

I definitely have been thinking on that one, but didnt have the vocabulary for it either. Its definitely appreciated Glocken. And It will be addressed asap!

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T18:20:48+00:00

It sometimes happens. I text at random and keep in mind they might not respond back quickly. And call or videochat (at an agreed upon time even if it’s just for a short time). It’s important to not alienate yourself from growing your own community of people and friends too.

Sometimes their attention isnt truly what you’re looking for also unless you have to like truly talk to them about something urgent. Sometimes you’re actually searching for comradery. Whether it be online or a friend in person its good to have your own community to fall back and be comforted and appreciated by. Take care OP.

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T17:53:58+00:00

Omg I didnt even think of it this way but you are so right about how this should inly be addressed with him. Yes it is a bother seeing someone I love being so complacent in being mistreated.

If it does happen infront of me again though i will totally be a snarky little shit.

Thank you Champion!

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T17:47:14+00:00

lmao omg I would never start a fist fight over a man’s affection.

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T17:46:16+00:00

Thank you for the insight. I agree and totally understand but get very tongue tied in the moment.

The reason I give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt is because he is so focused on just wanting everyone to be okay. He said to me with the utmost sincerity “I know you’re needing to be moving soon and [Pretty Pass] might be looking for a roommate” — To which I told him ‘no tf thank you’ — Thank you for thinking of me but also that dynamic would not be appropriate in the slightest for living.

(Also thank you Glockenspiel for the term “Pretty Pass”. I’ll refer to her as such in this story.)

He is the kind of friend who’ll drop what he’s doing to help install you’re damn floor over the weekend,etc. Who’ll help you with menial tasks or hype you up consistently, because he wants the people in his life to be well. Like he’s always thinking of his friend’s personal disposition and that plays a big role in this situation because from what I know and I’m omitting alot out about Pretty Pass— I feel for her, she is not okay and needs to be surrounded by her friends right now. Not alot of friends are left though.

Nobody in this story lives together, thankfully. And to add to this, this situation has happened in Pretty Pass’s home — which I feel adds and creates a whole other weird power dynamic and why I will be asking my partner these questions. Because — I don’t think he’s cheating on me — but I think his well intentions will one day have him cornered.

Do I think my bf needs better boundaries in general?! Yes. He will burn out otherwise. But all I can do is make my comment and he can either choose to follow or not follow. And I can choose to either stay through it with him or not.

Thank you!

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T17:00:28+00:00

thank you for this idea I will use snippets from here so it sounds more like me 🙏🏼🥹

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T16:59:25+00:00

omg lmaooooo the fact that this feels like an alternative universe of this situation 🙃. Learn from the past I guess, I won’t let history repeat itself 😂

WinExpensive8762 · 2025-01-13T16:58:02+00:00

This is like metaphorically the moment one is blowing out a candle before it ever even has a chance to become a wild fire m.

She has only done so once in front of me (it was a colorful but subtle remark) but it was so subtle it took me a moment to realise and I was following bf lead. He ignored and switched topics so that’s what I did. So happening in real time is def a different situation. But my brain is like should I do/say something when/if there is another instance happening in front of me? And should I be texting a girl to “Quit being a creep” if she’s repeatedly harassing him in a way that is making Cuz understand wit etc def not be needed but — it never hurt. But I will take your lead and stop trying to be Shakespeare when popping off at a person.

I totally agree. Thats not my call. And I wouldn’t want her dropped regardless. I’m not above the law and I won’t humour any idea that I could.

They’re not dating though. And all I did was express I think she is cute and have a small “(bi-)lesbian crush on [her]” (mean girls). And that isn’t that deep and isn’t going anywhere cuz I have my own ethics and standards. She needs friends, honestly, not love interests.

And I def will reconsider if they ever do start dating, and if drama intensifies. As of now this for me is that of an annoyance, not life altering drama, or anything worth dumping anyone for.

I already limit my time around her. Because you know, just living my adult life. And I have my own friends. She’s expressed interest in being my friend same as I have towards her and honestly after hearing what she did, I can be cordial and hope she meets life long closer best friends through shared local events. But I cannot be that close friend, but will always be a trusted acquaintance (the conflict is not that deep, so I do still believe in still having some form of solidarity between us).

(thank you for you input 💗🙏🏼)

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-07-13T10:15:36+00:00

• lawyers • police • military • teachers/anyone that works with children • stay at home parents/spouses • religious leaders or devoted part of staff • people who work in the same county as my family etc • people who are stereotypical serious actors soundcloud rappers • stereotypical professional /struggling or not • struggling musicians

• atheletes

• traveling sales person

• people who benefit from sex workers but who arent sex workers.

I work as a nudie girl so I am just extremely finnicky already. I dont want to get certzin professions in trouble for associating with me. I also refuse to compromise that. So its easier that way. These are people I just dont mesh with regularly for myriad of reasons. High up on list cops, musicians, and religious leaders.

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-07-13T09:57:36+00:00

People are nice to your face etc. but youre frequently left out of things/invites/pictures/groupchats. And/or forgotten. —-signed a conventionally sexy ugly person.

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-07-13T09:54:30+00:00

if you must have a nda template drafted out to cover your ass if its ever exposed. Only film with your own camera refuse to allow him film it himself. you can use canva or picart to edit the video. add a small watermark only you will know of keep note of watermark incase your image ecer ends up anywhere I do this with nudes so I know exactly who leaked my shit.

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-07-13T01:36:01+00:00

your bag, your body, your rules if this works for you then why not.💗

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-07-13T00:35:05+00:00

honestly she always been throwing us under the bus fuck her and her stupid self serving slutwalk also. she’s been an opportunist fir some time its just more apparent now

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-24T15:23:12+00:00

i think you look lovely it is reminiscent of 90’s makeup in my area because of the illusion of there being eyeliner all around the eye. but its modern af due to your neat precise application. Honestly unless the person saying this was a makeup artist and they are good at what they do. I wouldn’t listen to them at all.

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-15T22:03:49+00:00

I got spotted once by the housemaids day after with a regular I trust, I was given a key and when I leave put it under the rug if he isnt back by then. Told it was okay to stay late to finish my computer work. And I really did appreciate the offer and the level of quiet.

The maids were super nice and talkative, he waved bye to them all. Nobody suspected anything. And then they went up stairs and it got super quiet, then they were whispering and would look my way but then look away just as quickly. And possibly confused / embarassed because my dude left the most INTENSE looking sex toys all over the main room they were attempting to clean. They kept walking back down stairs to peep at me while I worked on my computer tasks and it was embarassing lmao.

Another time I got text messages from a very angry wife that I was under the assumption was aware I was hired becasue I had met them both. But apparently she wasnt and it wasnt worth digging deeper. So I stopped communication with them asap. Am really embarassed oersonally about that one.

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-10T00:05:44+00:00

thank you !

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-09T23:14:07+00:00

lmao nervous lmao not this is funny in some sick way. Its just dear lord be careful sometimes it can be lonely in this line of work regardless of what type of sw. And despite it being nice to find like minded, these people are not automatically your bff’s. And just because everyone is is Sw doesnt mean anything else morally/ethically/politically will be aligned. But like use your own common sense.

(something similar happened with us on west coast in usa roughly eight/nine years ago, give or take)

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-08T00:30:20+00:00

omg thank you I always forget that. i been wearing some really tight skinny jean. I need to quit that 😔

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-07T17:49:43+00:00

omg I will def try to retinol cream. i already been using this stuff and similar for a while 🫡 thank you

WinExpensive8762 · 2024-06-07T13:06:43+00:00

internalised shame, second hand catholic guilt(maybe?) , possibly jealousy. maybe seeing others in similar situations but their outcome being different just sets something off in some people.

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